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i am not sure if i am a transgendered person or not

backround: 21 yr old male

student (not sure if that contributes anything to the convo but they say students sometimes are crazy/// lolz)

dont really like the fact that i am male (hate the look of my body basically)

crossed dressed privately on many occasions (its the only thing that truly makes me smile...)

have to hide the way i talk and act now (internet) as opposed to real life (but its getting harder to do =/ )

ive done alot of girly thing but im not really sure because of the fact i still do a few manly things

can ne1 hlps me wit my problem and tell me if i should still be male or i should be a t-girl?

thx for the advice in advance

yuki (codenames rulez =p)

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Yuki,

Welcome to Laura's. Confusion about how one feels about themselves is not unusual so you are not alone.

No one is actually going to be able to tell you who you are other than yourself. With therapy and effort you will begin to understand yourself better.

In the mean time, just relax and know that you are with kindred spirits :)

Love

Brenda

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4gots some of the important things.........

never been called "gay" .....but my sister said "im a girly girl on the computer and asked me if im her "secret sister" lolz

also i had this thoght process wen i was like 10-15 it faded for a lil wile now its back and way stronger then eva

i've nvr been suicidal (but i said if i had 100% chance of coming back as a girl i soooooo would)

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Guest Michele H

Find a good gender therapist - please note the emphasis on GOOD - let me state that again find a good therapist. From what you have related, you owe it to yourself to explore this question with someone qualified to help you answer that question AND decide what you want to do if you are TS or TG. Some people fully transition, others are more comfortable expressing themselves only some of the time and others decide a more gender fluid gender is more who they are. As for liking some 'girlie' things and some 'boy' things - so what. I bet you will have trouble naming one girl you know who doesn't like at least one traditional male activity - and if you can, I bet she is really boring.

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tys for the advice any idea on how long i need 2 see a therpist b4 i can do nething cause 1 is close by to my house but im out for school in like 10 day so i doubt that is enough time

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