An Androgyne's Question

[Guest Alexei]

I've always sort of leaned towards feminine, for an androgyne, i guess, so this question is sort of warranted...i want to be able to do this because it makes me feel more in touch with my feminine side, but whenever i try i wind up looking like my panties are in a knot.

Y'know the swishy thing girls do woth their hips? I wish i could do that. It's so cute! Swishy swishy swishy...it's hypnotic, almost, but since i'm male, for all intents and purposes, there are plenty of clauses in the social contract that allow for a brisk slap if i'm caught. All the girls i've asked give me somewhat helpful answers, but since it comes naturally to them they don't help much. I've expiremented with it myself, a lot of times in private but occaisionally short struts in public. The closest i can get is a kind of pivoting motion in my step that's counteracted and contrasted by me keeping my feet walking onenin front of the other, like on a tight-rope. A kind of spring in my step and slink in my knees evolves from this that makes my jean cuffs sing, but the pride subsides when i see a true girl with all that coordination going on in her lower abdomen; up, down, side to side, and still forward. Plus i can't really keep my eyes off my hips when i'm doing it, partly for criticism and partly out of admiration.

So does anybody have any tips or tutorials?

[JJ]

There are only two things I can say to help

First and most importantly-Don't try too hard. It looks unnatural at best if you do and at worst......just say really bad and leave it at that. let go and think of something like a soft breeze that just flows easily.

Second-Channel that inner girl and practice being her. The stride is shrter for one thing. That is perhaps the biggest difference. A shorter stride and keeping your arms almost still. When you don't swing your arms your hips naturally sway more just as they do with short strides. You see I had a boy's stride and walk at 12 and my mother made me practice for hours every day till she transformed it into a girl's walk. And one more tip. That old cliche balancing a book on your head while walking. It makes you move in a smooth womanly way. There is a reason girls were forced to do it for hundreds of years.

hope some of this is useful to you. Myself I'm enjoying letting all of that drop away forever.

[Guest Mikku]

Alexei

One suggestion that helped me.... DANCE.. DANCE ALOT.. lol I'm serious, too. I've had that kind of sway since i was young... idk it just comes to me but i find that its really noticeable when I'm hyper or giddy, and "dancy" if you dance a lot and you walk like you dance.. I'm sure it may help... ^^"

[Guest Alexei]

Alexei

One suggestion that helped me.... DANCE.. DANCE ALOT.. lol I'm serious, too. I've had that kind of sway since i was young... idk it just comes to me but i find that its really noticeable when I'm hyper or giddy, and "dancy" if you dance a lot and you walk like you dance.. I'm sure it may help... ^^"

Oooh, i might try that owo i do like to dance, but not around other people...i've been trying to get my paws on a DDR pad, but no luck there...

JJ, i tthink i did exactly what you told me not to do...i tried a bit to hard...i took a video and deleted it 'cause i looked like dork e.< i'm exceptionally good at balancing things on my head in the first place so i don't know if that'll help much...also, I keep mis-stepping, does anyone know of a way to lower my center of gravity?

[JJ]

Have you tried videoing your natural walk? If you are good at balancing things on your head you probably already have more hip sway than you realize because it's necessary in order to do that. It may be why when you try it looks like too much.

Mis-stepping how?

[Guest Alexei]

Mis-stepping how?

Well, like i said in the originak thread post, when i do this i tend to walk with my feet close together as if i were on a tight rope. Not directly one in front of the other, but fairly close together. Sometimes, though, i will put one foot more or less directly in front of the nother and i have to sidestep it a bit to continue my fluid stride.

[Guest]

Hi Alexei,

I think I found the secret, at least it feels right to me.

The lumbar spine is the key. Men's spines are rigid and straight. Stomach muscles taut, everything is like a rock from the waist up. Allow your lower back to relax and curve inward, and even try to make your tummy protrude a bit. When you do, your pelvis rocks backward, and it has to swing as you step. I find that my whole body has more rhythm when I walk - it's impossible to walk without swinging my arms too - really fun!

My old stiff back is hard to train, but it actually feels good to let it loosen up. I hope this works for you!

Love, Kat