So Iv Meet This Girl Online...

[Guest leo]

so iv meet this girl online and we have been flirting and such (i know i said i would not get into this sitution) but we started liking each other.

i decided not to lie or anything so i told her im trans and what to be male..

and she didnt care and actually thinks its cool and calls me her man!

is this to good to be true, you think she means it or just saying that? because i dont want to be hurt

[Guest Evan_J]

<-- knew he heard the sounds of someone in the background over on another thread when you said "I can't help it if I fall for someone" lol

I think if you want a internet fling/relationship have one. If you want to take it offline, thats when you need to start being careful. a) she could be a nut. b ) she could have friends and family who are nuts. And you want to be careful about that kind of stuff in the general "for your safety" sense, and you also want to be careful of it bein trans; you never know she could have a father or uncle or whatever that finds out she's messing with some trans person and want to make you wish you'd never heard of her. Take your time, definately get to know her if this (takin it offline) is what you're thinkin. Is it possible for a girl -a straight girl I'm guessing?- to seriously be into an accept a transguy as trans? Yes. (Not that I've had the experience yet, but thats because I haven't pursued it) All the reports I've heard say "they definately are out here."

[Sally]

Hey Leo,

Here's a shock, I'm in total agreement with Evan (again)!

Over the Internet you are pretty safe from any physical violence, but in person is another matter!

Trust me about the power that her family can wield, she kight be just fine with you being trans - but the father, brothers, uncles etc. might not be so accepting. Move slowly and get to know her - you've openned up to her, see how much she is willing to let you know.

Good luck, enjoy the on line relationship and we all hope for the best outcome - her really not minding and a family that can accept you - wow, that would be great!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Crossroads]

I'm thirding Evan's motion!!

Good luck, ::wink::

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Watch out for internet love - it isn't always what you think it is. My sister left her husband and three childen for a guy she met on the internet. It turned out he was very abusive to her - so she left him and came back.

But internet flirting that never leads to a meeting? Go for it.

The acceptance of the trans part - super for your ego! Great - have fun. Don't ever meet unless you are 1000% sure of who you are talking with, then be prepared for trouble.

[Guest leo]

shes actually a lesbian which confused me but hey!

also she was adopted and lives on her own shes like 21 so independant

ye i wona take it offline but i know my problem is i rush into things so much

but i feel i dont want the good things i have in life slip away

[Guest Evan_J]

shes actually a lesbian which confused me but hey!

also she was adopted and lives on her own shes like 21 so independant

ye i wona take it offline but i know my problem is i rush into things so much

but i feel i dont want the good things i have in life slip away

1) Be careful of lesbians, they "think" they understand and can accept you as a man but they often get hung up on the F part of FtM and make up the rest of that phrase as it suits them.

2) If she say's she's "lesbian" and at the same time could be with a man that indicates a certain amount of confusion. If she's confused about her identity there's no way she's gonna get yours right. Be careful of confused women in general.

3) If you're aware you rush into things put it on cruise control.

4) Jobs and opportunities to "be discovered" may slip away but women never do. A woman either walks away intentionally or will be there.

[Guest leo]

ill take ure advice evan!

but she dated someone for 6 years who also wanted to be male, so maybe she does understand.

im not sure its yet to be discovered but thanks

[Guest My_Genesis]

Be careful of confused women in general.

So true! :lol:

My problem is I hesitate too much...just in general I mean. And I tend to really overthink things and try to lay out all the consequences before I actually take action...and often end up not taking action where I should have! Like in the follow your heart vs. your head debate my head always wins

But then when it comes to other people I would probably just say go for it! I'd be all, proceed with caution but take it offline if you really want to...

that's probably not the best advice though

I would probably just try to get to know her a little better then figure out from there what I should do.

See, it works a lot better in the "If it were me" situation. lol

[Guest SimonV]

This is going to stir up my post tramatic stress disorder lol. I've done this twice in my life. First time I was 17 and she was a 41 year old theatre geek from NYC. It was fun at first and I'm lucky she wasn't nuts or I could be on the bottom of the Hudson right now. She ended up an alcoholic who couldn't deal with me wanting "To get a penis slapped on" as she put it. (wish it was that easy...I'd have three or four hanging to my knees..kinda look like a Medusa head).

My second mistake was when I was 20 years old. Met a cute blonde in Colorado who had dated a transguy before for many years. Oh boy, I was following her around like a puppy before I knew it. A year into that one she's putting powder up her nose while I'm out on the highway exit with one of those "Please Help, God Bless" signs so I can feed her two little girls...since mommy spent all the money on meth.

My current girlfriend of almost 5 years I met while at work. I was 22 at the time and she was a barely legal straight girl with a large marine wanna-be boyfriend. Here's little 5 foot 7 Simon bucking up and ready to fight for muh lady luv...We've been together ever since.

The moral of this? You don't always really know someone until you've spent sometimes years with them. The internet is an easy way for people with sick minds or dirty habits to pull a fast one on you. They may mean well don't get me wrong but even a falsehood or a lie with the best of intentions is still a lie. People aren't up front with their faults....be careful of what you may one day find.

[Guest My_Genesis]

My second mistake was when I was 20 years old. Met a cute blonde in Colorado who had dated a transguy before for many years. Oh boy, I was following her around like a puppy before I knew it. A year into that one she's putting powder up her nose while I'm out on the highway exit with one of those "Please Help, God Bless" signs so I can feed her two little girls...since mommy spent all the money on meth.

Thanks for the warning. I go to college in Colorado and there are a lot of cute blondes there. I'll keep that in mind. lol

[Guest Evan_J]

That is without a doubt the most selfless gift I just got to see given from one person to another that has never spoke before. That is no "bout a doubt" it fileable under "please listen to". Please do Leo. Slooow Down.