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I am a ftm and I had my surgery on dec 6. All of my family knew about me though for about a year when I came out with it. I was scared to tell some of my family because I live in a small town that is against gays, lesbians, and transgenders. But for some reason my family took it very well and have been supporting me since. There is one member of the family who doesn't though. My sister's husbands father is very big on the bible. My own father called him up telling him that I had changed sexes and that he didn't want an issue at dinners. Everytime he is invited to a family dinner or event he seems to bring up that who I am now and what I did is a complete sin. He tries to embarrass me by saying hey girl hey girl how are you. Intentionally throwing it out there that I'm not a male now. I have not once been about to stick up for myself. I don't know how to handle this situation with him. I see him this Christmas Eve and Christmas Day and I know he will bring it up again.

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I would be tempted to remind him that the bible is actually about love and forgiveness rather than condemnation and it is God's place to judge not his. However if he feels compelled to usurp God's prerogative-remember that whole "Judge not" passage-then perhaps he could find a better time to do it than a celebration of the birth of the one who said unmistakably in John 13:34 " A new commandment I give unto you that ye love one another " He never qualified it in any way. No love everyone except so and so. In fact He made it plain it was all inclusive. So who is sinning and breaking commandments?

May not lead to peace but it IS how I would probably handle it. There is not one mention condemning people for changing sex in the New Testament though we know it occurred then. But there are plenty condemning people for judging others and failing to act in love. Maybe this guy needs to actually read that good book. He might actually learn something. But then again a closed mind usually can't be reached. Even by the words of the God they profess to follow.

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Otherwise just refuse to acknowledge any comments that are clearly not aimed at you since you are not a girl or sinning

Johnny

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Tell the good Bible thumper to look up Judges 15:15-17 --

15Then he found a fresh jawbone of a donkey, reached down and took it, and with it he killed a thousand men. 16And Samson said,

“With the jawbone of a donkey,

heaps upon heaps,

with the jawbone of a donkey

I have slain a thousand men.”

17When he had finished speaking, he threw away the jawbone

Don't quote the verse to him, make him look it up, Tell him it reminds you of him!! He may not get the joke but maybe someone else will and stuff a biscuit in his mouth.

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Guest kira66662

things like that are complicated i had a hard time telling my parents and i havent had surgry nor do i think i need to but if you feel like its afecting you do what comes natury

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