AA

[Guest Jo-Ann]

this is a little trouble some for i wish i could be with the girls in aa.Do i have a friend that all my aa friends are men?Well they are there for me and i do like that.i dont get it am i always going to be on the boys side of things.Perhaps maybe i need to open up to some of the women i think would be acepting.i havent so i can complain to much cuz i havent done anything.i dont know if it will be any more helpful i think it will just help me feel more like a girl .perhaps thats

[VickySGV]

AA in most places has a somewhat rigid system on the Sponsorship line with males sponsoring and being sponsored by other males, and like wise for females. Other than sponsorship though, there is no restriction on who you know or talk to. The important thing though is to pick friends who can help you in your program, and who will not get in the way of your progress. As long as you are presenting male, you will be "one of the boys" since alcohol recovery is the main goal of the program, and not gender issues. Some clubs ares well mixed, but be careful because some women and men had intergender relations that contributed to their drinking behavior and need space.

[Guest rita63]

I have just finished getting a sponsor and the official AA pamphlet on sponsorship recognizes that some gay bi trans people may be more comfortable with an opposite sex sponsor. I suppose it depends on the individual group. My city is large enough to have a bi gay lesbian trans group that I hope to get to soon, most medium cities will have one.

rita

[Guest NyB]

this is a little trouble some for i wish i could be with the girls in aa.Do i have a friend that all my aa friends are men?Well they are there for me and i do like that.i dont get it am i always going to be on the boys side of things.Perhaps maybe i need to open up to some of the women i think would be acepting.i havent so i can complain to much cuz i havent done anything.i dont know if it will be any more helpful i think it will just help me feel more like a girl .perhaps thats

I can identify so much, I was looking for that too, with the men, and felt disappointed that they (the men) could not go with the program in my head and accept me as one of the dudes. I am always looking at the men and boys and wishing that I was part of their inner circle. Sometimes when I am passing in a meeting and the men treat me like one of the men, I am so happy... I agree with what Vicky said,

AA in most places has a somewhat rigid system on the Sponsorship line with males sponsoring and being sponsored by other males, and like wise for females. Other than sponsorship though, there is no restriction on who you know or talk to. The important thing though is to pick friends who can help you in your program, and who will not get in the way of your progress. As long as you are presenting male, you will be "one of the boys" since alcohol recovery is the main goal of the program, and not gender issues. Some clubs ares well mixed, but be careful because some women and men had intergender relations that contributed to their drinking behavior and need space.

about AA not being about gender issues, I have a great support system and talk to many people, both women and men alike who help me in my program and I have let go of the expectations for the most part that I will be one of the boys. I wont be until I am. Acceptance is the key. And maybe I still won't be, after I transition, but I think it will still be easier in many ways.

[Guest NyB]

I have just finished getting a sponsor and the official AA pamphlet on sponsorship recognizes that some gay bi trans people may be more comfortable with an opposite sex sponsor. I suppose it depends on the individual group. My city is large enough to have a bi gay lesbian trans group that I hope to get to soon, most medium cities will have one.

rita

Hi Rita: I have had a male sponsor, gay, and it worked to a point because I liked talking to a guy, since I am a transguy. He did not have any experience with trans issues though, which then led me to pick a sponsor who is FTM. I hope you find someone you clique with. Sponsorship is wonderful any way you slice it.

[Guest hoofie85]

After my cis female sponsor said some ignorant things to me when I came out to her as trans, I picked a good MTF trans friend of mine in the program to be my sponsor, even though I'm FTM. She's very cool about stuff, and we can relate to each other well, even if sometimes things are opposites. Just my two cents.