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Do I Pass?


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Hey.

A couple of months ago, I thought I passed easily. I got ‘mate’, ‘dude’ etc from people in the street or in shops quite alot. My confidence level at that time was alot higher then it is now, mainly because I no longer get ‘mate’ etc when I‘m outside. I’ve changed my look alot over those few months, trying to find myself.

I ask my mum on a daily basis if I pass, and she can’t tell me. I’ll always be her daughter. I ask people I know, which must drive them mad sometimes. They say I pass, but I just don’t see it anymore. I’m convinced I look like a girl, and spend hours just staring in the mirror hoping I’ll see what my friends claim to see.

Do I pass? If not, what can I do to change that?

Me-

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Thanks.

Nate.

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i think you could pass pretty easily. however, the scarf kind of had a feminizing effect in my opinion. i think without the scarf you would pass well...you actually look like a cis-guy i work with.

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Guest harvester52

I think you have the ability to pass very well. The scarf and the patterned shirt definitely don't help, though. I also think a more masculine haircut might do you good. Perhaps square off your sideburns (this works wonders for passing, I've found.) Go for less of the feathery/pixie look with your hair. A lot of women who have short hair cut it like that.

Just my advice.

-BC

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Do I pass? If not, what can I do to change that?

If your friends say you pass, then you probably do... a lot has to do with the way you just are and carry yourself. Although, I'd agree with the idea to loose the scarf. Men's hats and ballcaps also do wonders.

Other than that... T. Miracle drug of miracle drugs... guaranteed to make you look more boy-like.

MK

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Thanks for all the advice, it’s really appreciated.

The scarf is actually my sisters, I use it to hide the top of my binder on certain tops, so I will gladly give that back to her. I’m getting my hair cut shorter in a week, so hopefully that’ll help.

Nate

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Guest lorddillon

Yeah, you pass. Agree with the above comments RE the scarf and Hair (especially sideburns - dont make them pointy).

Also, if you have to wear a scarf to hide your binder with a shirt, find a different shirt to wear - ditch the scarf and any shirt you cant wear with a binder.

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Guest RootsRadicals

You totally pass. If I saw you on the street I'd think you were a guy straight up, no questions asked. Then I'd chase after you because I like your hair and the way you dress =]

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Thanks everyone.

I was trying to grow my hair out, to see if I passed with longer hair then I’m used to. But I’m guessing that wont help me. I’m not really bothered, I like shorter hair anyway.

As for my shirts, I can wear a white top underneath most of them and it looks fine, and hides my binder. So that’s good, I got really worried when people could see my binder.

RootsRadicals: Lol, thanks :)

Nate

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