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T Is Kicking In. Now What?!!


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Guest JayJaye

I've always had a high drive. Now it's insane. I knew it was coming, but still. I have no partner. I have crappy prosthetics. I want to **** everything in sight. But I have a decent job and kids, LOL.

My therapist says now's the time to experiment. But I'm not that kind of guy. I don't just ****, I want a relationship.

I've been sitting here all night not able to even do anything about it because of others in the house. I'm going insane!! OMG!!

I wanted to wait until I was passing as male before even trying to date. Now I'm not sure I can wait...LOL.

Not really asking for advice, just venting mostly.

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Guest My_Genesis

umm..wow...i'm totally pre-transition and am having the same problem..and according to your description, with the same severity..which is exactly why I shy away from taking T, even though without it im basically at a standstill in my life, lol...but yeah, i understand EXACTLY what you're going through, which is kinda odd b/c im not even taking T lol :huh: ...just to emphasize the fact that im struggling with the same thing, i find it difficult to get through shows like grey's anatomy these days..or even watch your average video on youtube..lol

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Guest jantonio

LOL Jay. Hehe. I started "T" this morning so is too soon for me. The good thing is that I have a gj and I told her that I will be waking her up in the middle of the night. She says she has no issues with it. :rolleyes:

Good luck man.

Jose Antonio...

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Guest StrandedOutThere

Hey, well...I guess now you understand why people have to trot off to the bathroom to take care of 'bidness. LOL

At least you know the T is working its magic! That's gotta feel good.

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Guest raydub

Jay!

Awww dude.. im sorry its rough. Hey..how long have you been on again? I know youre on the gel, but Im trying to gauge time here. Anyway.. VENT ON man...

Jose! Congrats Man!!!! Good stuff, good stuff. Yeah, I told my gf about the sex drive increase and at first she was excited..but...i dunno. There's only so much waking them up in the middle of the night theyll be able to stand, im sure. lol

good luck to you both.

Ray

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Guest JayJaye

I've been on the gel 3.5 weeks. Time to call in my script refill! Yesterday I got NOTHING done. Not unusual for a Monday, but still. My dogs think I'm very weird.

Jay

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Guest JayJaye

Thing is, I've always had a high drive, but taking care of it usually meant I was okay for the rest of the day (usually). I dunno, but taking care of it does NOT take care of it. That's the only way I can put it. I mean, it does, but only briefly. Oh, man!!

Jay

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:lol: i so know what you mean. T is a very powerful thing, one only understands why guys obsess of sex for a lot of their life after haveing T themselves. all i can say is you'll grow used to it. it never really gets weaker, but the effects it has on your toughts weaken. eventually you can just play it out in your head subconsiously, and still be able to focus on the day ahead. it does spike though, and thats rough, but everyone, male or female, has a spike of some kind. it just is sex in this case, but its all good, you can handle it. gratz on getting it btw, cant wait for E :D
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Guest My_Genesis
:lol: i so know what you mean. T is a very powerful thing, one only understands why guys obsess of sex for a lot of their life after haveing T themselves. all i can say is you'll grow used to it. it never really gets weaker, but the effects it has on your toughts weaken. eventually you can just play it out in your head subconsiously, and still be able to focus on the day ahead. it does spike though, and thats rough, but everyone, male or female, has a spike of some kind. it just is sex in this case, but its all good, you can handle it. gratz on getting it btw, cant wait for E :D

ok seriously, I'm already basically obsessed, and I do play it in my head subconsciously but that sometimes makes it worse :huh: ..so what's wrong with me that I'm experiencing with no T what everyone else experiences taking it??

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ok seriously, I'm already basically obsessed, and I do play it in my head subconsciously but that sometimes makes it worse :huh: ..so what's wrong with me that I'm experiencing with no T what everyone else experiences taking it??

aww, nothing is wrong with you. :D you do have some level of T in you, just not the full thing. if you didnt, you would never feel like doing anything, you could stare at a wall all day and not be bored. we all have different levels of libedo, yours is just high. i have a theory that our bodies are already trying to make us change, even if it cant. i think its because you a dude, and so your body is increasing you sex drive to make up for lack of T. mine has gone down a LOT sinse i acknoledged that i'm a girl, yet it never has been at a level like my guy friends. i think yours is just high because inside, your trying to become a guy, to fix the screw up of gender. like my breasts, even without E, are sinsitive to touch. i wouldnt worry about it, its perfectly normal. your just a man at heart, and T will just make it easier to feel what your already unconsiously trying to do :)

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Guest Jack Solomon
ok seriously, I'm already basically obsessed, and I do play it in my head subconsciously but that sometimes makes it worse :huh: ..so what's wrong with me that I'm experiencing with no T what everyone else experiences taking it??

Nothing wrong with you, pre-T I used to think about sex frequently/all the time, and it always bothered me that people would assume I didn't because I looked like a cute female. T really didn't change much in terms of frequency of urges. For me there wasn't much to get used to because not much changed in that department. Slight increase in becoming distracted by sexual urges, not much more. Also, your interest in sex/sex drive is not entirely based on hormonal levels, but other key aspects in the brain as well, so you can have a high sex drive with only moderate T levels. To summarize, essentially what I'm saying is that while hormones play a big part in exacerbating things, the libido also has some root in the brain.

