What To Do About Curls?

[KieranD]

I am a genderqueer person and I have a bit of a problem. I have curly/frizzy hair that I can't tame.

The deer in headlights look is due to the flash and taking too many pictures.

That image is the most tame I've been able to get my hair recently. I used a lot of hair serum and don't think it looks too good. I can't afford anything like a keratin treatment, but wanted to know if anybody had ideas on how to control curly, frizzy, poofy hair. I usually use some "plain" shampoo and conditioner (although I really just don't wash my hair too often).

Also, could anybody suggestions about styles that might work with my hair texture and face shape? I'm considering growing my hair out more but am unsure as to how to style my potential longer hair. I was considering a pompadour.

[Guest Elena]

I had a friend in HS with hair like yours, he always did a high amd tight. Basically let the top goand shave at the ears and fade up so it leaves the top squared. Kinda like a basic milotary crew cut but with more on top. It will tend to make your face look more square. He let the mop on top go to the point he could stretch the curls down to his chin. Your hair does't look quite as curly, but the style should still make your face look longer and squarer. Might leave your ears stranded though.

Hope you find something you like.

Cheers,

Elena

[Guest ranse]

It really depends on the image you want to project.

Do you want to be androgynous or look more masculine or more feminine? Are you a student? Do you have professional obligations that dictate hair style in any way?

Long curly hair with your face shape would probably accent femininity if I saw you on the street.

Long dreadlocks, on the other hand, would put you in the androgynous-to-masculine look.

Even with super short hair, you could be seen either way, depending on the clothes you wear.

Look at other people with curly hair that you find attractive/would like to look like for ideas of how to get yours cut or how to style it. I like wild curls on people myself more than crunchy product-laden hair.

[KieranD]

It really depends on the image you want to project.

Do you want to be androgynous or look more masculine or more feminine? Are you a student? Do you have professional obligations that dictate hair style in any way?

I'm genderqueer so I want to be read as male but barely male, feminine male. Not a student and I'm looking for new work (I don't get enough hours where I am).

Long curly hair with your face shape would probably accent femininity if I saw you on the street.

Long dreadlocks, on the other hand, would put you in the androgynous-to-masculine look.

I don't want dreadlocks for various reasons. Long curly hair not meaning chin length or shoulder length...just longer than what I have.

Even with super short hair, you could be seen either way, depending on the clothes you wear.

I'm usually seen as a woman no matter what the cut.

Look at other people with curly hair that you find attractive/would like to look like for ideas of how to get yours cut or how to style it. I like wild curls on people myself more than crunchy product-laden hair.

Ah, I don't know too many people with my kind of hair. It's more poofy than curly.

[KieranD]

I had a friend in HS with hair like yours, he always did a high amd tight. Basically let the top goand shave at the ears and fade up so it leaves the top squared. Kinda like a basic milotary crew cut but with more on top. It will tend to make your face look more square. He let the mop on top go to the point he could stretch the curls down to his chin. Your hair does't look quite as curly, but the style should still make your face look longer and squarer. Might leave your ears stranded though.

Hope you find something you like.

Cheers,

Elena

Ohhhh no. Crew cut looks really bad.

Somebody said it makes me look more like a lesbian. :/

[Guest krysta]

Ohhhh no. Crew cut looks really bad.

Somebody said it makes me look more like a lesbian. :/

When i was younger i had straighter hair, but as i got older it got more poofy and curly and looks just like yours now. Try washing your hair with conditioner only, then condition like normal. Keep washing with shampoo to a bear minimum, once a month is ok, some do it even less. When you get out of the chower blow dry it real good, this will leave a poof ball on your head but dont worry. Rub a little olive oil into your hair, you can get this anywhere, target. Then bust out your straightening iron and go to town on it. Google videos for how to straighten short hair for guys, its insanely easy and fast especially after the blowdry.

Well anyway this works for me and you can have shirt bangs and try different angles with the straightening iron. Only catch is once your hair gets wet again the gig is up, you'll have to straigten it to keep it down again.

Good luck thats some tricky hairs you got theres.

[Guest Elena]

Ewww, yeah. That is not what I was thinking of. I was thinking of more a low fade with the top long. But I can see from the crew cut pic that might not work for you.

Eeeek, sorry just an idea.

Elena

[KieranD]

When i was younger i had straighter hair, but as i got older it got more poofy and curly and looks just like yours now. Try washing your hair with conditioner only, then condition like normal. Keep washing with shampoo to a bear minimum, once a month is ok, some do it even less. When you get out of the chower blow dry it real good, this will leave a poof ball on your head but dont worry. Rub a little olive oil into your hair, you can get this anywhere, target. Then bust out your straightening iron and go to town on it. Google videos for how to straighten short hair for guys, its insanely easy and fast especially after the blowdry.

Well anyway this works for me and you can have shirt bangs and try different angles with the straightening iron. Only catch is once your hair gets wet again the gig is up, you'll have to straigten it to keep it down again.

Good luck thats some tricky hairs you got theres.

My hair is too short for an iron (I have a 1 inch iron). The picture I posted is with hair serum applied after a shower (no blow dry). I'm really bad at straightening my hair because I have a lot of problems with the back.

[Guest DawnK]

My hair isn't as curly as yours, but I had my niece us a straightener on it. It last for several weeks. I believe hair dressers can do this, but you may also be able to find a home kit. Word of waring, it tingles, but if you leave it in too long, it can blister your scalp.

[KieranD]

My hair isn't as curly as yours, but I had my niece us a straightener on it. It last for several weeks. I believe hair dressers can do this, but you may also be able to find a home kit. Word of waring, it tingles, but if you leave it in too long, it can blister your scalp.

That's probably a keratin treatment which I can't do.

[Guest MadisonRose]

They do make at home hair straightener kits, which you can find in the same aisle as hair dye in any drug store or grocery store. They usually are less than 15 or 20 dollars. They do tingle as it is chemically straightening your hair. I am MTF and am currently growing my hair out which is curly and frizzy. I personally haven't used it due to the fact that I recently have bleached my hair and too much stress will cause MAJOR damage. I will caution you, it can burn, from what I read and understand there is a sort of thin line between having the chemicals in for the right amount of time and too long.

[KieranD]

I cannot use chemical straighteners for various reasons. I'm looking more so for shampoos and conditioners, and other styling type products that might help. I'm also hoping to get info on styles that would work.

Soo...no straighteners.

[KieranD]

I got a new conditioner that was recommended by somebody at sally's beauty supplies. I think it's helping a bit. I also really miss my longer hair. I just hate not knowing a style that works until it's longer.