Do You Hide Your Cross Dressing?

[Guest leopron]

Kendra, like you I had always felt terrified of dressing anywhere that wasn't by myself, now my wife knows who I am and doesn't want to participate, and on top of that I have a 17 year old son who doesn't know, and at this time he has too many of his own problems, for me to inform him. So I do not get time by myself to dress as I would like. So my wife in all her infinite wisdom suggested a support group. I found two of them in the New England area, and decided to investigate them further one of the groups required a face to face interview in a public place prior to allowing me to go to a meeting to see if I would care to join, this was for the groups protection and I felt it was for my own protection as well. The interview went well, and last Saturday I went to a meeting to check it out. I brought my fem clothes with me, as I have never dared to go out in public dressed nor been around someone else while I was dressed. There was a facility where I could dress and apply my makeup. I was really nervous, but once I came out and meet with the other girls and got to know them a bit I had a fantastic time, we had a meeting discussing the groups business then a social hour then we had a pot luck dinner. All of this took place in a closed meeting facility, so it was extremely safe and secure, I was with like minded people as there were also spouses that supported, some of the girls, and they were extremely kind and considerate as well. I have to put this day up there with some of the best days of my life, i.e. my wedding day, and the day my son was born, and the day I found LP, cause without LP I might not have even found the courage to go through the face to face interview.

So for me a little risk and a lot of safety in mind really paid off big time for me, as I cannot wait till the next meeting.

I can only hope that this inspires you and gives you courage to not be so terrified, but please keep safety in mind as well.

Huggs and Love

Leopron

[Guest Kendra K]

Kendra, like you I had always felt terrified of dressing anywhere that wasn't by myself, now my wife knows who I am and doesn't want to participate, and on top of that I have a 17 year old son who doesn't know, and at this time he has too many of his own problems, for me to inform him. So I do not get time by myself to dress as I would like. So my wife in all her infinite wisdom suggested a support group. I found two of them in the New England area, and decided to investigate them further one of the groups required a face to face interview in a public place prior to allowing me to go to a meeting to see if I would care to join, this was for the groups protection and I felt it was for my own protection as well. The interview went well, and last Saturday I went to a meeting to check it out. I brought my fem clothes with me, as I have never dared to go out in public dressed nor been around someone else while I was dressed. There was a facility where I could dress and apply my makeup. I was really nervous, but once I came out and meet with the other girls and got to know them a bit I had a fantastic time, we had a meeting discussing the groups business then a social hour then we had a pot luck dinner. All of this took place in a closed meeting facility, so it was extremely safe and secure, I was with like minded people as there were also spouses that supported, some of the girls, and they were extremely kind and considerate as well. I have to put this day up there with some of the best days of my life, i.e. my wedding day, and the day my son was born, and the day I found LP, cause without LP I might not have even found the courage to go through the face to face interview.

Sounds wonderful! More and more I've been leaning towards a support group. Someone here at Laura's gave me links.

The closed facility really is appealing.

Thanks for the thoughts.

[Guest MichellePetite]

Hi all,

I was just browsing and spotted this topic, as it looms large in my life at the moment having been clandestine all the way through and mostly clandestine down deep due to my past line of work et al. and always alone - for the most part - and reading all the posts I was minded to think it is true we are not alone nor need we be gosh this interweb thingy can be put to great use! any way I'm working on a reply to another topic which also touches this one so I shall return to this at a later date. Any way, I am minded to mention Eddie Izzard and his attitude to the whole crossdressing thing, I don't know what the 'take' is him in this neck of the woods, but he has certainly got an admirable attitude to whether he should be in the 'closet' or not! I can only aspire to that, I draw the line at the beard tho, I shaved mine off over 30 years ago, they don't go with a dress for me!

[Guest Lacey_tv_au]

I hide my dressing, why?

Probably a selfish reason I kinda like the "me" time of it all and enjoy my little secret

Would love to share with another but I know I only look sexy in my mirror

[Guest MaudeB]

Yes and No,

So for the No part: I live alone and most of the time work from home so there isn't a day that I won't dress, in my kind of garments... Fully !

The Yes part comes from the fact that the layout of the flat has a very large bay-window and I have the blinds shut most of the time so that noone sees me... There is two doors to come in my flat and BOTH are ALWAYS locked...

So, yes I hide in a closet but it's a comfortable one.

[Guest geek]

Yes, I hide my dressing from others. I hide it to such extents that I've only ever wore makeup once and that was only because it was a school event, homecoming week, called opposite day. I was mistaken for a woman all day, it was glorious! At one point in time I had a girlfreind that might have known, but never said anything. I suppose it would've been hard not to wonder why I had no problem wearing her clothes if in a hurry and mine were still in the wash.

