When crossdressing becomes dressing

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Dear All,

For me, crossdressing in the traditional sense is fading into obscurity. I no longer feel that I crossdress. I only dress as how I feel comfortable. Sometimes, I catch myself walking out of my apartment dressed in a skirt, only to realize that others may not understand. The term crossdresser is losing all meaning for me.

I dress as myself. I am forced to dress otherwise by society.

Brenda

[Guest angels wings]

It's a shame society restricts so much not only society but family . If only judgement was non existent the world would be a happier place . ((((hugs))))

Angel

[Guest carolynn2fem]

what happens when we break down self imposed boundries? if it is only 1 item from the girls closed we can make it work for us as guys.my everyday wear is womans from the waist down. other websites tell me its ok to wear pantyhose with shorts and very few people will notice. another website tells me men can wear skirts. yet another tells me high heels 4 men are exceptable. my question is where does freestyling stop and crossdressing begin?

[Charlize]

At this point, at least for me, cross dressing is dressing as a man. I crossed that line sometime ago and just realized it recently. I am a woman full time now. My presentation has grown to match my perception of self.

Hugs, Charlie

[Guest blackcoffee_redwine]

i used to room with three reeeeally accepting and wonderful roomates so when id get home id just wear clothes instead of having to distinguish or have to set aside time to wear "girls clothes." living with my mom kinda hinders that. sigh, ill be on my own again soon enough...

[Guest missyscott]

i love dresses

[Guest degenet]

Hi I also feel the same way i dress how i feel if i feel like a dress or skirt i put it on and some times i find my self heading out the door to go some place all dressed I dress as myself I am forced to dress otherwise by society also. So i change into girl jeans and a top with a drab shirt on so i look ok in male mode but when you live in a small town you have to so your wife will not be hassled.

Dee

[gennee]

Brenda, I love your assessment because it's true. I'm dressing because

I'm a transgender woman. I'm being me.

[Guest Eve Caillard]

Brenda I am so envious. I wish I could be the same. The nearest I get to this is that I under-dress all the time now. At first it was daring and pushing the boundaries. Now, I do it because that is who I am and that is how I wish to be. So much so, I have under-dressed and forgotten about the clothes I am wearing, only to be tucking a white lacy satin camisole back into my trousers where it slipped out under my shirt at work. Fortunately no one noticed on those occasions, BUT that is the sadness: I should be able to wear my clothes with no censorship. I am very much ME - and I dress how I wish as a transgender, not by some male standard.

While my wife knows my situation, we agreed to keep it from our teenage kids so I need to remain careful. (Though as I posted elsewhere this evening I think my daughter suspects.).

Meanwhile, good for you, Brenda.

Eve

[Guest rita63]

Outside of the androgynous scrubs I wear at work I probably spend more tim in femme clothes and only put on male stuff to go out someplace. And as I slowly come out more and more that will dissapear completely. But I will still be a CD unlsess I decide to have sugery.

hugs rita

[Guest]

YMMV

Crossdressing becomes simply dressing as you progress on your journey.

When that will be is "impossible" to determine.

IMHO, It may never happen on some peoples journey.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest leopron]

Brenda, I wish I could be as brave as you and dress as I feel, and not how society says I should. I have never dressed as a women in public. That being said doesn't mean I did not want to, I have always kept my crossdressing to lingerie under my male clothing. I really do wish I could go out wearing a nice skirt or dress and heals, but I have a wife and a teenage son, and this would probably cause them more grief than I would want to put on my worst enemy. My wife Knows about my situation, and at one time even helped me with my purchases and we even did role playing, but when my son was born it all stopped and we had to become the normal or rather tradditional family.

