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Guest Zenda

Would you want to blend into society?  

35 members have voted

  1. 1. Would you want to blend into society?

    • Yes
      31
    • No
      4


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Kia Ora,

I'm new to this polling lark so I hope I've done it right...

I wonder how many members who are about to transition or are in the process of transitioning -would if they could, blend into the woodwork of society as their affirmed/acquired gender ?

And if you do happen to have a choice and choose not too…why would you want to be become a possible target for bigotry?

The choice seems like a no brainer but amaze me!!!

Metta Jendar :)

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Guest CharliTo

Hmm, let's see.

If I could sure...but I can't since my career, if it suceeds, will include having to live in the public eye...and I have always tried to be an upfront honest person so if I had to lie that I'm not trans...I just can't do it I think.

I am sad that I grew up as a boy for many years and feeling that my mind and body is disconnected, but I am not ashamed of who I was back then and how I tried real hard to better myself, even if I was in a hard denial about my gender identity. :P ...therefore, I wouldn't want to fudge my past with something not true...which will easily feel empty if I tell lies...

...and I think in the end I really want to make sure I have a full life...

On the other hand, I do want to blend in while I'm in public though...passability would be nice. =_=.

So...in the end, I don't know if I would go to a yes or no answer to this :P I'd say other :3

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I probably blend in about 90% of the time... the rest of the time I might get a few glances or stares. But I actually don't mind that. As strange as it sounds, part of me wouldn't want to blend in 100%! I've actually become somewhat proud of my identity as a t-girl... it's who I am, and there's no denying that. Plus it's always good to make people think outside the square. :)

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I would love to bland in so that it is my choice of who knows my past - I want to keep the friends that want me, but I would be very happy not to stand out in a crowd. I want to live the rest of my life as a woman, I'm not ashambed of my past as a male (I tried to be a good guy), but I would rather that it not be the only topic of discussion when I enter a room. I worked so hard to blend in as I guy - I'd like to blend in as my true self as well.

Sally

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Guest eshaver

Jendar, first I will say that what I am about to say might be a repeat of topics I have already responded to. I'm 58, 6-3 and I weigh about 213lbs. i like to look Professional at all times . i spend a lot of time choosing my outfits as I am constantly observing REAL women , especially ones in the advertising business. Now even though I only get a paultry amount from the government as I am on disability, I still buy what I can from quality stores . Generally I buy from the Thrift stores as I can at least look like I came from a prominent background . It also helps to "Blend in"!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously folks , by wearing well manufactured , not Trendy outfits you WILL BLEND IN !!! I can prove this to you also. if you buy the Classic or Preppy stuff, you will get along better within a straight encounter ! people tend not to focus on people that are well or conservatively dressed as they will on some trendy outfit .

If you are like me where you can't have the hormones , wear something not BLAND, but nice ! It works , really! Listen I live in a conservative city and I'm out there in public every day dressed female too! Get out of the closet folks , come out in the sunshine and LIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ellen Shaver B)

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Guest Elizabeth K

:blush: I would love to disappear into the world as a woman, and although I love this site, I would leave it all behind and move on. Terrible but true.

Lizzy

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Guest Sarinah

Im a little ways off from takeing any serious steps in transitioning but heres my thoughts on it.

I don't think I could simply blend in. Being transgender is part of who I am. Im not going to make an issue to point it out to everyone, but I wont deny it if I am questioned. I will most definetely inform anyone who is close to me or wants to be.

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