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Okay just a little question

If you had the option to stay MtF or take one little pill that made you loose all of your feminiem thoughts and desire to be a girl for the rest of your life? would you take it? even if it gave you complete happiness and self actualization?

For me the answer is really easy i would still take the treck from male to female. I don't think in my right mind i would ever take such pill. because being a girl is who i am...:) I couldn't imagine being anyone else...:)

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That's a hard one on one hand, you would be fundamentally changing who you are. But you would be okay with that afterwards. And it brings up a whole philosophical debate, that I put forward a bit of my views on whatisgender. But I would say no.

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By this time of my life, the answer is a definite NO! At my youngest realization of my secret self, the answer could maybe have been different, but that would assume that I had my current reasoning and experience, which did not happen. Too many GOOD things I did were the result of my dissatisfaction with my life, some to intentionally do good, others to do something, anything, good or bad, to simply occupy my mind from thinking about my dysphoria.

I think of the scene from Thornton Wilder's play Our Town, where Emily, a young woman who has died in childbirth, is allowed to relive one day of her life, and in the middle of her re-living, realizes that people never really see and experience the life they have while they are alive, Its a scene that brings a tear to my eye whenever I see it or think about it. A Pill to change my life, even the Dysphoria, NO WAY!! It would make my life even more invisible to me than pain has ever made it, its the problems that bring me to SEE my life and not just file it away.

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On the flip side here but if I lost being male I would cease to exist. It is a part of my essence - therefore I'd have to say No!

It would really be dieing as yourself and being reborn someone else.

I'm not ready to take that trip just yet.

Johnny - who waited too long for the sunlight to leave it now

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No, I personally could not change course of MTF, even if given the option to erase the female essence I am with a pill. I somehow picture some kind of sci fi horror scenario, where the Martians attempt to change all the females to create some "new world order" by taking over the medical industrial complex :rolleyes: and I am hiding in the hills with my stash of E, working with the Venetians to take it back, muwhaha.

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Hi Jo,

I might have taken the pill. Having spent 60+ years trying to be normal, it was not as bad as many have it. And, having been a Zen practitioner means that I've already avoided the unquestioning life that many non-trans people experience.

My life was relatively full to start - being trans has enriched it, but not by astounding degrees.

Choices are difficult, especially hypothetical ones. I might answer differently at another time.

Love, Megan

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Guest LottieZero

I don't think I could take the pill... I'm not convinced I'd be the same person at all after it, and I don't want that. Being a woman is such an essential part of who I am that I can't imagine not feeling female :)

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While my true inter self is Female and I could not even begin to explain the thousands of ways it would be missed if lost. Common sence tells me it would be wise to take a pill that would make one complete and happy. If said such pill would not only make one complete but also make one forget any and all feelings of transsexuality they ever had yes I would seriously consider it. My transition and journey has never been about a diesire to be a woman , but to make my mind and body match. I was mentaly born a woman with a physical birth defect. I am ok with this as its who I am. It took me many years to fully understand and except but mostly cause i thought I was stark raving crazy. What I would have given to have understood 30 years ago what I do now about myself. So basicaly yes the idea of this type pill does have its merits I would rather have a pill that would fix my body to fully match my mind. Even one that came along with monthy visits of aunt flow.

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