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[Guest stephphorever]

Allright, I'm a 15 yr old MTF named Steph. I just came out to my parents yesterday and they are strongly opposed to hormone therapy of any sort. I'm really sick of having to live as a male when I feel like a girl deep down. How do I begin transition/passing to a female in public, and how do I convince my parents to change their views?

Thx for any help available

[MaryEllen]

Hello Steph,

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Would your parents be willing to let you see a gender therapist? This is something that you will have to do anyway as it is the first step in transitioning. If the therapist determines that you are indeed transsexual, (s)he will write a letter of recommendation to your doctor stating that you are a candidate for hormone therapy. This would have to be done with your parents approval, I'm afraid. As soon as you are 18, you can go ahead with this on your own. This is a very expensive procedure so unless your parents are prepared to take on the cost or have insurance that would cover it, you'll have to bear the financial burden alone.

As far as passing as a female in public, you could start by letting your hair grow longer and start wearing gender neutral clothing, gradually moving to more feminine attire.

If your parents are dead set against hormone therapy, I'm afraid there's little that you can do to change their minds. Just keep showing them that you are serious about this and perhaps they will bend a little but don't count on it.

I'm sorry I couldn't paint a more positive picture for you but that is the reality of this situation. Three years until you are eighteen will seem like an eternity to you but it will come soon enough. You must have patience. Even under the best of circumstances, transitioning will take years to accomplish. You must come to realize this. You have a long road ahead of you but with perseverance, you can make it.

MaryEllen

[Guest Sofiadragon]

I know what you are going through, I was around your age when I realized what exactly my uneasy feelings about myself were but I am married now & I am almost 30 but I am glad that my wife is accepting of me w/ this & she is wanting me to do what I need to do to be happy w/ myself so if your parents are willing to let you start on this journy then you & I will be going down the same path @ the same time but I will lend any & all help that I can when it comes to dealing w/ your personal feelings if you would like so just PM me & we can talk. But I would like to say congrats & I hope that things go well w/ you from here on in.

[Guest chibi_usa]

T_T I know how u feel. Im 16 and if I told my parents they'd kill me I mean they said that homo/trans and all that should die and burn in hell O_o i mean seriously. Btw wich/what kind insurance pays 4 it fully?

[Guest eshaver]

Steph, , I agree with Mary Ellen here dear. She speaks da truth ! I would also like to add that I think at some point and time you try and find a support group that will allow both you and your folks to attend at the same time . My reasoning is simple . First when I was 15, I really had never met a transsexual. Hell, they were locking people like us up in mental wards at that time too. Since I thought it might still be a sexual turn on thing , I repressed it for years . For you dear, I believe seeing others like you in a social friendly situation might help you to see if you can even handle hormones . Medically they can be decremental even at your age. You don't enter hormones lightly!

Look , even if you find that you're only a cross dresser, there is NOTHING wrong with that! Dressing relieves a lot of stress. You still have to abide you're parents wishes as you are considered a Minor child . Get some professional help, learn all you can about the differences between a cross dresser and a transsexual. Take you're time ! Don't let others pressure you either .

Ellen Shaver

[Guest sara w.]

well one way you could get them to change their minds is you could like Mary Ellen said see a gender therapist, you could also look up the % of teenage transsexual's suicides (it dosn't mean that your necsisarily that desperate for the transition) but its good to show them how painful it is being in the wrong body and you could also show them this site and show all the support you get from your fellow TGs, and if its a religious matter tell them some advice i got

God tests everyone, and he is testing me by putting me in the wrong body. The body is just flesh, carnal in nature, my soul is what shall live for ever. A female soul. God supports modifying your own body to make your soul at ease. 'If thine eye offends thee, pluck it out.' Matthew 18:9

hopefully that helps

[Guest rosey]

well u can begin seeing gender therapist at 18 or even contact them or something like that

and u need therapist permission and sorts to get hormones and for tranistioning so

good luck convincing them

[Guest stephphorever]

Thanks a lot, Me and my parents are gonna see a gender therapist in a few weeks now

Love to all,

Steph

[Guest Sofiadragon]

Thanks a lot, Me and my parents are gonna see a gender therapist in a few weeks now

Love to all,

Steph

That is greaet news I'm glad that they are @ least looking into it.