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This picture is a bit old by now but I can't find any other decent ones sorry it sucks and it's dark and stuff but anyway HERE IS ME:

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So today was the first day of high school... AND I DIDN'T PASS AT ALL. Maybe the tight shirt didn't help heheh... agh. I looked like such a GIRL. How do I fix this... I bind, I talk with my chest (though my voice doesn't sound very deep or anything but it doesn't sound very feminine either...), and I'm also very short (5'2" ish) so that doesn't help either. I feel a bit intimidated around all these guys with facial hair and hairy legs and extremely deep voices and their 6 foot whatever-ness, etc etc etc.

Anyway, the whole "ew my body doesn't match my gender" thing made my day a piece of crap, and it makes school in general complete hell. Muh...

Is there any sort of secret thing I never noticed before that would help me pass or something..? I desperately need tips, cause I look way too feminine. I dunno. I was just feeling kind of insecure about my ability to pass so I made this ranting thread.

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Well, I always think the skinnier transguys have it better, cuz it's easier to bind. Just wear baggier clothes.

My brother (not really my brother, but he's trans,yatta yatta), when he wasn't on T, used to draw on the facial hair. Try that, perhaps?

Me, I don't need to do that cuz since I stopped shaving, I have more facial hair than my 17 year old biomale best friend.

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personally, i think you pass pretty well, you look kinda like Shaun White. baggier clothes definitely help though, and confidence, as stupid as it sounds if you look confident in your male presentation you will pass more often.

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well wearing tight shirts isnt that great unless its safe enough when it looks enough to past as a guys chest. but i say just don't wear tight tight things because then they will show your curves and you don't want that. i pass all the time but only as a 12 year old and i'm 16 lol. but you could too. your picture you seem to pass pretty well to me. but i don't know what gives it away that you are girl. passsing pre t is hard. but i think you'll pass without a doubt soon.

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i pass all the time but only as a 12 year old and i'm 16 lol. but you could too. your picture you seem to pass pretty well to me.

Heh, me too and I'm getting close to 20. Waiters in restaurants still give me kids menus. :rolleyes:

From the picture, sphere, I think you pass pretty well. Sorry about your experience at school, but hopefully it'll get better soon.

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I pass as a 16 year old bio male.

I love wearing tighter shirts, Maybe, it's cuz I can't wait until I have pecs and yeah. Anyway, when I wear tighter shirts, it really doesn't show off my curves too much cuz I'm bigger.

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You don't look that feminine to me at all really, actually you look a lot like my best mate Andy lol. Confidence is probably the most important thing though, if you look really nervy people are going to pay more attention to you.

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Heh, looks like today I passed pretty well. In bio my teacher has this philosophy of "if I have to learn all your names, you have to learn everyone's name too" and we had to list everyone in our class, categorizing them as male or female. So for me this isn't very fun.

But then this chick who's also in my Chinese class asks my name and writes me down under the "male" category and that pretty much made my day.

It's pretty interesting actually, who reads you as male and who reads you as female.

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Well I can't say if you pass or not in person. You pass in the picture, I think if someone showed me that pic I'd think "14-15 year old boy." But your mannerisms, voice, inflection, or height can be a big give-away in person.

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