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hey guys, I just thought I would post this out there in case anyone is getting frustrated. I was told it can take up to 2 years to get t? well... i went to my doctor the other day, before my physc.appt. and she was ready to put me on T. I think maybe my age and i dont have a ton of time to play around. I know what I want like i never knew anything or any other way of being. She said she wanted to give me T right then and there but felt at least a month would suffice. I know im very very very lucky to have this move fast. I think my life is depending on it now. I have been at the point of destruction until i reached out and found you guys here. Thank you thank you. I just wanted to post something positive and express how easy it can be. I think if the doctor really knows your ready or doesnt have any biased feelings they really should just shell it out. My doctor happens to be a mtf and has a heart of pure gold. Wish me luck boys, this is the beginning of my new journey. I am very excited!!

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Congratulations.

Yeah, unfortunately/fortunately the sometimes it seems that the details of the Standards of Care of set in stone. They exist to protect people and save them from future regret, unrealistic hopes, and unsound conclusions about the self. Very often the only way people can be truely conscious of all thats happening with them (how many times have you understood "part" of something about yourself and not understood the rest? or knew the problem but could see the solution for the trees?) is with objective assistance from someone trained to do just that, ie a therapist. By and large, when folks in transition or considering it talk to others they start to create (heck, I did it) a mental expected time frame for what supposted to happen to them. One of the first ones is "seems like people do therapy for about 3 months then get their letter, 3 months and then I'll get it". The fact is, if the therapist is a stickler for the standards of care, 3 months and 12 sessions is a MINIMUM. Its not what you may only be asked to do. In truth there is no time limit for how long a therapist can keep you in therapy prior to recommending. It was actually my therapist who enlightened me on that. Also, it is a matter of every doctors personal decisions and discretion with regard to what he or she will require in the prescribing of hrt. Some feel that yes they rather see a letter so that they can feel confident this person does indeed know what they are doing and is sound and they therefore are not "messing this persons life up" by giving it. Also, they may feel protected if in fact later you claim they were. Whatever the choice of the doctor is, arguing with a given doctor or being hysterical and running off to the next to see if you can get it suggests a) maybe the person really is not ready/mature in the first scenario and B) maybe the person is not currently using the best judgement in the second. Best advice would be believe that someone who's made this their profession knows best. When you truely have cause to question the judgement (in the cases of poor therapists especially) do it reasonably, with the intent of locating someone who has your best interest at heart as opposed to their personal predilections and your personal wants.

Wow, I wasn't supposed to write a whole novel about it :P

In any case, even after getting my famous T script I found I like therapy. I hope you have that experience too. I like working on all my stuff lol- probably because I know it all affects one another. Stuff you never think has anything to do with transitioning can affect it and and the other way around as well. And its just much easier to talk all that stuff through with someone who understands the gender aspect.

Welcome to the ride B)

Good to see another fella around here.

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That's excellent. Congratulations!

I start T in a little less than a month now too. It does stink when you've felt one thing all your life and every new person you go to tells you to "think about it". As if you HAVEN'T been thinking about it.

On the good side, it's only a month, and soon you'll be on your way to hormone heaven! Hopefully everyone else can have the same opportunity.

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