Joann, what are you saying here are you saying we, male crossdressers, are all destined to becoming women and it is just a matter of time. I would not say that was my case. Maybe then based on what you are saying if it is true I am not a real crossdresser? This is a question based on what you think. Actually I have never liked the term crossdresser for some reason I have always prefered transvestite. That being said I am glad to be a man I just wish I could feel comfortable at times and wear a pretty dress or lovely skirt once in a while just because it makes me feel good. I also wish not so much if I had the courage to do what you do but that society could accept me for me, no matter what I wear, and this way let the ones I love alone and not hassle them, because I do love both my wife and my son.

Ok I am just rambling about myself now, I just wanted to praise Brenda for being so bold, add my two cents and question Joann about all CDs needing to be women. Also even though I love being dressed like a woman I do love my other self as well.

[Guest]

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Joann, what are you saying here are you saying we, male crossdressers, are all destined to becoming women and it is just a matter of time. I would not say that was my case. Maybe then based on what you are saying if it is true I am not a real crossdresser? This is a question based on what you think. Actually I have never liked the term crossdresser for some reason I have always prefered transvestite. That being said I am glad to be a man I just wish I could feel comfortable at times and wear a pretty dress or lovely skirt once in a while just because it makes me feel good. I also wish not so much if I had the courage to do what you do but that society could accept me for me, no matter what I wear, and this way let the ones I love alone and not hassle them, because I do love both my wife and my son.

Ok I am just rambling about myself now, I just wanted to praise Brenda for being so bold, add my two cents and question Joann about all CDs needing to be women. Also even though I love being dressed like a woman I do love my other self as well.

As this is your first post leopron I wish to welcome you to LP.

No I was not insinuating that all CD's are destined to become women.

I was simply trying to expand on Brenda's OP.

i.e. If I identify as female and I dress as a female then would it not simply become dressing even though I may be a cis-male?

Just food for thought. I am not saying that one person is more right than the other.

We each identify as we deem fit for ourselves.

You prefer transvestite which I do not. Does that make either of us wrong? I think not.

If you have followed any of my ramblings here on LP I think you will find that I, like most members, am accepting of everyones identification of them selves.

I have a dream that one day we will all be accepted, not necessarily embraced, regardless of gender identity.

I best stop rambling now.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest leopron]

Joann, first and foremost thank you for the welcome, and yes I am new and I do not know you was just reacting to what I read. Maybe I misinterpretted what you were saying cause I really don't know you. I do hear what your saying, when I am feeling my fem side, and I put on something nice, I do just think of it as dressing not crossdressing, I am wearing what I want to wear, and that is just dressing.

I think we both have the same dream, just to be accepted for who we are.

Huggs to you as well!

leopron

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Welcome to Laura's Playground Leopron.

Love.

Brenda

[Guest]

Joann, first and foremost thank you for the welcome, and yes I am new and I do not know you was just reacting to what I read. Maybe I misinterpretted what you were saying cause I really don't know you. I do hear what your saying, when I am feeling my fem side, and I put on something nice, I do just think of it as dressing not crossdressing, I am wearing what I want to wear, and that is just dressing.

I think we both have the same dream, just to be accepted for who we are.

Huggs to you as well!

leopron

This is on of the great things about Laura's Playground.

We can openly, respectfully and freely discuss issues without risking starting a flame war.

So we can then agree that we "simply" dress as we deem appropriate.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest leopron]

Brenda thank you for the welcome!!

Joann yes we "dress" as we feel appropriate .

I am going to like this place!

[Guest KatyDesire]

Brenda, I just wish we could all just go about as we felt. I would love to see the term cross-dresser losing its meaning. For me, that's a long way away. But your post gives me hope!

Hugs,

Katy

[Guest leopron]

Katy, Your statement and I quote "I would love to see the term cross-dresser losing its meaning." cannot come soon enough for me!!

Let me tell you why what I see is that sometimes we see the letter X and the word cross as interchangeable, x placed over something usually means none or null set, but maybe that just me over analyzing things.

I want to wear what I want, and not have to worry what others might do or say or even think, because what I feel they think does effect me!!!

I want to be me and me varies on my mood at a given moment.

Love

leopron