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Guest Shaun.Olsen

Hi guys,

Well i got back the quote from my plastic surgeon and it turns out that for a bill of 10 grand after medicare rebates and stuff i will be out of pocket that much money... so sadly not in this lifetime will i have my surgical transition started... :( :( :(

Here is a question for you fellows....

I am donned with the biggest chest size i swear known to man... maybe not as big as dolly partons , but huge by any standard... in australia my "bra"size is 20 DD. they hang to my stomach and are huge pendulous and disgusting....

Do any of your fellows have any tips at all for how to make your own custom binder, or binding tips i can live with, with such a HUGE chest that i can wear everyday??? comfortably???

I soooo would love your help on this cause i have to do something that helps me be able to live with these aweful things since finances have sadly let me down..

Thanks in advance,

Shaun

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hmmm....well, i'm not sure about the binders, but maybe having surgery in another country??? there are someplaces that have very good, reputable surgeons but won't put you on food stamps.

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Guest Jack Solomon
hmmm....well, i'm not sure about the binders, but maybe having surgery in another country??? there are someplaces that have very good, reputable surgeons but won't put you on food stamps.

I agree with Drew. In the US and elsewhere there are several very reputable surgeons who have a flat rate (or at least a lower one) for top surgery (all sizes). If you can get together the money to fly to a different country you should still save considerable $$ and be able to find a surgeon who will do your surgery for much less than ten grand. Also, if you find a skilled, reputable surgeon elsewhere from the US you could possibly save more, they are out there and many offer recovery/recuperation packages which include your recovery expenses (accomadations post-op, food, hotel, etc) in the surgeon's flat fee. Don't give up, you may have to shop around a little but you should definately be able to eventually get top surgery. :)

Solomon

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One possibility,if you've got steady employment, is taking a surgical loan and working it off over time. Probably not the ideal option, but possible. That's what I'm thinking about doing for lower surgery after I graduate from school... I'd rather be working my *ss off because of debt than to be incomplete. That's just me and I'm still young and reckless :-)

MK

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Guest Shaun.Olsen
One possibility,if you've got steady employment, is taking a surgical loan and working it off over time. Probably not the ideal option, but possible. That's what I'm thinking about doing for lower surgery after I graduate from school... I'd rather be working my *ss off because of debt than to be incomplete. That's just me and I'm still young and reckless :-)

MK

Sadly in this country you cant get loans for surgery like that.... not that sort of amount....however i have decided to leave the surgery for a few years for when i am actually financially better off :). all good things come to those who wait :)

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I know you've probably heard this, Shaun, but one thing I might recommend in the mean time to help with your chest size is to lose some weight. I'm a heavy dude, too (luckily my chest takes after my dad's side and isn't that big, but my mom's and grandma's are) and live in a family that's got the 'fat gene'... all the women have huge chests like you describe. I've seen it when my mom loses a lot of weight, her bra size drops dramatically. That might help you bind a little better. Also, don't worry about being completely flat. People say that I bind really well, but I really don't. I just have a big gut that makes my chest look flat in comparison. Bigger guys realistically don't have flat chests.

Hope that helps a little.

-BC

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I know you've probably heard this, Shaun, but one thing I might recommend in the mean time to help with your chest size is to lose some weight. I'm a heavy dude, too (luckily my chest takes after my dad's side and isn't that big, but my mom's and grandma's are) and live in a family that's got the 'fat gene'... all the women have huge chests like you describe. I've seen it when my mom loses a lot of weight, her bra size drops dramatically. That might help you bind a little better. Also, don't worry about being completely flat. People say that I bind really well, but I really don't. I just have a big gut that makes my chest look flat in comparison. Bigger guys realistically don't have flat chests.

Hope that helps a little.

-BC

LOl ya i have noticed that since loosing 30 kgs off my bod due to T my boobs have shunk amazingly lots, lol i hear ya about the beer gut. lol with the beer gut anything can be hidden... lol i think i win the worlds biggest beer gut trophy lol but of course... im australian :P but thanks it has helped hugs

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