How's This Sound?

[Guest Daru]

"Dave, did you shave your legs?"

"Yes"

"why?"

"I'm a transsexual"

What do you think? I can't see any holes in my plan. If she freaks out, I can say, "uuugh mooom1 I'm kidddinnngg!! Cuz it's nice!11!"

[Guest Daru]

I've thought more about it now, and while that idea seems like a good one, I am going to save it for in case she DOES in fact ask me, and not rely on that fact.

For real, I am going to write her an email when I see she's online at work. Do you think it would be ok for me to send this kind of thing to her work email? She might freak out, and she'd be at work...

In it I would probably start out with, of course, a little blah blah don't freak out stuff, then confess myself. Then I would give a bunch of links to information, and maybe even a link here. I would probably close with something like

"I'm not going to start a conversation with you about this if it makes you uncomfortable. Take your time to get used to the idea, and then talk to me. If you want to forget about this email entirely, I understand, and I am OK with that for now. I really want to talk to you about it, and it took me a lot of courage to do this. Please don't tell Dad or Sam, or ANYONE else."

I need to talk to my girlfriend about this, too. I need to know if she will be comfortable if my mom wants to talk to me while she's here. I think it would help me, but I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable... Time to go start an awkward conversion...

Please give me feedback and suggestions... Thanks

Daru

[Guest skyy]

thats funny, just spring it on her like that, lol. but i alwasy like the equality approach at school. i just say i dont want hairy legs, if girls can shave, why cant i? thats my excuse for a lot of that "why should i conform to sociaty's standard". its working so far

[Guest Nelly]

Hi,

do not use her work email. Maybe someone else can also read it. I think a personal talkw ith your mother is best. EMail on work is not the right way between mother and kid.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest Sara N]

"Dave, did you shave your legs?"

"Yes"

"why?"

"I'm a transsexual"

I think that would give her quite a shock.

Email sounds like a better idea. I think it would be best to carefully plan things out, run the scenario in your head, and see what works the best.

Be sure to take into account the worst case scenario.

[Guest Evan_J]

I have to agree with Nelly on this one. Work email is not the best. If she has a personal email address and you want to send it during work hours to that one (still not the greatest to read it at work) at least that would be better since by and large anything "part" of work -including email addresses- employers let ya know are subject to monitoring in whatever way they deem appropriate- including reading it.

[Guest Rayne]

If you just want to break it to her, fine. But it might be better to find out a lot of facts about GID, when you knew you had it, etc because she's going to have questions. How you answer those questions could determine if she wants to stay with you or not.

[Guest Daru]

Well, yes, I would have sent it to her personal email. I have google talk, and I use gmail myself, so I can see when she is checking her email.

But I could also write her a letter... or just go talk to her, or something. I'm such a chicken ;-;

[Guest Michele H]

I'm not sure the shaved leg bit will be that effective as a coming out gambit. I've kept my legs shaved for 5 or 6 years ( several years before I was even willing to face up to who I am) and no one has ever commented on it.

[Guest Daru]

I bet my mom would

I had my legs shaved for quite some time in high school, even in gym class when I wore shorts. I felt like people noticed, but no one said anything either.

In school last year in a speech class, one girl wanted to do a demonstration speech on how to put on make up. She recruited a guy to do it, and she was going to dress him up and everything (lucky guy). She asked if she could shave his legs, and he said they already were Was an interesting day... she made it into a big deal, but none of the guys seemed to care.

In the end, she changed her topic and it never happened

[Guest hypersonic59]

I bet my mom would

I had my legs shaved for quite some time in high school, even in gym class when I wore shorts. I felt like people noticed, but no one said anything either.

In school last year in a speech class, one girl wanted to do a demonstration speech on how to put on make up. She recruited a guy to do it, and she was going to dress him up and everything (lucky guy). She asked if she could shave his legs, and he said they already were Was an interesting day... she made it into a big deal, but none of the guys seemed to care.

In the end, she changed her topic and it never happened

Haha, a girl actually gave a speech like that in my school! And, likewise, a guy got to get dressed up for it. It's too bad I wasn't in that class...

There are pictures on facebook. It's pretty funny, since everyone thinks the kid did it just to get the attention of the girl giving the speech, lol. Also, there was waaaaaaaay too much makeup. The kid looked like a... well, a "lady of the evening," teehee.

[Guest Tommy]

When i told my mom i sat down and talked her. She cried for awhile when she though i was asleep but she liked it better

(told her about ur idea) than just surpiseing her.

[Guest Nelly]

Hi,

I still have the opinion that a personal talk is the best solution. I also think that planing it to much only let it move far away and you will never do it.

So if you and your mum has time, go to her and ask if you can talk with her about something very important for you.

I talked to my girl when I was really down. She ask me why I am was so down and than I thought that this is the moment to tell. Maybe you can do it the same. If you are felling down and your mum notice it, she will help you and it also shows that it is so important for you that you are not fine in your situation.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest Sofiadragon]

I shave my legs on almost a daily basis & I am also saving up for some home electrolosys equipment so my wife & I can be rid of hair that we don't wany & not have to waste anymore money on shaving supplies.

[Guest Daru]

thanks all, the deeds been done

three weeks ago today!

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