It just happend out of the blue.

[Guest Deenah]

Today i went to my sister's house to visit. We always sit and chat for hours so it's no big deal. A couple hours later we were sitting on the couch and before i new it we were talking about finger nails.Without a hesitation we started to compare each others like no big deal,then i opened my mouth and said...well i don't want to help with that(meaning working on a car) because i already chipped my nail and just was at the mall last week... There was a second of silence as she looked at me,the she says..what are you a girl? I didn't know what to say,but i think that was my chance to come out to her rite there. I didn't say yes or no,just kept the conversation going holding my hand up and chuckled a bit and said, well look,see how clean they are? I would have to go back to the mall. She didn't think much of that and just stated that at work she sees guys getting there nails and toes done all the time,and went off on how one guy messed hers up..bla bla bla..I think we talked about nails for like 15 minutes before the subject got changed.

She has no idea about me,and this was the longest we ever have talked as though we were two females sitting on the couch chatting. It's hard for me to believe that she hasn't smelled the coconut lemon lotion i use and asked about that,or how i new so much about her shoes.(another conversation we had) I just feel like we connected in a totally different way,and would like some incite as to..would that have been a good time to bring up that I'm trans or not..

[Carolyn Marie]

Well, if her intuition hadn't gone on high alert before that, it certainly must have afterward.

I don't know if that would have been a good time to come out to her or not. It's hard to judge when I don't know your relationship. I doubt if there is such a thing as 'the perfect time." It's whenever you feel comfortable, is the best answer I can give you.

With my own family, it was a bit on the formal side. I just sat them down told them I had something important to tell them, and joked that it was something of a "mid life crisis." Twice the recipient of the info joked back, "what, are you planning to get a sex change?' Talk about a pregnant pause.

Whenever and however you plan to do it, I wish you all the luck in the world.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest angels wings]

Deenah that is awsome you were able to connect with her like that. I too think she may have some idea on what is going on .

Angel

[Guest MsPerseveres]

I hope that her involvement indicates awareness of what's going on. However, I've come to realize over the years that humans have a tendency to see and hear and believe what we want to see, hear and believe, regardless of the evidence in front of us. Personal example - I believed that my wife knew about my GD because she had paid for my ear piercing, had encouraged body shaving before our last vacation, and suggested that I could carry a man purse if I didn't want to clutter my pockets, among other things... and she had NO idea at all before I came out to her! Just be cautious - assume that your sister has no idea, and if she does, you'll have a pleasant surprise!

Hugs, Brenda