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I defiantely know I am TG (used as an umbrella term) and Ive gotten to a point where I accept my gender issues and have confidence in myself no matter how I express myself, but I am still kind of confused as to wut other category I can fit under. It just sort of helps me piece together my own personal identity better.

I am a 19 yr old male who prefers an androgynous body because it allows me to look like a girl or a boy whenever I want. I used to be strictly masculine and then I decided to slowly try more feminine things and now I have total confidence presenting myself as a female as well as a male. Ive heard that this would classify me as bi-gender, but I am not totally sure wut I am. I used to want to be a girl fulltime, now I dont. odd ey? lol I feel to be a boy for certain reasons, like for legal reasons and stuff... but gender wise, I feel to be a boy and a girl in style and personality. I usually try not to tie in physical sex with the idea of gender, but I guess I am a male who likes to express myself as both a girl and a boy.

Today I woke up and decided to not shave and be lazy and just dress like a boy and jsut acted boyish and stuff lol. yesterday I got up early and spent time on making myself look more like a girl and totally went into girly girl mode. It seems when I choose to dress like a girl, its usually for special occasions where I want to look nice or when I go to the mall... but I just dress like a boy around the house mostly and around family. so I just switch on and off and ive done it so long now that it doesnt even feel like i'm switching genders anymore. it feels mroe like i',m just switching my style for the different days.

I am nto really embarassed of it and so far people at school dont seem to care that I do this... but I would like a good categorization for who I am so I can help explain this to others better and so I can have a better idea of who I am.

also, maybe I am a transgenderist? I take hormones but I dotn have plans of living as a girl fulltime (atleast not right now) . I like being a boy lol... but I also like looking like a girl when I want to. so the hormones help with the androgynous looks.

as a boy I am quite feminine in body and I have to ruffle my hair and wear baggy clothes and talk like a boy to come across as one, that seems to be the normal me that peopel are used to,,, but now I dress like a girl so often and strive to come across as one that it is confusing my family and they dont even know how to classify me in terms of gender and stuff. to make thgins easy I just let them call me Matt and refer to me as he... but thigns get wierd if they di that when we go out and I'm in a dress or sumthing lol

I am pretty well at peace with myself with all this for now, just I am curious as to how others might classify me

heres a coupla pics to show my styles

girlish

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v322/men...se-june08/g.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v322/men...july4th08/b.jpg

boyish

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v322/men...mschool08/6.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v322/men...ay08/carfun.jpg

so yea, this is me. a gender rebel lol . oh and i am really tired right now, so sry if any of my sentences seem bad lol

thanks

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Guest Sergei

Wow, yeah you really pass well as both genders. I'm impressed. I wouldn't worry about catagories, although I do understand that explaining your behaviour to people who don't understand is difficult when you can't catagorise it. I think I would just class you as gender queer, or bi-gender like you said. x

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Guest Martin

Welcome to the board! You really pull off both looks well :) If you really want a category, I agree that either bi-gendered or genderqueer is probably going to fit the best.

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wow! you do pass really well as both genders. hey, there is nothing wrong with being bi-gendered, genderqueer etc.

and welcome to the forums :)

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Guest Keiichi-kun

Welcome to the forums and first off wow, you make a pretty girl and a good looking man. :lol:

Like you I feel both male and female (I am physically female) but unlike you I cannot pass as both <_< Anyways you certainly sound be-gendered to me slthough this might change in the future. Try not to think too much into it really. You look great as both male and female. :P

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Guest jantonio

You really do pass as both. I wouldn't worry too much about labels just be yourself that's all that counts.

Sounds to me like your bi-gender, gender queer.

Jose Antonio.. :)

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