Hair

[Guest JayJaye]

Am I the only one who hates short hair? I've always had long hair, except as a kid, when I wished I did. For the past 15 years my hair has been long. Of course, in girl mode, I dyed it.

I cut it off at the beginning of my transition, and at first I liked it. I went shorter and shorter. My last 3 cuts used the clippers on the backs and sides, with more on top to spike if I want. I do like it. But at the same time, since I'm not yet passing, and I'm not sure I like how it makes me look.

OTOH, I recently went to a festival and had ample time to people watch. Yes, most men had short hair, but what got my attention were the guys who had long hair yet were well groomed. That's what I want!

My friend, who I'm out to, says I'll look like an aging hipster and look ridiculous. But then, I've never cared what people thought, and heck, I'm transitioning, which many people will find creepy. Why can't I just have hair that I want? It will take a year to grow it where I want it (it's pretty buzzed at the moment), and by then T will be in effect and I won't look girly, but like a guy with long hair.

My stylist says NO!! Her husband is FTM and looks great with a buzz. But then he has a nice beard also.

Maybe when I pass 100% my hair won't bug me so much. But right now (and it's been 4 months since I cut it!!) I'm not liking it anymore.

Thoughts?

[Guest StrandedOutThere]

You know, a lot of the FTM's around here are into the buzz thing. I'm not talking short on the sides and spiky on top. I'm talking buzzed in the military, boot camp style. The look really works for some guys, but not so much for others. I'm one of those "others" that it totally wouldn't work for. I am afraid I have one of those "lumpy first-born child" heads, as this one guy put it. The "wash and go" simplicity of it all is attractive, but I have a round baby face. I don't think buzz cuts work for the round baby face crowd so well.

I'm in to long hair for guys too. I don't like the idea of looking too "clean cut". My style is a bit more scruffy hippie, but that might not be you. The "long hair but well groomed" look is a good one too. Can you think of any celebrities that have cuts similar to what you are going for? I know the look I want, but I am having a really hard time finding a good picture to take to the hairdresser.

My plan is to go and get my hair cut just a bit shorter than it is. What I'm doing is a little bit of that "mop do". I like having my long emo bangs. When I get mine done either tomorrow or Monday, I'll have to post pics.

[Guest Lilyyy]

It depends if you want hardly want any hair at all you can give it abit of length but not to much length to be a hippie

[Guest Martin]

I like wearing my hair long and did for a few years post-transition. The problem is that I get mistaken for a girl more often that way, especially when seen from the back or sides. Luckily, I finally found a few short hair styles I like.

[Guest raydub]

Jay,

Sorry youre feelin down about your hair man.

Like you said..when the T kicks in things might be different. I think its hard to tell right now.

Try not to be too bummed about though yeah?

Youve seen my pics ( i think ).. Im of the long-haired variety. It can work if you work it.

Sucks waiting for it to grow though im sure.

Take care dude.

Wishing you comfort and calm.

Ray

[Guest JayJaye]

I went out today all scummy, cuz I have to work later and I figure why shower twice?? So I threw on a ball cap, yesterday's shorts and tee shirt, and ran my errands. At target, I got ma'am'd at the register. GRRR! Even though my voice has dropped, apparently not low enough not to be mistaken for a lady smoker. At the grocery store, I got Hon.

Blech!

If I had long hair I could blame it on that, LOL. My son has long hair and gets called a girl a LOT. He rolls his eyes because he thinks they're dumb; he's a skater (skateboarder), wears a hat with a skull on it, cargo shorts and skate shoes.

No offense to any dykes, but that's what I look like, and I'm not. If I could pull off that tough butch a small levee don't-mess-with-me look I wouldn't mind so much. But I can't.

Bleh.

OTOH I've heard that T's effects go faster once the dreaded ovaries are missing, so at least I cling to that hope that in a few weeks time, those dreaded parts will be gone so T can work its magic!!

Jay

Jay,

Sorry youre feelin down about your hair man.

Like you said..when the T kicks in things might be different. I think its hard to tell right now.

Try not to be too bummed about though yeah?

Youve seen my pics ( i think ).. Im of the long-haired variety. It can work if you work it.

Sucks waiting for it to grow though im sure.

Take care dude.

Wishing you comfort and calm.

Ray

[Guest Sergei]

It's hard pre-T. You can't really have the style you want, you have to go with what looks "male" because hair is such an major issue in terms of indicating gender. When I was 15 I had the really short clipped hair. I liked it. But then when I was about 18 I grew it back really long for 2 years in an attempt to look feminine. It didn't work, and I just looked androgenous, and people were more confused than ever about my gender. Last year when I came out as male I started clipping it really short again. At first I was a bit upset, I'd gotten quite attached to it. But after I did it I realised I liked it short better. So much easier! I think though after T you can have whatever style you want. Just be patient, and also remember. Hair grows back. You can always grow your hair as long as you like later on. This is just temporary. x

[Guest theEND]

You should definately at least try seeing what you look like when you have that hair style, and to be fair your hair should be your own choice.

[Guest Evan_J]

Hmmm. I don't really have a stance. I see both views.

I started cutting mine in a bald fade -which means I have brushable dust- like 8 years ago. HOWEVER at times (cuz it gets boring) I've considered growing it out and doin something else with it. Mind you, I started dressing male back when you could still do the long-haired Miami Vice thing. HOWEVER very recently I was at the barber shop and a cisdude who had grown his out and wore it as cornrows had finally decided to get his shaved and when they unbraided it he looked like anybody's daughter. That really made me reconsider lol. So I don't have any opinion just some thoughts.

[Guest Alexander]

I really want long hair again (I chopped it all off 2 1/2 years ago when I started transitioning), but I'm going to wait at least another year to grow it out, since I've only been on T since this March. I can't go with the buzz-cut look either at the moment, because I have the round baby face. So right now I've got fringe to just past my ears, and I sort of like it.