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This is funny - I've never had a high sex drive. The only time I...you know...is when I'm bored or there's nothing else to do. Sometimes when I'm sitting home alone and there is seriously nothing to do, I'll do that four times in a day. But I've never felt like it's something urgent, or something I need to do. I could go (and have gone) months without having the desire to do so at all.

I think part of this has to do with dysphoria. I don't have the right sex organ, so I avoid any kind of sexual contact with the wrong organ at all costs. When I have sex I refuse to do it without a prosthetic. I had "lesbian sex" before (back when everyone labled me as a lesbian so I decided to play along), and it feels so wrong and horribly weird.

When I told my gf that my sex drive would increase on T, she was like "THANK GOD." She takes care of business like, three times a day, and often wants to have sex when I kind of just want to watch a movie.

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Guest My_Genesis
This is funny - I've never had a high sex drive. The only time I...you know...is when I'm bored or there's nothing else to do. Sometimes when I'm sitting home alone and there is seriously nothing to do, I'll do that four times in a day. But I've never felt like it's something urgent, or something I need to do. I could go (and have gone) months without having the desire to do so at all.

I think part of this has to do with dysphoria. I don't have the right sex organ, so I avoid any kind of sexual contact with the wrong organ at all costs. When I have sex I refuse to do it without a prosthetic. I had "lesbian sex" before (back when everyone labled me as a lesbian so I decided to play along), and it feels so wrong and horribly weird.

When I told my gf that my sex drive would increase on T, she was like "THANK GOD." She takes care of business like, three times a day, and often wants to have sex when I kind of just want to watch a movie.

I would say most guys would consider you lucky to have a gf like that :lol:

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I would say most guys would consider you lucky to have a gf like that :lol:

lol Not necessarily. My ex was one of those 3times a day ladies and I actually felt kind of "put upon" like "again?" For me its kind of a turn-off. But then for me the turn on is to feel like I'm in pursuit.

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lol Not necessarily. My ex was one of those 3times a day ladies and I actually felt kind of "put upon" like "again?" For me its kind of a turn-off. But then for me the turn on is to feel like I'm in pursuit.

haha..thats like the total reverse of the way most people say it is...usually it's the girl that feels that way..I would think the guy would be the 3-times-a-day one..haha if it were me i'd be all for it :lol: ..but that's a generalization of course..although whenever I hear about things like this thats the way it always is, I've never heard of it the other way around lol

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I keep on coming back to this topic and every time I can't help but just laugh a bit. I seriously have almost zero sex drive at all. And it's not just that I don't want to do it with other people. I don't even like self-gratification. It does nothing for me. At all. I'm sure a good portion of it is not feeling attached with my biological parts, but seriously. It doesn't feel good, nothing. Not that it feels bad, but...it gives me nothing, really. It's just boring.

Yet, at the same time, I get a bit sexually aroused, so to speak...occasionally. Like, when I think about certain people, kissing them, whatever. And this is the part where I know a lot of my lack-of-pleasure or whatnot must be because of a disconnect with my body parts. I can perfectly imagine any types of "messing around" with male body parts, and that makes me fine and happy. In fact, I think I'd rather enjoy that. But I can't imagine it any other way. Can't do it with myself, and don't want to do it with anyone else.

So I think to some extent T will certainly make me have more of a sex drive...but there won't be much ways for me to successfully do anything about it, and I'm not even dead set upon wanting to as of now. If everything goes according to plan, I might be with my girlfriend when I start T...which would be interesting, but again, I'm so disassociated with my biological parts that I don't think there'll be much I wanna do. I'm practically asexual, xD, just with an occasional sex drive and a like of kissing.

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Guest JayJaye
I keep on coming back to this topic and every time I can't help but just laugh a bit. I seriously have almost zero sex drive at all. And it's not just that I don't want to do it with other people. I don't even like self-gratification. It does nothing for me. At all. I'm sure a good portion of it is not feeling attached with my biological parts, but seriously. It doesn't feel good, nothing. Not that it feels bad, but...it gives me nothing, really. It's just boring.