Solomon

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For what it's worth...

I've heard that for some guys taking T actually lowers their drive to more normal levels... something about T calming their system that was out of whack without it.

Also, I've heard that working out helps dissipate some of that sexual energy for some guys. Sometimes that works for me. And sometimes it gives me a hardon (or as close as my anatomy gets anyway) if I'm having a super-intense workout and making a lot of gains. Running seems to work pretty good, since it's so exhausting.

MK

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For what it's worth...

I've heard that for some guys taking T actually lowers their drive to more normal levels... something about T calming their system that was out of whack without it.

Also, I've heard that working out helps dissipate some of that sexual energy for some guys. Sometimes that works for me. And sometimes it gives me a hardon (or as close as my anatomy gets anyway) if I'm having a super-intense workout and making a lot of gains. Running seems to work pretty good, since it's so exhausting.

MK

wow, thats pretty cool. i guess its like solomon said. libedo has more to do with the brain. usually it doesnt lower though, but i guess anything can happen. its really a different ride for everyone. :lol: maby i'll increase mine with E, who knows. but i wouldnt worry too much, after all, isnt it a dream come true after so many years of watching yourself mutate into something you arent.

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Guest GoldenKirbichu

My sex drive is dramatically high for a female-bodied person... In fact, it approaches hypersexuality.

I really wish I could just orgasm without all of these biological issues.

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My sex drive is dramatically high for a female-bodied person... In fact, it approaches hypersexuality.

I really wish I could just orgasm without all of these biological issues.

I was gonna start my own thread on this but I figured this is relevant enough :lol:

So my problem is....what you're describing leads to what Jay described, if that makes any sense. lol

So how do I put this...I'm pretty much 24/7 h*rny and can't do anything about it. Because what you normally do about it doesn't work for me since I don't get anything out of it....Any suggestions? :blush: lol

This can become such an issue sometimes that I'll hear words that appear to be harmless like "marriage" or "straight" or "female" and those words can do a lot more than you would expect -_-

So it's not really that I don't like it so much as I can't do anything about it. lol

:banghead::banghead:

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Sounds like what you need to do is "deviate from the norm" (bet the word "deviate" even did something lol). There's more than one way to skin a cat. Some of em don't even involve direct contact. Try continually stimulating different areas and see if you stumble upon the uncharted route. And since you like words, throw in a mental video with dialog. Lemme say it again: DIALOG.

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Guest Elizabeth K

:lol: Although we are passing each other going opposite ways, let me grin and say;

WELCOME TO MANHOOD, it only gets more and more intense until you basically start thinking about sexual release about 10% of the time, all the time, everywhere, when appropraite and when not so appropriate. That overwhelming drive is what defines you as a male.

Only hunger is a more powerful drive in the man - and you can almost always find something to eat

Enjoy ;)

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Guest My_Genesis
:lol: Although we are passing each other going opposite ways, let me grin and say;

WELCOME TO MANHOOD, it only gets more and more intense until you basically start thinking about sexual release about 10% of the time, all the time, everywhere, when appropraite and when not so appropriate. That overwhelming drive is what defines you as a male.

Only hunger is a more powerful drive in the man - and you can almost always find something to eat

Enjoy ;)

10% seems a lot more manageable, I'll switch out 99% for 10% any time. LOL

Difference is men can actually do something about it :rolleyes:

Yeah the inappropriateness can be pretty funny. Like yesterday, I was at my aunt and uncle's house for x-mas, and my 9-yr-old cousin's friend came over with her mom. She mentioned that she went to college in Chicago, so I asked her if that's where she's from, and she said she's from brazil. So ever since then I keep thinking "Wow, Brazilian moms are total milfs". :rolleyes:

Kind of a weird thought to pop into your head in front of the kids. :lol:

So anyway, last night i kinda felt guilty about how inappropriate that was..lol. And i started thinking "well, I shouldn't have anything to feel guilty about, it's not my problem I can't just jack off and get it over with, or prevent it from even happening in the first place." :rolleyes: lol

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Kind of a weird thought to pop into your head in front of the kids. :lol:

You're fine . When you have that day where you wonder if you can get away with "handlin the business" during chuch service then you call me.

And no, for the record I did not do that. Although I can not say that there wasnt a long moment where it was considered there..:blush:

<--Is embarassed with himself

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Guest My_Genesis
You're fine . When you have that day where you wonder if you can get away with "handlin the business" during chuch service then you call me.

And no, for the record I did not do that. Although I can not say that there wasnt a long moment where it was considered there..:blush:

<--Is embarassed with himself

lol. good one. maybe if i actually went to church i'd have the same problem :lol:

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Guest Jackson
You're fine . When you have that day where you wonder if you can get away with "handlin the business" during chuch service then you call me.

And no, for the record I did not do that. Although I can not say that there wasnt a long moment where it was considered there..:blush:

<--Is embarassed with himself

Whoa. Now there's something you don't hear everyday. Well, don't feel bad. Even before I started even thinking about this process of changing (let alone get T), I'd sit in church and have daydreams about stuff like that. It never went so far as to make me think about taking care of it. If it had, I would have been tempted to go next door to the parochial school and deal with it. That was back in the day when the church didn't have bathrooms in it. One would have to wander the twenty feet to the rectory for relief.

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