How Much Time Of Hrt Before Necessarily Coming Out?

[Guest mak]

Well this is my question. How much time after you had started hrt did people start to suspect or realise whats going on with you?

I am a beginner and I ask because I am at a job that for certain reasons would be difficult for me to leave the next 2-2,5 years and I would probably have serious problem if I came out while still there.

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Well, Hon.....,

I was on HRT about 2 years before I officially came out ....I worked as "male" up to that point...

I know one trans lady that is in her 50's and is post-op 8 years and still works as a male...

It can be done.

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest Jo-Ann]

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Well, Hon.....,

I was on HRT about 2 years before I officially came out ....I worked as "male" up to that point...

I know one trans lady that is in her 50's and is post-op 8 years and still works as a male...

It can be done.

Huggs

Donna Jean

i have a question how is that possible if you have to be fulltime in order to go through with the surgery

[Guest Jenni_S]

Well this is my question. How much time after you had started hrt did people start to suspect or realise whats going on with you?

I am a beginner and I ask because I am at a job that for certain reasons would be difficult for me to leave the next 2-2,5 years and I would probably have serious problem if I came out while still there.

You always have the option of coming out and living full-time before HRT, too. Now that's probably not how you're looking to do it, but how you go about it is entirely up to you, and what you're comfortable with. If you're looking to satisfy the requirements of the SOC, those time frames all have to be completed, but they don't say which order they have to be begun! The important thing to remember is, have a plan, with an idea of where you'd like to be, or can be, depending on the circumstances, and when. Then you can fit in when to do what, when you're comfortable with it.

The tricky thing is, there's no way to know how much or how dramatically HRT will affect one's appearance until they do it. Literally, your mileage may vary! It's hard to decide, sometimes, when there's other circumstances to consider, especially when there's a big unknown like that. Trying to find that balance of what's best for you, and how to keep things going in life at the same time, is a difficult thing. If you already have a therapist, figuring out your plan would be a great thing to do together!

[Guest ~Brenda~]

HRT and coming out are two entirely different places. You do not have to have "come out" in order to be on HRT. You do not have to be on HRT and eventually "come out". Even having SRS does not mean that one has to "come out" if the dynamics are not right.

HRT and SRS are both tools to help one find and express themselves for completeness. Social dynamics are part of this expression, but do not necessarily have requirements like... if you have SRS than you must come out as a transsexual, or if you have HRT you must let everyone know that you are on HRT. These are all very personal choices and decisions.

Finding peace and comfort with yourself and with the world is what this is all about.

Love

Brenda

[Guest Lacey Lynne]

The important thing to remember is, have a plan, with an idea of where you'd like to be, or can be, depending on the circumstances, and when. Then you can fit in when to do what, when you're comfortable with it.

The tricky thing is, there's no way to know how much or how dramatically HRT will affect one's appearance until they do it. Literally, your mileage may vary! It's hard to decide, sometimes, when there's other circumstances to consider, especially when there's a big unknown like that. Trying to find that balance of what's best for you, and how to keep things going in life at the same time, is a difficult thing. If you already have a therapist, figuring out your plan would be a great thing to do together!

The people above gave you great advice. Agree with them all the way.

Dee Jay took 2 years on HRT, as mentioned above, but she worked out publicly. Since I work at home and have for about 15 years, The Big Hurdle (coming out at work) is not an issue for me. In a week, I'll be on HRT for 1 year and 5 months and plan to go fulltime soon. Planning it and doing it even now.

Remember, you will NOT see yourself accurately once you're on HRT. Why not? Because, you are your own worst critic. Heck, we all are to ourselves. Briefly, I didn't think HRT was doing jack squat for me ... until another T-girl much further along than me and my for-now wife pointed out otherwise. The acid test is being out in public. For months now, I've done androgyny and have been progressively amping it up. Well, when you get women half your age smiling and saying "Hi!" and NOT in a teasing or mocking way ... and when guys of all ages are checking you out regularly ... that's way telling you something. Maybe it's time to go fulltime. Well, these things are happening to me. Hmmm ...

Do you plan to have SRS/GRS? That's the big question. If so, then, yes, you have to do things in a certain order ... but not necessarily on any specific time table. Do your HRT. Monitor your own comfort level. Make up your mind where you want to go with all of this. Then ... just do it. Be sure this is what you want to do. Most of us on here have little, if any, choice. We HAVE to transition. Not everybody does though. It's your call, because it's your life. Best of luck to you!

Hugs & Peace Lacey Lynne

[Carolyn Marie]

I agree with everyone here, Mak. A doesn't necessarily lead directly to B. (that's the sum total of my algebra knowledge, BTW)

I was on HRT for over a year, and if not for getting my ears pierced, no one would have been the wiser. Even my laser hair removal effects didn't seem to register with folks. But it varies. Some people change more, develop breasts

faster and bigger. It all depends. You can hide a lot under baggy shirts.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I worked male mode just under two years. The RLT is a guideline and you need to talk to your therapist about it. Mine gave me full credit as she knew I was full time living everywhere except at work.

People at work will see you as they believe you to be - it is the strangest thing. Just stay androgynous or less, and its okay. For we MTF, I suspect people think we are just kinda effeminate male, maybe gay. It's easy to hide developing breasts. It's the facial changes that cannot be hidden - I told everyone I lost 25 pounds (which I did) and it altered the way I looked.

I hope this helps.

Lizzy