What To Expect In My First Appointment With A Gender Therapist?

[Guest AndreaSC]

I've finally bitten the bullet and today made an appointment to see the gender therapist recommended by my normal shrink (a psyscopharmacologist). What should I expect in my first appointment?

I've never been very good at talking about myself, so, to provide at starting point for my therapy, I'm thinking of writing her a letter describing all my gender related feelings.

[Guest Dr.Metropolis]

Andrea,

What I would expect for your first visit is basically what you have described, namely, talking about yourself. That was my first visit in a nutshell (last Friday), but depending on how long the session is, there could be more.

As another alternative to a letter, you could make notes on paper/index card about feelings that you want to talk about and expound upon them.

Dr M

[Sakura]

like most therapist they pick over everything your family life personal life and so on and so forth to make sure your trans feeling are not coming from some out side source the two gender therapist that i have seen usally never got to the trans issues till iether the end of the frist or the second session

just relax and remember these these ppl are your best friend when it comes to getting from point M to point W

Sakura

[Guest amie]

I always thought that would go through me like shards of glass, havin’ to go before a licensed therapist and sell my life story in order to eventually attain peace of mind and physical comfort. I thought about this long ago while talkin’ to a couple of other TS Girls in Cincinnati, right? They told me that based on my mannerisms, my voice, and the way I express myself I’d be fast to hormones goin’ through a few they know. But not everyone agrees with that, do they? Example, There’s a therapist here in Vegas that I should go see because, well-he’s, “no nonsense”. That comin’ from a girl that sounds like Steven Seagul with the physic of Lance Armstrong. Go figure?

[Guest lauren33]

in my first therapy session all we talked about was my life up until this point. a few gender questions like: when did i realize i was different? and when did i first crossdress?. nothing too heavy though it went on for 2 hours. just remember that these people are there to help you, not judge you in any way. just be open and hionest with your answers and you can't go wrong.

[Guest Evan_J]

I'm peeking into you alls section, but, (thinking its the same mtf or ftm) my first appt was flled with completing a questionaire that was pre-set and written into by the therapist. Not a lot for me to do but answer what I was asked. I would say relax, be your self , you will be fine.

[Guest Sofiadragon]

I am so nervous about going to my first meeting 'cause I don't have alot of money yet things are starting to look up for me financially so I should be able to start seeing one soon & I'm glad that I saw this 'cause it answers alot of the qestions that I had about this.

[Guest Daru]

I got a job, start next week. I hope I make enough to start seeing a therapist. I've already talked to one on the phone and she seems nice...

So even if I didn't directly ask for it, thanks for the insight

[Sally]

The first session can be quite intimidating, especialy if you have never been to any type of therapist and you are in your 50s. My first session went so well that I consider her to be one of my best friends, I can't wait until the next session just to get to chat with her again. Everything started out oddly. I had made all of the arrangements via E-mail using my female name. I had not started dressing again since my marriage. I was a few minutes early and had forgotten the suite number - I was wondering around the lobby trying to find a building directory, I didn't really want to ask anyone where her office was because she is a gender therapist and I'm still very new to accepting my condition. I walked out of the lobby into a courtyard and there was a woman talking on her cellphone, she told the person on the phone to hold for a minute and asked me if I needed help. Although I was dressed masculine and even wore a mustache at the time I was thinking in more of a female mode and could ask for directions. I told her who I was looking for and she returned to the phone call and told them she would call back later. She put her hand on my shoulder and said, "You must be Sally." It was very easy from there - fill out a form for her records go into the inner office and just talk and cry a lot in the first session. The best thing that I have ever done for myself.

Don't be afraid - they aren't trying to talk you out of anything they just help you to be sure and help guide you as you do transition.

Sally