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How to Pass with Large Hands?(MtF)


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Guest MissSiul

I'm not in hormones yeat,but one of my biggest problems are my hands.They are not your average skinny hands from most teen boys.They are 18cm the last time I checked,and are quite thick.I need to lose 10kg to get into the weight I supposed to be,but still,the bones of my hands are not so skinny either.

At least,most of the time adult males tend to have bigger or at least thicker hands then mine,but they are still completely not feminine.

If you have big hands,how you do to make them more feminine?Did happened of someone noticing them?

Thanks for your answers^^

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Discussion of hand size makes me think of Fred Astaire. In his time, he made many movies that usually had dance scenes in them, Fred dancing with Ginger Rogers. What about Fred? He was a lanky guy who had really big hands. And when you see him dance, you never notice. He always turned them down or away from the camera, or kept them folded up,

I don't have much time to watch old movies, but I always watch Fred Astaire and follow his hand movements on screen. Lessons to learn there!

My hands are relatively big for my size too. and I do some of the Fred Astaire things - not keeping my fingers extended, but curved instead, not reaching straight out, but with bent wrist instead. Beyond that, I do think that HRT will eventually make them less muscular - but it isn't happening yet.

Love, Megan

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Guest Donna Jean

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My dears..........

Large hands is the least of our passing worries!

I know women basketball players with large hands....and trust me...they are women!

Work on your presention, mannerisms, voice and you'll be just fine!

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Guest Elizabeth K

My hands are not huge but they are large. The solution is to feminize your hands. Moderately long nails help - but wear slim bracelets as well.

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Lizzy

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Guest MissSiul

Elizabeth your hands are beautiful,very feminine

Sometimes when I have my nails longish they look a little better

My problem is that the palm is large,the fingers are thick,except for the

"ring" and the "pinky",if all of them were like the "ring" I would feel better

My hands looks horrible when I let them on surfaces,I try to hide or let them

closed most of the time.

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Guest Jaques

I understand how you feel, my hands are very small, even for a bio woman and im a transman..........my feet too, i cant buy mens shoes, have to have boys, not much fun but feel just accepting those things which cant be changed helps - in your case, many bio women have big hands and feet these days, women are getting bigger......

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

In my case, I found square cut nails make my hands look smaller.

I believe rounded nails make fingers look longer so my goal was to do the opposite of that.

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Of course there are the klutzy folks like me that dislocated 7 joints in three fingers about 24 years ago, and have big. misshapen, false joints in 2 of the fingers today. Put your elbows on a table with your forearms at about 45 degrees in front of you, and just relax your hands. Do it in front of a web cam and get a picture. (Or just hold your hands in a normal typing position too!!) This is a very nice and feminine postion for hands, with a picture, figure whether you want to lengthen the overall look of the fingers (oval, longer nails) or shorten their look and thin them a bit (square nails). Otherwise just have a good story about tripping over a fire hydrant in downtown Los Angeles like I do. Laugh it off and people will not see them again.

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Guest miss kindheart

Lets face it no TG can pass every test

I like The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

<<<< hug >>>>

:wub: vanna

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Guest shadowghost21

I have seen women with large hands. But honestly I think the oval nails thing does the trick. Another thing I would recommend for a little self esteem booster is to look at other womens hands. You will notice that in proportion to their arms or wrists are not all that "feminine." Don't stare at magazine ads those woman have some of the best hands I have ever seen. My fiance has stubby nails and I think it can make her hands appear, more manly. The bones in my hands are so big I can't fit bangles around them :( I have to find plus size bracelets just to get over the knuckle joints. I'll try and get a picture up. Note, not on HRT (yet!) and I keep my nails oval tipped, don't really care what others think of me in guy mode, no one really every says anything.

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Fred Astaire had freakishly large hands. Way out of proportion to his size so he learned a trick and trained himself to always keep his thumbs tucked in. Whether dancing or talking. Watch one of his movies. Worked like a charm and few people ever notice his hands. You can tell when you know to look for it

Mine are not big but are too square for a woman, broad with short fingers. Having now read about gender bone structure differences I realize they are male proportioned. But living female I always wore long nails and kept them perfectly groomed. Made them much more feminine.

I also wore more rings to draw the eye to different parts of my hand rather than having one focal point to emphasize the proportions. I think overall I would notice more square hands on a woman much more than hand size

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Okay... Got my album made and my left hand uploaded.

Sorry to do this to you, but your hand and my GG daughter's look just the same, I was helping her with some bead work yesterday and was watching and doing some sorting of warp threads, so hands were the focus.

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Guest shadowghost21

Okay... Got my album made and my left hand uploaded.

Sorry to do this to you, but your hand and my GG daughter's look just the same, I was helping her with some bead work yesterday and was watching and doing some sorting of warp threads, so hands were the focus.

Heh, I guess I have been fooling myself :)

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Guest ashley4623

I am kind of ok with my hands I just don't like the way my thumb is. I'm hoping hrt fixes that. Anyone else feel the same? Anyone who's been on hrt longer that my 2.5 months notice a difference?

Also... As mentioned, if you are good at how you present / carry your hands... That can go a loooooong way.

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