Yet, at the same time, I get a bit sexually aroused, so to speak...occasionally. Like, when I think about certain people, kissing them, whatever. And this is the part where I know a lot of my lack-of-pleasure or whatnot must be because of a disconnect with my body parts. I can perfectly imagine any types of "messing around" with male body parts, and that makes me fine and happy. In fact, I think I'd rather enjoy that. But I can't imagine it any other way. Can't do it with myself, and don't want to do it with anyone else.

So I think to some extent T will certainly make me have more of a sex drive...but there won't be much ways for me to successfully do anything about it, and I'm not even dead set upon wanting to as of now. If everything goes according to plan, I might be with my girlfriend when I start T...which would be interesting, but again, I'm so disassociated with my biological parts that I don't think there'll be much I wanna do. I'm practically asexual, xD, just with an occasional sex drive and a like of kissing.

I can't imagine being asexual (cuz I'm too crazed and need to get off - a LOT). But I hear ya about the parts thing. Even though my lack of parts didn't stop me from j/o, it's a gazillion times better with a packy, or a strap-on, where it feels like I'm messing with my own correct parts. I know it helps some guys; other guys can't get past the fact that it's really not theirs and it lacks sensation. I have phantom parts, so touching a packy IS like touching my own parts. I do have a very hard time getting off literally touching myself because the parts are so wrong; but playing with a packy I can get off pretty quick or slow, depending on my mood. Try it you may like it. Or not.

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Guest Evan_J
haha..thats like the total reverse of the way most people say it is...usually it's the girl that feels that way..I would think the guy would be the 3-times-a-day one..haha if it were me i'd be all for it :lol: ..but that's a generalization of course..although whenever I hear about things like this thats the way it always is, I've never heard of it the other way around lol

The catch is the pursued/ pursuer part. If she had not been the kind to let me know she would like it 3times a day then I would have wanted it 3 times a day lol. Our sex life actually sucked because of that. BUT my exes prior to her were like "do you ever not want sex?" I have a lot of conservative attitudes. And even though I personally may be a little pervy I think deep down I (don't boo me its how I am....) think a woman like that is "slutty" at least my mind tags it such and so its a turn off unless I'm dealing with a "professional" girl then probably I wouldn't care.

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Guest raydub

Jay..im there with you man.

i need to get off a lot.. i dont know what my girl is feeling about it lately. we kinda got into it the other night cause she said something and it made me think that she thought i just wanted to **** and go to sleep, which isnt true. for real? if i just wanna get off.. i can j/o and go to sleep...i do it all the time. so i asked her if she felt that way.. like i just wanted to **** her and go to bed.. and she's all.. "i dont know what i think." :banghead:

im SO frustrated lately about EVERYTHING...and being sexually arroused all the time does NOT help.

:(

Ray

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Guest jantonio

This topic does get more interesting and funny as it goes along. Jeje I have a high sex drive myself. Now with T is crazy. :lol: But the good thing is that my girlfriend has a high sex drive herself so we compliment each other thank goodness. :D

Now I wear a packy almost all the time and is awesome. It does make me feel like I have a penis and it even helps me alot when it comes to the sex parts.

Jose Antonio...

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Guest My_Genesis

haha yeah it is pretty funny..it's also funny that before this thread it was never really brought up but so many people have something to say in this thread :lol:

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Guest Evan_J

I think there were probably two camps of people before you did; those who wanted to but were self concious to mention it, and those who didn't know what T did but having found out are interested lol.

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Guest Silver

Well this isn't an awkward topic at all :rolleyes: . anyways, i figured i'd weigh in (finally). I've always been um, lets say, active. I figured out what felt good when I was kinda young :blush: and it was kinda just rubbing aginst stuff. It wasn't until my mom gave me a book on pubery (that was embarrasing) that i even figured out that you could get off via penetration. Tried it, didn't like it, went back to my way. so yeah, i'm one of the guys who has a high sex drive, but i really can't stand to actually see what I'm touching. arg.

Glad someone brought this up.

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