New And Confused

[Guest tipster92]

Hi my names Josh/Jacqui

I like to CD but am 15 and live near birmingham England.

I live @ home with parents, sis and grandma so can only dress once a month.

I don't get pocket money so can't buy my own clothes.

I am unsure of what i am though.

I am not transgendered as i do not want to be a girl.

I do not want to live as a full time CD

I just feel nicer in womens clothing as though i look more 'handsome'/'pretty' in them.

I do just like dressing up and want to be able to pass as a female but can't at the mo.

I think i am bisexual but am not sure.

I am sooooo confused

Does anyone have any tips on CDing and trying to establish what ur sexual orientaion is?

Thank you so much this is great to get off my chest

Josh x

[MaryEllen]

Hi Josh/Jacqui,

I'm not a CD myself but there are many here who are. I'm sure you'll get lots of tips from them. Good luck.

MaryEllen

[Guest rebecka43]

Hello Jacqui, just wanted to welcome you here, I am 43 and tring to figure out things for the first time to, you see when i was your age, I held it in, try so hard to push it away, strated to weight lift got really big,became mean, and violent, I try to be the toughfest most nasty guy i could be, to push away all them feelings of wanted to be more like a lady, plus I did not want anyone to know I had them thoughts, I thought that there was something really wrong with me, now that i am older, one of my biggest regrets is that I try so hard to push it all away when I should have been inbraceing it, for you see it never went away and I still feel the same way about dressing in a nice out fit as I did back then so I quess what i am trying to say is don't make the same mistake I did, not have the same regrets, listen to your heart, it will tell you what is right and what will make you happy,be honest with your self, and try not to be to srcade of what other people might think, you will find that there are really good people out there that will love you and except you, now dont get me wrong not everyone like that but there are more out there then you think some I bet are really close to you to.well I hope this help a little, be brave be strong but do it in a cute outfit lol

[Guest Sandy]

Hi Josh.......I'm almost 50 myself and have only recently understood who I am. I am a crossdresser who would like to look and be treated as a woman now and then. But I would prefer to stay a man. I went through what you are going througk now, I used to sneek into moms petticoat when I was very young, about 8. When I became a teen, things became very confusing. I would swipe panties from anywhere I could and be very excited to wear them. It all changed when I hit 17. I had my first girlfriend and I started a new part of mylife. When I was 18, I met my future wife and I have been married for almost 30 years. I still loved lingerie, I loved to see my wife in it. I wished I had my own now and then, but didn't persue it. Then a couple of years ago I had such an urge to dress as a woman for Holloween. I LOVED IT!! All my memories came flooding back and with all the new information I realized that I was a crossdresser and not alone. I finally realized why I would rather go to the mall over watching a football game. I would rather sit with the ladies at a party. I think my female self was always just below the surface. I think things are a little more open then back when I was a kid. If you are reel close to your parents, you should give your letter to your mom. I think my mom would have helped me if I would have been brave enough to ask. I have two kids myself, boy and girl in their 20's. I hope they understood that I and their mom would do anything to help them. If your not close to your family, try a school counselor. you will find if you have someone to talk to, you will feel so much relieved. Everyone has different paths and everyone has different stories. I wish I would have told somebody when I was younger, then I wouldn't have felt out of place all these years.

Good luck

Sandy

[Guest tipster92]

Thanks very much ladies/guys

You've really helped me to start to sort things out

I thing i'll wait till i leave home until i start CDing and only do little bits now and again as i'm still @ home

Does anyone have any tips on CDing?

And is there anyone else out there who is not TG but just a M CD who likes to dress because he/she just feels nicer and enjoys the experience?

Thanks very much

Josh/Jacqui

xxx

[Guest tipster92]

PS.

MTF CDers how do u hide ur unmentionables/privates?

Need a hand with that

Thanks

Josh

[Guest Sophie Jean]

I found I have to wear fairly tight underwear, and there is a procedure called tucking. I believe you can Google for it. Try "crossdress tucking". Also, I have found large feminine napkins help, when you can't "tuck" successfully.

[Petra Jane]

MTF CDers how do u hide ur unmentionables/privates?

As Sophie says, tight undies are the key! I must admit I use a pair of panties, then a very firm pair of pantie girdle which works for me!

[Guest Krystyna_Marie]

Thanks very much ladies/guys

You've really helped me to start to sort things out

I thing i'll wait till i leave home until i start CDing and only do little bits now and again as i'm still @ home

Does anyone have any tips on CDing?

And is there anyone else out there who is not TG but just a M CD who likes to dress because he/she just feels nicer and enjoys the experience?

Thanks very much

Josh/Jacqui

xxx

Josh/Jacquie - I'm 40, and rediscovering dressing in a more serious way now, though I did start as you began, with mom's things by myself. I enjoy the feminine side of myself, and i enjoy prettying myself up with beautiful underthings, clothing, and I love doing makeup now that I've had some practice. But I'm married 15 years, enjoy a generally healthy hetero lifestyle, and I'm an educated professional. I think many people you meet here have similar histories. This is about both who you are, and who you want to be. I like myself as a CD, it makes me happy, and calm, and excited all at the same time. It's a part of my life I really enjoy for its own sake. I don't know how typical that is, but that's me, anyway.

Peace, J/J

XOXO

km

[Guest Rowan19]

I'm an F CD bi, I used to pretend to be straight until I couldn't deny it anymore. When I got my first GF a friend asked, if I'd never had a GF b4 how'd I now I was into girls? I said I just knew, and it ended up getting back to my GF who got really nervous about our first kiss because of it. But she started dracking up after as I was decidedly very bi, lol.

But anyway a few points on the bi check list:

1. U constantly perve on both sexes.

2. U've had crushes on both sexes.

3. U fantasize about both ur GF (BF for girls) and ur best friend at the same consistancy.

4. U've slept with both genders and liked both.

If u ticked 2, ur probably bi.

If u ticked 3, there's a strong porbability.

If u ticked all 4, then if ur straight I'm a monkey's uncle.

[Guest mirandacdgirl]

Josh,

I think we are in the same boat on some things, but I finally figured out I'm bisexual. I'm 38 though lol. I have suppressed a lot of my feeling and stopped dressing in periods of my life, but I always start back. I was raised that being bi, gay, anything other than 1 man 1 woman was wrong. I began to realize several years ago that mabe I was right in my feelings any everyone else was wrong who opposed it. I consider myself bisexual because I have a fascination with the male genitalia not attracted to the make body per se as much as just that part...weird I know. I'm confused about it, but I love my girlfriend and I am monogomous. I am super attracted to the female body! In all of my ramblings i'm bisexual. but i like girls more than guys.

I think that if you are attracted to men alone you are gay. If you are attracted to men and women you are bi & last but, not leist if you are attracted to females only you are straight. Either way if you cross dress you are either a straight cross-dressr a bisexual cross-dresser or a straight crossd-reser.

hugs

Miranda