First Visit to new doctor after surgery

[Guest Marcus6536]

So I recently moved to a new town, Missoula, where everyone said that it was more accepting of transgender, gays, lesbians, etc. I went to a brand new doctor today so I had one, and she was horrible to me. She greeted me very friendly seeing a guy but once I told her my issue, that i still have ovaries, her attitude completely changed towards me. She informed me that no endocronologists would take me on because they didn't believe in gender changing, and only on gynocologist would consider me for that surgery. Even though I have my top done, she still looked at me like I was foreign. She was very rude to me. And the worst part was that after this was all over, she said, "well we are all done, ....." This is the part where you either say "well we are all done sir, or ma'am and she couldn't find the words. I have everything changed to male and look male. But in that moment I felt like a female again. It was horrible.

Sorry I had to put my feelings out there. Thanks for listening.

[JJ]

Completely unacceptable and I would be sorely tempted to write her a letter explaining how inappropriate and unprofessional her behavior was as well as the distress it caused you. I'd suggest she educate herself about transgender-with particular attention to the fact that the AMA now recognizes this as a physical and not a psychological condition. Essentially a birth defect that is increasingly defined around the world as an intersex condition.

Drs. are sadly human. They will reflect the general population and unfortunately that MD does not make them any wiser or better informed in many cases.

Then I'd contact the local LGBT community and find another Dr.

I am very sorry you had that experience. It is one I greatly fear myself. I suppose we all do. Of course the fault laies in her ignorance and not in who you are and how you present. But it still hurts. Maybe if you send that letter you will spare the next trans person she encounters that humiliation and pain

Johnny

[Guest Risu]

I am very sorry to hear you were treated this way by an alleged medical professional. I too struggled for a long time to find doctors willing to help me and prescribe me HRT. It really makes a huge difference when you find a good doctor.

The doctor I have now has no issues with using proper pronouns, asking me what name I would like to be called by, etc, that I had to ask him during one visit why he was so accepting and found it so easy when so many others turned me away and refused me. His answer was simply that he had had a long history of treating trans people and it wasn't an issue for him at all.

Maybe you should try contacting a local LGBT center and see if they can point you to a more open minded and experienced doctor.

Best of luck in your search.

*Hugs*

~Jade.

[Michelle 2010]

I also think it was very poor manners by the Doc. I would consider a letter to the state liscencing and/or review board. Although the ramifications won't be serious, it probably will require a written response by the Doc and may help educate...

Michelle