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so im a 22 years old girl... when i was 11 i realized that somethin wasnt right coz i had a crush on a girl... for years i thought i was a lesbian but then i realized that i dont want girls to love me like im a girl, i want them to look at me as a man.. coz i feel that im a man inside.. so i have done some researches online about hormone therapy n the surgery itself but there r a few things that i still dont understand... im still confused oh and when i saw the cost... i mean just to live normally like any other guy, i gotta have a fortune *faint*

anyway, i would like to meet other ftm ppl, just 4 a good talk :)

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Well, there don't seem to be a lot of folks on line today, I wonder why?

But I thought that I would respond to let you know how much I sympathise with you, I'm headed the other direction and I felt that the costs were prohibitive and then I checked out what it cost for you and oh my! It must seem to be an insurmountable obsticle!

However, the surgeries are not done all at once - wow that would ne tough!

You can spread out the costs a bit that way, but I know how much it hurts to see your life long dream on the other side of a chasm that can only be filled with money!

How much easier life would be if we weren't so into money - you are only as good as your bank account!

Good luck and please don't be too discouraged, through hard work, careful planning and a lot of perseverence you will make it!

Love ya,

Sally

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Hola!

And welcome. (I'm much better today, not freezing). We're always up for good convo around here.

Yeah, the costs of surgery can be pretty daunting, it actually is probably the number one thing that dictates the "swiftness" with which many transition. Best advice I can give you is check out what insurances in your state cover and don't cover. An easy way to do it is actually go to a support group or gender counselor in your area and just ask. People who are on the same road or are post-op usually already have done some of that same research for where you live ;) Don't reinvent the wheel where you don't have to, follow the path already forged, when necessary clear away some bracken yourself but remember, leave it visible to whoever is coming after you.

Other than health insurances, theres care credit. If you aren't afraid of a line of credit for that and think you'd qualify check it out.

www.carecredit.com/ Hint: Check to make sure the surgeon you're planning to deal with deals with care credit before takin the line of credit out.

I definately feel you on the realizin "how" you want to be loved by that woman part. I think you'll find that other people have that same sort of understand sometimes tho it might be at different points and in different contexts. I'm hopin you also realize that just your sexual attraction isn't the basis of your gender identity. But it sounds like you do.

Glad to have you. It's always cool when more fellas drop in ;)

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waw thank u 4 these welcome words :D

i completely understand whats goin on with me

the fact is that i have a gf, she is plannin to move to my place in june but she still doesnt know that im a girl

its just so hard to confess :mellow:

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Guest Jackson

Welcome.

Sorry, had to do the family Christmas thing.

Yeah, I gotta agree. That's sticky. Accidently happened to me once. That wasn't good.

Anyway, there's a heck of a lot of info here. Glad to have you.

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Guest Crossroads

Yay! I worked today!! It was fun!! (And busy)

Anyway, welcome Adri! Don't have much to say right now, but I'm sure we'll hear more from you about everything soon. Good to have you aboard.

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well just to let all of u know, im very happy today

last night i confessed everything to my online gf and she accepted me as i am :)

i was thinkin u know since she planned to move here in june i gotta confess asap so i decided that the day has come

it was very hard coz i was riskin to loose her but now i can finally talk to her over the phone and look 4ward to our future together ;)

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Congratulations, Adri!

Isn't it nice to have someone who knows and accepts you? I hope that you two can really make a go of it - looks like you are off to a good start.

Love ya,

Sally

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wow dude things dont seem to be going to bad do they?

you got the girl and she accepts you, its a great feeling isnt it,

about the surgery and stuff, its a long on going process the change and so along the way u'll be worring bout something different each time!

good luck for the future

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