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Guest sara w.

im thinking about shaving my legs and if i do ill just wear pants so no will know and i want to know if anyone sees any holes in my plan (btw i havn't come out yet, thats why im going to hide it)

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, sweetie....there's no holes in your plan as long as there's no hole in your pants!

But, seriously, do your folks see you after a shower...maybe in a robe? How about summertime and shorts? How about school? PE or gym class or whatever it's called nowdays? Visits to the doctor? Think about it..it could be embarassing if you were caught and have to explain it real fast!

Be careful ;)

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest April63

I'm thinking of the same thing. so far, I decided to start shaving. I've just been doing a little bit each day, since my legs are really hairy. I don't have a trimmer or any of those sprays, which means there is only one way to get it all off: the razor. I've dulled a few blades, but now the fronts of both thighs are nice and smooth. The backs are almost there. I haven't decided if I'm going to take the leap and start shaving below the knees yet. But I've read a few posts, any people here are saying that nobody notices that you've shaved. So I don't know when I'm going to shave down there, but I've shaved some places.

April

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Guest sara w.

im 13 so i dont need to take my pants off for the doctor,btw im perfectly healthy so i don't usually go to appointments unless im throwing up

for summer time in shorts i just mean for once to see how it is then let my hair grow back

for gym we arn't force to wear shorts

and i always bring cloths in the bathroom just in case my mom catches me putting on nail polish(never meet my dad and my mom isn't the type of woman who buys alot of "new" kinds of makeup so i can really do anything to look like a girl my age)

other than those things are there any other possibilitys of being caught? Beacause i don't want to have to explain to my mom about my being a transgender person before im ready.

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Guest sara w.

by the way donna if that is a picture of you from what i see you look very much like a woman. and if anyone who reads this sees treefish's pictures, i'd like to say that if i could look like that for at least a day i would feel like this empty hole in my heart is filled.

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Guest sara w.
im 13 so i dont need to take my pants off for the doctor,btw im perfectly healthy so i don't usually go to appointments unless im throwing up

for summer time in shorts i just mean for once to see how it is then let my hair grow back

for gym we arn't force to wear shorts

and i always bring cloths in the bathroom just in case my mom catches me putting on nail polish(never meet my dad and my mom isn't the type of woman who buys alot of "new" kinds of makeup so i can really do anything to look like a girl my age)

other than those things are there any other possibilitys of being caught? Beacause i don't want to have to explain to my mom about my being a transgender person before im ready.

srry i miss spelled there i ment to say was"so i cant really do anything to look like a girl my age"

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Guest Donna Jean

Sara said..

by the way donna if that is a picture of you from what i see you look very much like a woman. and if anyone who reads this sees treefish's pictures, i'd like to say that if i could look like that for at least a day i would feel like this empty hole in my heart is filled.

Thanks, dear, but that's just my avatar.....I'm WAY better looking than that! :P

Ain't you nice....

Donna Jean

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Guest April63

I can't really think of some other way, except for you wearing shorts or someone watching you shower. But even if someone sees you, all you have to say is that you wanted to see what shaving was like. You don't have to mention the transsexual stuff.

April

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Hi,

when I get body hairs with nearly the same age like you, I also want to cut them off because I do not like them. I get the same thinking about being caught. But this thing is not so big as you think. I scared me a lot. I was waiting until summer holiday. No school no sport. So I cut my pubic hair and it feels great. But I got scared about being caught but I never being caught. I got the idea maybe you have an accident and they found out in the hospital that I have shaved my pubic hair. But I was never caught.

Later I also shaved my legs because they get a lot of hairs I do not like. First time I did it in winter because I wear all the time long trousers. Later I did it also in the summer. I only had hairs on my head. the body was completely free of hairs. So sooner or later somebody saw me without hairs but nothing happens. Okay, I get a bad comment from my dad about all the hairs in the shower cup but that was all I get.

There are so many people out there without body hairs. Some polls found out that nearly 90% of all women shaved their pubic hairs. A lot of male sport people shaving.

And the last point, you get a hair cut on your head, you can shave your face, so why you should keep the rest of the body unstyled?

It is only a big thing in your head. Shave what ever you want to shave. If somebody find it out and ask you why just tell them that you like it that way. That's it. No big deal.

Greetings

Nelly

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shaving really isn't something that's going to out you as much as you think. There was a guy in my 8th grade PE class who shaved his legs for the whole year (don't really know why) and then stopped... I heard about him doing that from one of my friends who thought it was strange, but no one likened him to a girl at all. They just figured he liked how it felt or something. I don't know what happened to him and whether he had any gender/cd issues or just liked the feeling, but my main point is no one took it further than "that's kind of funny". I would say try not to get caught, but if anyone does catch you just tell them something about being curious or something... chalk it up to a one time experiment and maybe even say something about how it feels really weird, unless you plan on being caught doing it again in which case say something about how you're surprised how good it feels. With your parents, depending how accepting they are and how careful you are about hiding I would go with the former, but friends might be able to take it as an idiosyncracy. The more personality you have in this case, the better. If you're the quiet one who has one friend and reads at lunch, I wouldn't advise trying it. The more genuinely popular you are the more you can get away with it just being a quirk. But basically, there are guys who shave, so even if people do find out, no one should make the leap from that to being trans.

oh and idk if this is applicable to anyone but I heard from someone that their brother wore such skinny jeans he got ingrown hairs and had to shave :P... so if anyone's comfortable with that, it's a decent excuse lol

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Hi,

you can also go straight forward and make it public like any other normal style thing people talking about.

In my country they make advertising for permanent hair removing. Normally you would say that only nice girls are shown with tiny bikinis. But it is not that way. They also show nice musculare men without any hair on the body. Remember the guys from baywatch. Does they have any hairs? So tell your people around that this is the new style from europa or US (depend were you are from) and you try it out.

Greetings

Nelly

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Hi,

you can shave in opposit direction of the hairs are growing. But than you may get some pimples. Also shaveing is just for short time. If you like it smouth you need to wax.

Greetings

Nelly

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