Finding It Hard To Get A Therapist

[Guest StephK]

I've been asking my parents for a Gender Therapist/Psychologist for many years now, and every time I ask them, they get angry at me.

As I've said in other posts, my parents are homophobic and so is my community.

They tell me that I should accept who I am, which is a straight woman, even though every thing points to me being a lesbian transgender.

They are denying me help, because they don't want people to be talking about their 'lesbian daughter'.

I really need a Gender Therapist, and I don't know how to go about getting one. I can't pay for one, and my parents won't either.

Any help on this would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

~Steph

[Guest]

Hi Steph,

Welcome to Laura's Playground!

It can be difficult when your parents have all of the control. I don't know what your age is - hopefully getting close to adulthood soon! If not, you will have to convince the parents first. And that may not happen if they're as closed-minded as some. Just keep working on them!

So, what to do in the meantime? Hang out with us, check out the FTM section, make friends - that's a new concept for many of us! You might learn a few different arguments along the way too.

I wish you all the best!

Love, Kat

[Guest CariadsCarrot]

I don't know what to suggest coz things work differently here in the UK with getting a gender therapist. I also don't know how old you are and how far off of being independent of your parents. I wonder if it would help to point out to your parents that no one needs to KNOW about you going to a gender therapist in order to talk about it...maybe not. It seems like maybe their denial is bigger than that anyway.

Do you have a school counsellor you could maybe talk to? If they were supportive they maybe might be able to help you work out how to proceed.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. It must be so difficult living with your parents attitude and them denying you support.

Gabe

[Guest StephK]

Thanks Gabe and Kat, I appreciate your support, it means a lot.

I'm seeing a school counselor, though my parents are unsupportive of the decision.

My counselor knows about my homosexuality and my desire to be a man, but she doesn't seem to be much help.

In the meantime I'll just stay on the forums for support and keep asking my parents to get me a therapist.

Thanks for the help, I appreciate it.

~Steph