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Bathroom Experiences While Trying To Pass


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Guest jantonio

Ok, so this last week I was on a business trip in another state. Prior to the trip I went to a barber and he gave me a nice man haircut I believe is the flat top if I am not mistaken. So now that I am dressing like a guy plus this haircut alot of people think I am a man (good for me) until either they hear me talk or they see my chest. :mellow:

Anyway, while I was at the Miami airport I went to the ladies bathroom and as I was coming out, this woman just looked at me in horror. I think she thought "what is this man doing in the women's bathroom?". Of course I was smiling and giggling inside.

Of course during the trip I had a lot of "Sir....". :rolleyes:

Then, as I was coming back to Miami, I went again to the ladies bathroom at the airport and as I was washing my hands this woman yells. "SIR!!!". LOL :lol:

I turned towards her and I guess she saw my chest and said "Oh Sorry". LOL :lol:

I was all smiling and laughing inside. Woot! It just feels great to pass at least for some instances before going on "T". My gay male friend says to just use the men's bathroom, which I did a couple of times with him. But since my chest is still noticible I am not sure if I want to do that. I might get myself a binder, right now I am using a "Frog Bra". But I think a binder would be a little better.

Anyway, I wanted to share my bathroom experiences pre-T and see if you guys and ladies have some others to share.

Jose Antonio...

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Guest Sergei

I used to use male toilets even pre-T. There was no way I could use the ladies, I look way too masculine. I have quite a big chest, and I have never bound it. I just find it too hot and uncomfortable. Just try wearing baggy shirts and stuff like that. Lots of guys have man boobs anyway. I would use the guys toilet if I was you. You look to me like you pass really well, and your experiences last week prove it. x

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i agree with Segei, you look very masculine and would probably have very few problems in the men's room. guys don't tend to look at each other in public washrooms, and i've seen genetic guys who could have been a B or a C cup.

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Guest Viccy

Jantonio , you look handsome , just use the mens room you wont have any problems. I am glad you had such a good time on your trip

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Guest JoAnnDallas

Jantonio....... Go ahead and use the men's room. When I use the men's room at work, I always use the stall even if it is just to pee. You will find that men's room are no way as crowded as a women's room. I am a MtF CDer and when I am out dressed, I always use the Ladies Room when I need to go. I even had to wait in line once and no one said "swat" to me. I just went in, used a stall, did what I had to do, checked myself at the mirror, and left.

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Guest StrandedOutThere

Lookin' good! You pass very well pre-T. I'm jealous.

My therapist says that it's much easier to get by in the men's room when you are close to passing. I have noticed that women scrutinize everyone and men don't usually look. I'm in an awkward place myself. The other night I was out playing pool with one of my friends and got some dirty looks when I used the ladies room. It's kind of like I don't fit in with either restroom!

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Guest Sergei
The other night I was out playing pool with one of my friends and got some dirty looks when I used the ladies room. It's kind of like I don't fit in with either restroom!

Before I transitioned I stopped going out because I could never use the ladies toilet, and it hadn't occured to me to use the mens. I lost a lot of years of my life because of toilets. It all seems so silly now. lol Men really don't care.

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Guest jantonio

Thanks guys and ladies for the compliments. :)

I spoke with my therapyst today and he said that I am passable and that I should start using the men's bathroom. He said that in the men's room nobody looks at you, I should just go into the stall and should be no problem.

Jose Antonio...

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Guest CharlieRose
Anyway, while I was at the Miami airport I went to the ladies bathroom and as I was coming out, this woman just looked at me in horror. I think she thought "what is this man doing in the women's bathroom?". Of course I was smiling and giggling inside.

Of course during the trip I had a lot of "Sir....". :rolleyes:

Then, as I was coming back to Miami, I went again to the ladies bathroom at the airport and as I was washing my hands this woman yells. "SIR!!!". LOL :lol:

I turned towards her and I guess she saw my chest and said "Oh Sorry". LOL :lol:

I don't really have anything to share except that that made me laugh out loud. (And I would use guy's bathrooms if I wasn't so much of a chicken. My first time I'll probably need a male friend to accompany me. :P)

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Guest raydub

Jose.

Thats good stuff man. Grats on the passing and such. Much like Stranded.. im jealous. :lol:

i get maam'd and she'd and the women in the restroom even talk to you..which i think is weird.

id much rather in/out the men's room... good luck starting to do that.

And nice hair cut!