[Guest *Charlotte P*]

I kept hidden my love of panties from my ex, though she had my try on her stuff from time to time and through a bit of manipulation on my part, she started to buy me panties just a few years before our divorce (the panties had nothing to do with the divorce)

While having a rough spot in my current relationship. I informed my at the time girlfriend that I had underdressed in the past and that I had an urge to take it further and to get into crossdressing. I let her know that I had a small collection of panties at one time ( but had purged due to dating) and now if we were to move forward and get engaged, and finally get married I wanted her to EVERYTHING about me.

She accepted it right then and there and started shopping for me the very next week. She did my makeup and taught me about it as much as she could. She hasn't stopped since and has been nothing but supporting and wonderful about it. I hide it in plain sight from the rest of the world (girls jeans, stealthy makeup, panties, bra's) but can fully dress around her and the house when it's empty or just the two of us.

The dog knows but she isn't going to tell anyone..

Hugs

Charlotte

[Guest MichellePetite]

Hi all,

The most wonderful thing about dogs is that they don't care what one wears.... just what one does ... would that it were true with all humans!

LnK

Michelle

[Guest sarah_uk]

I hid, kept my clothes in a locked security box under the bed, that my so thought was full of my electrical junk.

No need to hide from her now that she knows tho, its a massive weight of my shoulders.

Not up to coming out to the rest of the family/world tho, not yet. Maybe in time...

[Guest Wanda Michelle]

I have been cross dressing as long as I can remember. I love being and feeling like a woman. I stash all my female things where the rest of the family doesn't go. I haven't told anyone about my desires because they wouldn't be very accepting.

Wanda.

[Guest Kati]

I am very much a closeted-cross dresser and am to keep it that way, at least in the town where I live. Someday I would like to venture out in public when on a business trip or holiday destination, but at the moment such trips aren't in my immediate future.

[Guest KatyDesire]

It took me 50-something years to come out to MYSELF - I always rationalized it. Finally, I came to accept that this is who I am (at least partially - still working on that with the GT) and then, after much internal struggle, told my wife of 30-something years. She was very supporting and willing to go along with whatever I needed - as long as it was just between us. (No one else knows). However, neither of us was comfortable with me dressing in front of her so, although she knows and will even buy things for me if I ask, I keep that part of my life for me only.

I really don't think that hinting is the right way to go. I think it is usually better to discuss things in male mode, in the bright light of day, when neither of you is especially stressed by other things, with lots of reassurances that you are not about to leave her for another man, or any of the other many fears she will have.

Probably something to explore with a gender therapist.

Its good to know that many of you are still dealing with the same problems I am.

Hugs all round.

[gennee]

Dessiee, I came clean with my wife when she found some of my stuff. I hadn't been dressing that long. I had planned to tell her later but the opportunity came a lot sooner than I expected. She was shocked when I told her. It has taken time and patience but she now accepts me as a transgender woman.

I was always open to answering what questions she had, which came up on several occasions. Those urges never go away. I'm sure that there may be some questions you wife may have that she may not have asked yet. There are also may be those underlining fears that she may be afraid to ask. Don't be surprised if it comes up. Keep the lines of communication open.

[Guest actuarylilium]

I still live at home with my parents and two siblings, and I hide it. My Mum caught me a few years looking at transgender stories, and made it quite clear that this was not the sort of thing that I should be doing. They don't know anything about the inner struggles i've been having, but my other relatives know and completely accept and love me as a crossdresser

I'm still new to crossdressing, so my warddrobe currently consists of only some panties and a pair of tights. I'm planning to buy a bra soon, which will be another step upwards. Since these items can be easily hidden underneath my joggers, I now always wear them whilst out of the house. Those tights feel amazing on my legs Sometimes I wear them inside of the house, but if I do I always make sure I keep my trousers up so that no one can see.

I hide these in my Uni bag, where my parents never look. Even if my wardrobe became too large, I could still hide them in my room since my parents rarely venture in there, and my brother isn't nosey.

I'd absolutely love to go out of the house as a Woman, but I'd not sure how soon that's going to happen. I don't like bars etc, because I'm teetotal, for me it would be more about shopping and everyday life. My warddrobe isn't big enough for that anyway. Unless I changed outside of the house and had a willing assistant, I don't think that day will happen whilst I'm still living at home.

Lots of love, Lily xxx

[Guest TuckerDIT]

I am only out to one person and I aim to keep it that way for as long as I can. I accidentally told my friend when I had too much to drink one night. I moved back in with my folks awhile ago so it's a little more difficult to dress, but I make it work. I keep going back and forth between wanting to go out in public and just remaining secretive about it.

[Guest thevaliantx]

I have had periods of CD'ing over the years, when opportunity presented itself. Ironically, CD'ing isn't the resolution to my problem so there has been little need to hide anything. Having said that, my wife knew from the day we met that I was suppressing my feminine side. Up until recently I had Kristie tucked away in the corner of my mind. My wife has come to terms that in order for us to stay together, Kristie can't hide anymore. We will be in separate bedrooms.

