FTM AA Sponsor Needed

[Guest NyB]

Hi, everyone, I am new to the site, I found you all in a google search where I was looking for a FTM, Big Book Thumpin', AA sponsor.

I am finally ready to do the steps. I have been sober this time for a year and 8 months. May 1st, 2010 is my sobriety date.

I have worked steps 1, 2 and 3 and I have started writing 4 with the directions from a straight guy I met at an online meeting, but the more I write on the 4th step the more I see I really need a transguy who has already walked my path to share my 5th step with. I don't want to share my 4th/5th step with a straight guy, or a straight woman or a lesbian. There are some things that only an FTM alcoholic is going to be able to identify with and honestly I am looking for his experience strength and hope as it relates to alcholism and transition. I did find a transguy in the Face to Face FTF meetings in Manhattan, but he would not take me through the steps. He kept balking and telling me I am not ready. I am sorry, but Bill didn't tell Bob, uh, dude you are not ready, take a year before you start the steps... he took him through them... I am so ready to do them, because I want to help others, especially in the trans community through them...

I scanned some posts and it looks like there is an AA group on this site for us. I will look more.

Any help is appreciated! Especially if you are that guy who can sponsor me, or you know of someone who can and will...

I live in Manhattan.

Thanks, Tommy

Edited January 2, 2012 by Amethyst_Redemption
Removed possible last name

[VickySGV]

Hi Tommy;

On Sunday's at 9pm Eastern time, we do have an AA/NA chat over in the Substance Abuse AA/NA Chatroom. The chat rooms do take a separate registration, where you can use the same name and password that you do here. We would love to have you there with us. The moderator/facilitator for the Chat is knows of an online AA meeting for Trans Folk, and while she gave it to me, I have managed to get it buried in cyberland here and don't have it at the minute. She should be along in a bit here since she takes a mojor interest in this forum, and will be able to get the address for you.

I am on my second recovery trip, and have now gotten three years out of it. My first recovery did not include my Trans issues, and while it lasted about 16-17 years, I know the Trans issues were at least one of the triggers for my relapse. Don't let the lack of a FTM sponsor hold you up on doing work. There are some surprisingly open and understanding people out there in the disguise of a recovering drunk. I know at the minute that you are pretty touchy and are still getting used to the idea that you are not the only one to abuse alcohol and being FTM at the same time. It is one of the lessons that says "we are not like normal people" that was a kicker for me, its OK not to be normal!! Most people in a postion to sponsor some one have gotten to that realization, and can laugh at themselves and will not give a sneeze at our being just a little more off the normal setting than the others.

Keep up the good work though, you deserve it.

[Michelle 2010]

Info coming your way.

Check pm.

Michelle

[Guest NyB]

Thanks so much Vicky and Michelle! I am excited about attending both meetings and integrating my trans stuff into AA more fully.

[Guest CJ's_here]

So I googled FTM and AA since I am looking for an FTM sponcer as well. Google led me here however I read the thread and did not see the infor for where the meeting is. And Tommy said thanks I look forwared to checking out those two meetings and I still didn't see any info here. Please fill me in. Thanks.

-CJ

[Charlize]

CJ, We meet tonight, Sunday, at 9:00 Eastern in the chat rooms. Register there first.

Hope you can make it . I'll look for you.

Hugs,

Charlie