T Is Kicking In. Now What?!!

[Guest bronx]

As Im sitting at my computer reading all of this I'm wondering what I can say to ease it up a little for ya. Bottom line your a man. I don't know what to say that will make it any easier except find what works for you. When I first stated taking T sex and getting off was all I could think about. It didn't matter where I was and I really didn't care if what I was thinking was inappropiate or not all I knew was that I needed to handle myself and go about my way. All I can say though is that the longer you are on T the more you know when you're gonna have a spike in your drive. For me it's more about a week after I take a shot and lasts for about 3-4 days and then it calms down, it doesn't go away but it calms down. What I do during this time is well you know and alot of it, and it does help that I have a wife, but sometimes I just want to do what I have to without all the work and go on with my day. So good luck and don't forget find what works for you and it's all normal for us to feel this way.

[Guest My_Genesis]

Whoa. Now there's something you don't hear everyday. Well, don't feel bad. Even before I started even thinking about this process of changing (let alone get T), I'd sit in church and have daydreams about stuff like that. It never went so far as to make me think about taking care of it. If it had, I would have been tempted to go next door to the parochial school and deal with it. That was back in the day when the church didn't have bathrooms in it. One would have to wander the twenty feet to the rectory for relief.

well who knows the next time i'll go to church lol.

but thanks a lot guys for putting ideas into my head. now this is gonna be the first thing that comes to mind if/when i do ever go to church.

but for me to use the word "relief" doesn't make sense because that's exactly what my problem is. I don't get any "relief" from it so it either stays way high or just keeps climbing off the charts. and when it gets bad enough is when i start to get dizzy and shaky, and feel sick, and start hypervenyilating and my face gets all flushed. That's been happening occasionally the past few months (like since summertime). Kinda like it all backed up internally or something. lol

[Guest Evan_J]

but for me to use the word "relief" doesn't make sense because that's exactly what my problem is. I don't get any "relief" from it so it either stays way high or just keeps climbing off the charts. and when it gets bad enough is when i start to get dizzy and shaky, and feel sick, and start hypervenyilating and my face gets all flushed. That's been happening occasionally the past few months (like since summertime). Kinda like it all backed up internally or something. lol

Hmmm. I admit, I don't trust sex therapists lol. But my opinion is you really need to be relaxed, physically and mentally and could do with a best friend (esp a bestfriend/bed buddy) that you could tell every and anything to do with sex to.

[Guest My_Genesis]

As Im sitting at my computer reading all of this I'm wondering what I can say to ease it up a little for ya. Bottom line your a man. I don't know what to say that will make it any easier except find what works for you. When I first stated taking T sex and getting off was all I could think about. It didn't matter where I was and I really didn't care if what I was thinking was inappropiate or not all I knew was that I needed to handle myself and go about my way. All I can say though is that the longer you are on T the more you know when you're gonna have a spike in your drive. For me it's more about a week after I take a shot and lasts for about 3-4 days and then it calms down, it doesn't go away but it calms down. What I do during this time is well you know and alot of it, and it does help that I have a wife, but sometimes I just want to do what I have to without all the work and go on with my day. So good luck and don't forget find what works for you and it's all normal for us to feel this way.

I'm not taking T...so I don't want to know what would happen to me if I start taking it

idk i just feel like i'll never be satisfied with the "results" until I have a penis and get the sensations my mind thinks I can get and wants me to get, but I can't.

[Guest jackg]

As a just-beginning FtM, I have had basically no sex drive all my life, and I am 48. Now, I used to be a Christian so did not have sex until marriage at 32, and then he was a disabled Vietnam vet(welcome home to all his brothers and sisters) and, well, couldn't. The divorce (not my idea) is winding down, I'm no longer religious, but haven't jumped into the sack with anyone, especially what with planning my transition. So yeah, I'm a virgin (can I say that word on this site?). But I've just never been interested. What do you-all predict?

And are there different levels of T that different FtMs should take?

[Guest praisedbeherhooves]

I've always had a high drive. Now it's insane. I knew it was coming, but still. I have no partner. I have crappy prosthetics. I want to **** everything in sight. But I have a decent job and kids, LOL.

My therapist says now's the time to experiment. But I'm not that kind of guy. I don't just ****, I want a relationship.

I've been sitting here all night not able to even do anything about it because of others in the house. I'm going insane!! OMG!!

I wanted to wait until I was passing as male before even trying to date. Now I'm not sure I can wait...LOL.

Not really asking for advice, just venting mostly.

Well, even if you don't pass, you can find people who are okay with dating transmen who can't pass. I've met plenty of bisexuals who were attracted to transmen and I've even dated a couple of gay men and one straight girl.