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Went To My Last Trans Group Meeting As The Real Me


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I went to my last transgender support group as the real me for the first time (it is called transfamily but the way) it is for those who are transgender as well as there family & friends but I was so happy I was seen by a few people on the street & no one said anything or looked oddly @ me & when I got there all the people @ the meeting treated me as if that is how I had always been going to the meetings it was great, & then when I got home I changed back to the male me :P (we live right above my mother in law & she doesn't know about my transition yet, I'm not ready for her to know yet) & I actually felt the depression settle back in it was so weired, I can't wait till I can see a therapist & get on hormones 'cause I haven't been that happy since I both heard my wife say that she would marry me & then a year & a half later when I held my son for the first time when he was born. I am thinking about going to all future meetings as Sofia from now on 'cause I felt that I could truely be me it was great. But I just need to get the money up so I can get the clothes to be able to do it 'cause the snow is getting ready to come & I don't have anything for a woman to wear in the snow :lol: oh well I'll figure it out.

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Congratulations!

Isn't it amazing how liberating it feels to go out as yourself? After all of those years of hiding and denying your true self - to actually go out in public and have nobody pointing at you and screaming or running away in horror is such a feeling of freedom. Fear is our biggest obsticle (not counting money), I was afraid that when I went out for the first time I would run into everyone that I knew or every one would stare and point and start whispering behind my back, what actually happened was that no one seemed to think twice about me and the Fedex man held the door for me - that felt wonderful.

Be happy and true to yourself and life can be great.

Love ya,

Sally

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Congratulations!

Isn't it amazing how liberating it feels to go out as yourself? After all of those years of hiding and denying your true self - to actually go out in public and have nobody pointing at you and screaming or running away in horror is such a feeling of freedom. Fear is our biggest obsticle (not counting money), I was afraid that when I went out for the first time I would run into everyone that I knew or every one would stare and point and start whispering behind my back, what actually happened was that no one seemed to think twice about me and the Fedex man held the door for me - that felt wonderful.

Be happy and true to yourself and life can be great.

Love ya,

Sally

You are too right fear was the biggest thing that was keeping me from going out but I thought that I just needed to bite the bullet & do it. The biggest thing that I am having trouble w/ is what I am going to do about my mother in law 'cause she lives below my wife & I & sometimes it is a pain to avoid the woman (neither of us can stand her) I am also having trouble about thinking of how to let her (IE the mother in law) know about me being transgender I am honestly thinking about taking her w/ to a therapist appointment (after I start seeing one that is lol) & having the therapist talk to her about it 'cause my mother in law isn't the broghtest lightbulb in the box, but I don't know how well that, that would go over. Any ideas on that field would be helpful :D

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Sorry, I can't comment on the mother in-law, but I just wanted to say that I can only imagine what that felt like. Im so happy for you. I have been dreaming of the day I get to go out as myself. I can't wait.

Hugs,

Katie

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