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How to Overcome Opposition to Your Transition By Others


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Guest Jenny B Good

... As far as I'm concerned part of transition is breaking that cycle of living for others. .....

Too true.. Collateral damage from one's own negative image.

The hardest part is not projecting that negative image onto someone else (ie. not giving them a fair go). You girls are right. Not everyone understands. Transgenders are like 1% of the population. How would you expect anyone to perceive you? They don't have the experience. So lets make it a positive one.

As Aunty Kate says " Don't be mean"

Love and respect

Jenny

OXOXOXOXO

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Guest eliza.d

shelly, becky, and all..... we are family, our experiences may be different because we are ultimatwly individuals, but our truth and our fight to live as ourselves is shared...a collective one.

i am a southerner, and i live i sc. much more backwards that wisconsin. its hard not to be offended by being misgendered and misunderstood. but we must remember, as was said before, we are 1 percent of the populatio and more often than we hope, misunderstood and misrepresented. it is our responsibility to set an example to the world as a whole, and for each other. we may be but one special person, within one percentii of the population, but our contribution to the overall understanding of who we are is significant. we can as individuals contribute to the whole of who we are. the flood begins with one drop of rain. nothing we say or do is insignificant, no matter how vulnerable and insignificant we may feel. we are here for each other, and here for humanity. we must remember that we are as important as we believe ourselves to be.

there are many of us here in the us, and worldwide. in that, we protect not only ourselves but each other, and all.

let no one keep you down, and let not yourself hold you back. be who you are. be proud. be truthful. and be just.

just what and who you are, nothing more, nothing less. the world must listen. if we truly listen to our hearts.

be strong, you are beautiful. let no one tell you you are not. we are blessed. we have the opportunity to enact change, not o ly withing ourselves, but in our world.

come here, stay here. go there and stay there. this is our world as much as it is the world of those that would seek to misunderstand us and condemn us.

we must fight for truth and equality. we are truly our brother's.... and our sister's keeper.

be an example, for yourself, for others, and for all.

love will conquer hate. just be patient. it takes time.

faithfully yours,

Eliza D

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Guest eliza.d

thought id like to add an update of good news.

my dad said to me this am on the phone: i know you cant help being who you are and cannot help your condition. i just want you to be happy, and i can see your medicine is really helping you to be clear, rational, balanced and happy.

he admitted that i must continue to get treatment and that transition into the woman i am is the best thing, and what will make me live a happy, productive life.

he also said, that i am beautiful and i will make a beautiful daughter. he said he was sorry for ever doubting my truth.

i cried tears of joy and he cried too.

i love my dad dearly, and never meant to hurt him at anytime in my life, especially now.

he understands, finally my prayers have been answered!

praise be to god, my savior!

hugs,

Eliza

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Guest Alexapoda

Wow, I am so happy for you Eliza, that's fantastic. Having read some of your other posts I was relieved myself to learn that your father finally understands and accepts you. Congrats! ^-^

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Guest Stormrider2112

thought id like to add an update of good news.

my dad said to me this am on the phone: i know you cant help being who you are and cannot help your condition. i just want you to be happy, and i can see your medicine is really helping you to be clear, rational, balanced and happy.

he admitted that i must continue to get treatment and that transition into the woman i am is the best thing, and what will make me live a happy, productive life.

he also said, that i am beautiful and i will make a beautiful daughter. he said he was sorry for ever doubting my truth.

i cried tears of joy and he cried too.

i love my dad dearly, and never meant to hurt him at anytime in my life, especially now.

he understands, finally my prayers have been answered!

praise be to god, my savior!

hugs,

Eliza

Wow, awesome! :thumbsup:

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Guest Svenna

Eliza,

What a great moment you have shared with us all!

I am soooo happy for you and your father. Makes me proud to be human!

Best to you as you move forward...

Love, Svenna

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Guest eliza.d

thank you, dad really suprised me. im very happy to have my father back in my life in a supportive way.

and i am happy his suffering in this matter has diminished and he is living a happier life for it.

now, if my mom, and sister will come back to keall will be well again in my biofam. i do not expect it, but i hope and pray for it everyday.

hugs,

Eliza

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Guest EvenClose

You can transition in the mid-west. I have done it. The people who have always known you don't get it, but they don't have to either. Im a woman and thats that. The rest can just move on. I don't get up to please someone else...I don't brush my teeth to please someone else...I don't work at a certain place to please someone else..So why would I ever try to continue being something im not just to please someone else...

Like Becky said, be you and live with confidence.

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Guest eliza.d

evenclose, its refreshing that yet another sister shares my exact perspective about living our lives first and foremost for ourselves. if others, biofam, friends, neighbors, coworkers dont get it...oh well, thats their problem, not ours.

hugs,

Eliza

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