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First Time Officially Passing In Public

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Guest Snow Angel

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I'm going to this Indian Festival thing soon, so I needed new shoes and nylons. I went to the department store today. I've been out dressed in public before, but it was only in the presence of friends whom I could hide behind. Today I went alone. I went in drag (Dressed As A Girl) and nobody said anything. I felt invisible as I floated over to the women's section. I was there as someone that belongs there, not as an intruder. (The intruder would be me in guy mode the first time I ever bought clothes... I felt so nervous and retreated from the women's section several times. But this time, I felt so calm and just browsed leisurely.) There were other women browsing and none of them looked at me or paid me attention. I was blending. It felt so freakin' liberating! Then I used my voice at the register and the transaction went fine. It felt great! Now I have new shoes and nylons for the Indian festival, acquired legitly. :P

Today was a great day and a big step for me. I can't believe I made it happen!

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That's so great. I'm really happy for you. You have come such a long way and should feel really proud with what you have achieved. xx

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Guest Viccy

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It is so liberating isn't it Snow Angel , I still get a little uneasy at times but then again it is so worth it , it just feels so good to be out and to be yourself.

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Snow Angel, dear. SUPER JOB!!! Now...get out there and do it again, this time try and focus on your task at hand, and not on the impressions are getting of you. You will never truly be 'in your element' until you are unaware of your gender identity. In other words, true women aren't aware they are women, they just are. Keep at it!

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Aeron

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Snow Angel, dear. SUPER JOB!!! Now...get out there and do it again, this time try and focus on your task at hand, and not on the impressions are getting of you. You will never truly be 'in your element' until you are unaware of your gender identity. In other words, true women aren't aware they are women, they just are. Keep at it!

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Aeron

That is supremely fantastic advice. I never thought of it like that. It really makes sense, though! Thank you. Also, thank you all for the encouraging words.

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I know what you are feeling. I remember the first time I went somewhere dressed and had to enteract with someone else. Having them treat me as the gender I was expressing, along with the correct fem pronouns, made me feel so great inside. I have now gone out dressed with my wife and even she was impressed on how well I blended in. One thing that everyone says and is true. Once you go out dressed, it becomes addictive. You will be read from time to time, but as long as that person treats you with respect and the gender you are presenting, then all you have to do is enjoy the outing.

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I'm going to this Indian Festival thing soon, so I needed new shoes and nylons. I went to the department store today. I've been out dressed in public before, but it was only in the presence of friends whom I could hide behind. Today I went alone. I went in drag (Dressed As A Girl) and nobody said anything. I felt invisible as I floated over to the women's section. I was there as someone that belongs there, not as an intruder. (The intruder would be me in guy mode the first time I ever bought clothes... I felt so nervous and retreated from the women's section several times. But this time, I felt so calm and just browsed leisurely.) There were other women browsing and none of them looked at me or paid me attention. I was blending. It felt so freakin' liberating! Then I used my voice at the register and the transaction went fine. It felt great! Now I have new shoes and nylons for the Indian festival, acquired legitly. :P

Today was a great day and a big step for me. I can't believe I made it happen!

Congradulations! I know what it's like, I just did that myself.

Wife and I were on vacation in a city 100 miles away - that way, no one knows me and if I crash and burn, it's not like I work in that city, right?

We chose a book store - Barnes and Nobles - and went for about half an hour. No wig, just my shoulder length hair. Casual dress outfit (3-button down polo, slacks, low heels) and a purse. We walked around the store and no one noticed! No giggles, no stares, no pointing, no questions, no second glances...nothing. Not even when we were standing in line to check out.

Granted, I felt like I was on display and I was scared out of my mind! But I'll gain more confidence in time, and with longer hair.

This is a HUGE step for anyone, whether you're MtF or FtM, you're putting yourself out there and risking public humiliation. Taking that step AT ALL is mammoth, and doing so successfully is ecstacy.

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As for going out always remember

1. Dress to blend in - This way you get noticed less

2. Act like you belong where you are at - Don't act nervious..dead givaway.

3. Act like you do this all you life.

4. Smile at anyone that stares or looks at you.

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