[Guest crocsrule4]

Not in public but love to in the bedroom. Sadly my ex wife always wanted to be male and I lovingly indulged that

enjoying dressing female for her since I always felt female. When I told her I wish I was physically a girl she laughing dismissed it which broke my heart.

[Guest Ashleyjay]

If your wife is a "Post op" girl then shouldn't she be a bit more understanding? You say you are getting the "Urges" back again?

I am 42 and started "cross dressing" when i was about 8 years old.I remember my aunt making some soft toys and using tights or stockings as filling.Well I'm sure you know the rest))) I was given some to play with.It was bliss at first touch)))

I then cross dressed an awful lot in my early teens and then on and off for many years in private of course.

I had a gut feeling that my family may have known secretly because tights were hid,and then went i went back they were gone sometimes? I never ever felt like the man i was supposedly be? How can a strapping guy want to wear such beautiful feminine lingerie? I really don't know? shame guilt feeling weird? I went through the strongest ever urge in my early twenties.

I slimmed down( and i was a good size weightlifter) at the time.I sent for brochure after brochure on cosmetics,clothes,even "Hormonal"

catalogues.( before the internet) I was so very very frustrated and sad.I so hated my "Penis" that even surgery came to mind!

What would my friends and family say,think? How could there big strong brother or friend want this? The shame stopped me.

I was in the tug of war of my life.I wanted to dress up so much and look as feminine and attractive as i could,but also i loved my weightlifting and pride to much! For many years i just plodded on switching from the two and just kind of became the norm.

In the last few years it really hasn't been much of a thought? The odd slip on of stockings and heels when i am fortunate to be alone when i get "The Urge" but nothing more((( I have had a messy breakup of a lot of things in the past two years.Marriage and other personal troubles.Well ladies and ( well ladies) My "Urge" once again has come back! And i feel for the first time in my cross dressing career that i am going to bloody well enjoy it!!! I live alone now so have ample time and privacy to do what the hell i like))))

and i write this with a big grin on my soon to be beautifully made up face)))) I am for the first time going to find a "Club" and get to know others that are the same? Not to just talk cross-dressing,and make up or clothes? but to talk and maybe get to the root of this behaviour of ours? is there a link somewhere? what were our childhoods like? I am so looking forward to really getting dressed up again soon.

I have looked at dresses and heels and yes...they can be delivered right to my address with pride)))) I forget how good i looked....

I am what i am......

[Guest Ashleyjay]

I really hope my story helped you out there? We are not weird or perverts or sexually frustrated at all.That is just society's view !

We cant upset society now can we? i am probably the least sexual active guy around? It is not a big issue for me.It is funny when i am at work and my work mates look at a girl and her sexy body? Yes i look,but only to see her beautiful curves and what she is wearing(pregnant dog) lol.....

[Guest Binx]

Do you hide your cross dressing? If you are married, would you tell your wife? If you hide your cross dressing from your wife, how do you hide it? I use to cross dress before I got married. I stopped and now I am getting the urges again. My wife is a post op girl and want to be with a masculine male. She knows I use to cross dres, but gave that up. She would be ok with my cross dressing and even being gay. She would just divorce me, but we would be friends. I don't want her to leave. So I have hidden my latest cross dressing urges. I just can't hide my things in the house.

Dessiree2b

I don't hide my cross dressing. My fiance prefers I dress as a woman when I'm with him but twice a week I hang with my friends and can dress however I please. I am just beginning to let my male personality known. I've found open and honest communication about how dressing makes me feel and that I am the same person he fell in love with. I hope you two can find the balance you both want and need.

[Guest AshleighP]

I have to hide some aspects of my crossdressing from my wife. Such as wig, breastforms, and makeup. She would not approve or even understand these. I do have half my closet filled with women's clothes and a drawer full of panties, tights, and bras. She knows about all that. She knows I wear only panties for underwear and that I often wear tights, even to work. Occasionally ladies jeans and a top on the weekends, sometimes even when we go out. I still do most of my dressing when she's not home (like now for instance). I hope to someday be able to share the entire "Ashleigh" experience with her. Baby steps

[Guest Fiona]

I hide it from everyone except my wife..

[Guest christy01]

i have to hide mine, my family doesn't know, so i eather dress up in my bedroom at night and one of the rare times im home alone. in the fall or winter i will wear panties more often and hand wash them.

[Guest sweetcharlene41]

Yes, I hide it, been cross dressing all my life(closet), after my wife passed, I was finally able to do it quite frequently, in fact I would do it all day. Now my daughter moved in with me and I'm afraid to do it, as she doesn't know, any suggestions. Thanks

[Guest]

The only way I could think of to broach the question is to say something like "I was watching Maury today and they had on a bunch of guys that like to dress in women's clothing". Then try to start a conversation about the 'practice'...

Good luck..

ps Sorry for your loss......