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[Guest Caelen]

hey everyone,

so today is the Perth Fair, and my girlfriend and I went to have a good time, we stayed for about two hours and are going back tonight for the rides so we aren't wading through a sea of knee high elementary school kids and waiting half an hour to go on a ride that costs 3 tickets, but yeah, so I got a mohawk (super excited) it means my scalp can breathe (I've been having skin problems on my scalp due to the hot weather and natural overly oily skin), so what bothers me today, well not really bothers more so irks, is that we were having a good time, minding our own business, but the comments! and it's not that I'm hurt by them, I'm just annoyed that just because she and I look different (we're both into the Punk subculture) and that we were holding hands that we some how deserve to have insults flung at us as if we were a freak carnival show (which I think is lame as well but you know I need an example), I'm not going to say what we got called because it isn't even worth repeating, it's just the concept of the whole thing that just because it's different it deserves to be insulted, I'm sometimes wondering if she and I are the normal ones and they are the outcasts of society, granted we are in an area that has a very backwards way of thinking, especially the younger ones, but still! it's just so frustrating, it's not as if she and I insult them just because they look and are the way they are, so why do they insult us? not like we call them names for being heterosexual, or make fun of how they dress and look, just urgh. sometimes I've had enough you know? sorry for my ranting, but I was wondering if anyone ever felt that way? and why is it that the 'straight' people are always considered normal and everyone else isn't? what even defines normal anyway? and just URGH

[Guest Maria_B]

I always hated the term straight as it implied anyone of a varying sexuality was then somehow ''bent''.

My personal opinion shan't be shared on these forums, however, because it would probably upset a few people. But I do have what I call my ''main sources'' of the cause of this.

Terribly sorry that you had to put up with something so... disgusting... Because honestly, it is just plain disgusting to its very core.

I hope you can have more fun later in the day when you don't have to wade through kids conditioned to hurl a stone at fellow humans.

[Guest Caelen]

we had more fun in the evening, she got sick from to much cotton candy (sugar junkie), and there were less insults, but the weird thing was, a lot of people stopped us, even in mid conversation while we were wondering how to budget 27 tickets between the two of us (most rides took three each) to tell us how cute we looked as a couple, and that made me wonder, do other LGTB (et cetera) people do that to 'hetero' couples? and yeah it's a great compliment, but it also felt as if we were a side show to be oohed and awed over instead of just being a normal couple going to the Fair, I don't know maybe I'm over thinking, but it's the principle of the matter that's bothering me, that even though it's a compliment, we still aren't being viewed as equal or as a normal couple

[Guest Maria_B]

I'll chime in once again and also add that this bugs me off too.

The fact of the matter is, you are just a normal couple, just two people in love, not so hard to understand?

Why you are a spectacle I don't know.

I never have understood it.

Don't think I will.

As positive as it is, I agree, its negative.

Better then insults, I suppose? Glad you had fun, even if the cotton candy was a viscious night ruiner

[Guest Nebulous]

O man, I haven't had fairy floss for aaaages.

People get really out of sorts when they see something that doesn't fit into their space. They're compelled to say something. I don't know what they're trying to achieve, but I suppose they think it makes them feel better to be heard when their opinion was never asked for.

Don't let it bug you, And I know it's easy to say that but when it happens enough you realise that they're the only ones with the problem and you really don't need to care about how they feel. You're there going about your business and too bad for them if they don't like it, that's all.

As for the people stopping you to tell you how cute you are as a couple, perhaps it's a case of wanting to make themselves feel good, they see people who they think look like they could draw some negative attention, so they want to let you know because it makes them feel good to be so nice, and they think it will make you feel good as well. Happiness all 'round? Not so!

Is it just me or have people gotten a little more impulsive these days?

[Guest Caelen]

thank you everyone for commenting, and it's true, while it was nice it was still a damper, and I'm glad I could get this across without seeming petty as if I was analyzing a compliment (which a few people on the chat rooms have said I've been doing), the rides were great and the cotton candy (never heard of it being called fairy floss, will have to use that more often, sounds cooler ), was delicious minus the amount consumed,

[Guest Maria_B]

Australians have a weird way of saying things, Caelen

[Guest Marshall]

Sounds like you had an awesome time at the fair, other than the not so awesome insults. They way I see it, when someone insults someone else because of who they're in love with just seems like childish antics. Because really, it's just ridiculous what they say. But again, glad to hear you and your girlfriend had fun.