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I'm a new member and i just wanted to get some advice. this is the first time i have admitted to anyone that I'm a transsexual. All my life I have felt different. I hid it all and kept it inside and its been eating me up inside. All I want is to be a girl. But I'm so scare to tell anyone. I cant even get up the gull to tell my wife. But I know this is what I want and I'll never feel right until I do. please help. :o

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Guest Donna Jean

There, there, Karma...I was wondering when you were gonna show up! You must be the "GOOD" karma that everyone talks about all the time.. :D

Come on in, sweetie, sit down...warm coco for you...I can see that you're not happy...maybe you don't want any cookies right now?..Thats ok..maybe later...

This is it! This is the place..you found us! Good for you! No one will judge you here..just be who ever you feel like being..

Yes, dear..this is a hard road and we all need support and help...

Throw this blanket over your legs and get comfortable.....

Welcome..........

XXOO

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K

Neat NAME!!! :rolleyes:

Hey - you are home. WELCOME

Look around - ask questions - see what ya think. ;)

It ain't easy - but we all are in about the same place you are. We want to help if we can.

Lizzy (your standard confused and terrified - married - matronly and - incidently, MTF transsexual person) HA... :lol:

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Guest sara w.

I know how you feel im fairly new myself but as soon as i found this place i felt whole for once, im only 14 but i think i might be able to come out soon i feel like its time but im still afraid, i have an idea how to do it, if you're brave enough to do it mabey you can use what i think i might do, if your too afraid to confront her directly, you could leave a note where she would definatly find it, then leave for a couple hours so she could get her thoughts together after reading it then come home and see how she feels, if she dosn't support you, either she needs more time and its ok just let her get used to the idea of you being a woman, or its just her problem, hopefully she comes to love you as a woman, alot of the time, as you might read on these forums, if you don't blurt it out and you let her get used to it at her own pace, she'll usually come around, mabey even she might like you better and even help you learn to be a girl.

i hope you do it before me! good luck sweetie :D

-sara w

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Welcome Karma,

You've already met a few of our 'unofficial greeting committee' and I see that Donna Jean has taken care of the refreshments. :D

We are all here to support each other and never judge (well hardly ever - we are all human you know). :lol:

Get comfortable and keep your fingers warm for typing.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Kelly Ann

Hi Karma...what a cool name...it instantly made me smile. This is probably THE best place you can explore your inner feelings without fear or worries of ANY repercussions. The ladies here are terrific...see in spite of the TV psychologists women CAN and DO get along. Pull up a chair...I get dibbs on the floor...I tend to roll when I get the giggles. We're all here for you dear. Hugs, Kelly Ann

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Guest CamilaRose
I'm a new member and i just wanted to get some advice. this is the first time i have admitted to anyone that I'm a transsexual. All my life I have felt different. I hid it all and kept it inside and its been eating me up inside. All I want is to be a girl. But I'm so scare to tell anyone. I cant even get up the gull to tell my wife. But I know this is what I want and I'll never feel right until I do. please help. :o

Karma,

Love the name! Get that cocoa yet? Grab some while it's still hot!

Seriously, this place is going to be great for you, I just know it. I know what you're feeling hon, most of us have been or still are where you are, so you're among friends :D

I'm going to go out on a limb here and recommend that you start looking for a therapist in your area who's experienced in gender issues. There's a page on this website

http://www.lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm

that is a great place to start. I haven't gone for my first appointment yet (I'm fairly new myself, and still working up the nerve to call), but I found mine through Dr. Marci Bowers' website

http://www.marcibowers.com/grs/therapists.html

Most of therapy groups even seem to have an email on their websites, so you could always send an email to make sure they're understanding of gender disorders, if you're too shy to call :blush:

Again, I know what you're feeling, and it's really tough if not impossible to deal with it alone. We'll be here for ya, (of course), but you'll want the help of a therapist as well. Keeping it all bottled up can lead to other stuff, and it's just plain not good for you.

Anyway, enjoy your cocoa, try the cookies and good luck!

Cami

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Guest CamilaRose

By the way, in case that sounded too pushy, therapists aren't supposed to even admit to anyone that you're a patient, let alone what you talk about, so you can have someone to listen to your secret in a non-judgemental way and be required to keep it! They'll also help in all sorts of nice ways, if you let them. ;)

Cami

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Keep posting KarmaYou can do an instant post. Before seeing a therapist keep talking to us.You'll be alright we all are united in sisterhood and speaking just for me I had the same problem about tallking to my S.O. but agter venting and listening I told her I was a C.D. and after the initial shock life has gotten better for her, and with the trickle down effect better for me also.

After you talk with us call a therapist,I am on my way Monday. It took me a month to make the call. Good luck. Did you get the instant post ,like instant Karma. Best to you and start talking this is a tough time of the year,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Mia.

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