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Guest Gabochi

Hey friends...I'm gonna get straight to the point with this. I love skinny jeans but I also love my muscles. I am in a huge conflict with myself :/ The cross-dressing thing is really not for me. I am terrified of transition though because I know there will be no going back + my friends and siblings might turn on me. But again, I've always wanted to be pretty. :/ I love clothes shopping and I tend to get along with girls better then boys...please help! I'm so darn confused :(

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Guest Jaded1

Before the dump truck of advice shows up (and it will and it will most likely be useful) have you thought of visiting with a therapist? Someone that is educated in the ways of us temporarily confused can help you quite a bit.

As for my 2 cents, don't view things in black or white. Being a human is like baskin robbins on crack. 3100 flavors. You don't need to be "a man" or "a woman" as even within those societally defined roles that are more shades of grey than can be imagined.

Be who you want to be, dress how you want to dress, hang out with and socialize with whomever you please. The confusion, shame and guilt you are feeling first must be conquered within yourself before you can conquer it within others' input about you and the best way you can do that is to find out who you truly are and for that a gender therapist is INVALUABLE.

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey friends...I'm gonna get straight to the point with this. I love skinny jeans but I also love my muscles. I am in a huge conflict with myself :/ The cross-dressing thing is really not for me. I am terrified of transition though because I know there will be no going back + my friends and siblings might turn on me. But again, I've always wanted to be pretty. :/ I love clothes shopping and I tend to get along with girls better then boys...please help! I'm so darn confused :(

Hon.....

You are confused (like you said) we all are/have been......

You've made a huge step by coming here and talking about it...

Love skinny jeans and muscles?

Well, we all have our likes and dislikes.....

There is no formula to being Transgendered....we are whom we are!

Tell me more about yourself...

How old are you, Hon?

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Gabochi

I'm almost 18 though I look quite a bit younger as I have little facial hair (i can't deny its not there). I'd love to transition but yet so much is holding me back...I should probably dwell on it for a while to make sure I want this. I really don't want to go between genders :/ rejection will happen and I've had far too much of that and not just because of this but other things as well...

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