Ray

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Guest Evan_J

Excellent story, and an excellent photo as well.

A share story? Here's one and all participants were and are still pre-T.

It was several years ago now, not long before I got married (we're since divorced) and a friend of mine and myself were havin a "dudes night out" goin' to a baseball game. At a certain point we went to the restroom and not having ever discussed it went into the ladies. A woman who was already in there not only freaked out, she chased us both out, waved her friend over ala "back up", and simultaneously yelled for a security person.

We were both so stunned and caught off guard I think we did more "looking to the left and right" than anything and standing bulge eyed and dropped jawed while we got "reported".

Hilarious as the whole thing sounds now, I think at the time Iwas truely scared we were gonna get arrested or something but I think as the situation went along the guard figured out no rule technically had gotten broken.

And no matter WHAT the detractors say I would still rather pass that be "ma'am"-ed. Its as balm for the soul.

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Guest jantonio
Excellent story, and an excellent photo as well.

A share story? Here's one and all participants were and are still pre-T.

It was several years ago now, not long before I got married (we're since divorced) and a friend of mine and myself were havin a "dudes night out" goin' to a baseball game. At a certain point we went to the restroom and not having ever discussed it went into the ladies. A woman who was already in there not only freaked out, she chased us both out, waved her friend over ala "back up", and simultaneously yelled for a security person.

We were both so stunned and caught off guard I think we did more "looking to the left and right" than anything and standing bulge eyed and dropped jawed while we got "reported".

Hilarious as the whole thing sounds now, I think at the time Iwas truely scared we were gonna get arrested or something but I think as the situation went along the guard figured out no rule technically had gotten broken.

And no matter WHAT the detractors say I would still rather pass that be "ma'am"-ed. Its as balm for the soul.

That's a good one Evan... :D

Jose Antonio...

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Guest Rayne

There's no doubt that passing in the bathroom is the toughest test.

Cramped quarters, surrounded by the gender you're wanting to switch too, everyone gets a nice close up look...and if you're busted, you can be arrested.

It's the one place that worries me.

I've been told that to get through it, act like you belong there. Don't daudle. Go in, pick a stall, do your business and leave.

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Guest theEND

Wow that sucks :o I've found that in really gross public toilets people pay way less attention to me because they're just desperate to leave as soon as possible :lol: So I guess that almost makes up for how minging they are.

Oh and you look great btw B)

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To give you an idea of just how little men look at each other in the bathroom, I once accidentally went into the woman's bathroom at a movie theater. A movie just let out, so it was packed. I walked all the way in, just realizing my error when there were no urinals. I looked around, notice I was surrounded by ladies, said, "Ooops, excuse me ladies..." and walked over to the other bathroom.. Strange :P They were all just looking at me O_O

Besides, if we're peeing we're facing a wall :P If someone comes to pee next to us, we focus straight ahead. At least I do... I don't want to see any of his junk XD

So use the mens bathroom to your hearts content. I doubt anyone will notice, and if they do... they won't say anything :P Remember, if they do see you, it's either at the sink washing your hands or as you walk past them entering or leaving. Just quick glances.

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Guest Cody_T

lol Daru sounds like fun ;)

the one time I've used a guys' bathroom, I made sure to go when my friend was, so I could walk in with him so that it 'legitimized' it in my mind... I just walked in like I obviously belonged there (while simultanously developing tunnel vision lol) and got a stall really quick. I was kind of scared when I opened the door and saw a long line had formed, so everyone was looking at me, but I took the time to wash my hands and try to find a stocked paper towel dispenser (couldn't) because I knew if I bolted, it would just make everyone suspicious.

I think it's really helpful to have a friend, because it just sort of feels like if you're walking in with him, you have to be a guy... and confidence is key. If you're scared or acting like you've never seen urinals before, you're a lot easier to bust than someone who walks in like he knows exactly what he's doing, even if he's not a perfect pass.

I couldn't imagine using a female restroom when I'm passable or even just close, it's uncomfortable enough with the gigantic signs proclaiming "girl, look it's a girl, woo-hoo- lady coming through, she's a girl, nothing to see here- girl in girls' restroom" that pretty much rest on my chest when I'm not binding. Not to mention, it's true that girls notice so much more than guys do, so I think when in doubt, use the guys' room.

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Guest kris devereux

yep i used to do at all the time never could get the hang of womens bathrooms to save my arse, but at least there are some gender neutral bathrooms around here finally.

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