Spending Priorities

[Guest KaylaK]

I thought I would ask this question. I am wearing a bra, but I already have small breasts. That is not what is important. How do I know what I should be spending my money, because wearing a bra, even if fits my guy breasts almost perfectly, is to little to late. What do I do?

[Sally]

First of all, Welcome Kayla!

I notice that this is your first post, so before anyone can give you any solid advice we would need to know a bit more about you.

Are you seeing a gender therapist? If not that is always a first priority.

Are you on hormones yet? If not your gender therapist can give you a letter to take to another doctor for the bloodwork and hormone prescription.

Now sit down and get comfy and let us know a little more about you, read a lot of other posts and feel free to ask questions, offer opinions and advice. You are part of the family now so join in!

We like to pffer our new members some of our yummy virtual hot cocoa and fresh baked cookies - take all you want they are fat free!

I've run out of mini marshmallows, but don't worry there is a virtual store right around the corner from me!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest KaylaK]

There so much going on in my head. Yesterday, I was wearing my favorite blouse and my favorite bra. I had on a pear of woman's jeans, and I would lie down cross my arms over my heart and grab my soldier. I would invision this man who loved me, and then my bra would slip down. Then I would feel so sexy. I would just be in the moment imagining how he would touch me, and how he would love me.

I look ugly. I don't have any foundation or any way tomput oit on. I don't look like a woman, but that pink bra and the white one I am wearing make me want to cry. It is the only thing holding me together.

I don't won't talk talk dirty, but I want to have a man lie on top of me. I want him to kiss me. I want him to bring me pink roses. Right knows, I need as man. I need boobs larger than my stomach.

I never dreamed that I would say this, but I am fat, and there is no man to love me. How can I love myself when there is no one to love me? I need boobs. I need to be Mrs. Whatever. My hair is ugly. My teeth are ugly. I am ugly. So, what do I do?

[Sally]

Oh Kayla,

No one is ever as ugly as we think we are! And that goes for GGs as well! I give the advice to go to a mall and look around at the women there - all sizes, shapes and degrees of beauty to actually ugly.

Don't ever think of yourself as ugly and no one will think you are.

When there is no one to love you is the time that you must love yourself! I'm nearly 150 pounds over weight - I'm loosing the weight slowly, but when I told my therapist that I wasn't going to dress untill I was down to a reasonable dress size her reply was, "Sally, we all have three wardrobes - the right size, the this is more comfortable and the fat clothes - just start with the fat clothes!"

I bought some clothing and went to my next session dressed - I looked in the mirror and instead of the fat old man, I saw a large woman - a large smiling woman - she seemed very pleasant and I decided that I liked her! I went to my session and walked confidently through the lobby and the Fedex man held the door for me - I decided that I could love myself even though I am farm from being where I want to be.

First you must have confidence - then people will see you for who you know you are, then you must love yourself before anyone else can. So often in life it is up to us to make the first move - this is one of those times.

I made a post suggesting in jest that I should wear a bag over my head in public - I got several comments stating that I shouldn't feel that way and more than one that siad that I was beautiful - I have never posted an image of myself on any forum, but because of the things that I have said and the confident manner that I aproach life, they assumed that I am attractive - So I am!

Never put yourself down, that's what friends are for!

Within you ther is a beautiful woman, let her come to the surface - don't drown her with self doubts!

You are loved and will never be alone, we are all here for each other!

Love ya,

Sally