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Sex Marker Change On Driver's License


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Guest StrandedOutThere

Well...now that I've had chest surgery, I can go ahead and change my driver's license. Florida requires a surgeon's letter and that's it. I mean, the individual DMV's can give you a hard time, but technically all I need is the letter.

I've got the letter. It says exactly what it needs to say.

Do I have the guts to walk into that DMV and "do the deed"?

I've decided that I'm going to give it a try tomorrow. That way I can bring in the new year with that "M" on my license. When I get ID'd people won't give me weird looks anymore.

The thing is...

I'm scared.

I'm afraid that the people at the DMV won't change my DL. I'm afraid they'll treat me badly. I'm not afraid of people staring. That doesn't bother me at all.

So...here I am. Part of me is about to explode with excitement at the prospect of changing my license. Another part of me is afraid that the DMV won't cooperate. I don't pass 100% of the time now. I'm wondering if people will give me a harder time about changing the DL because of that. It isn't like I can stand up and demand my rights. In Florida, I don't really have a lot of rights...where changing the sex on my driver's license is concerned.

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You're changing the marker on your drivers license and you're scared???!

Dude I was already in envy over the surgery, if you do not change that marker I will lose my mind lol. True, it will make me want to kill you (lol more envy) but still.

**smacks you on the head with a fish

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Let me get this straight - you had the guts for the surgery, but the long lines and surley people at the DMV scare you? They aren't armed - your surgeon had a whole tray full of various knives!

My point is, do it! Be a man! :D

After all that is what you have always wanted.

Remember when you walk in there you are not alone, we are all behind you - OK, a lot of people will be in front of you, bt we're all behind you!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Hummmm strange posting because I am trying to lose this sort of anger ... :unsure:

Tell them you don't really need the BS - if you are perceived as a man all the time, having "F" on your license is gonna cause you a lot of problems, and don't they agree?

Say "com'on, gimme a break here - I am not female, don't look female, don't act female, gimme a d**m male confirmation right there in that box. " - and if its a guy, ask, "would you want an "F"' on your id?" if its a gal, say 'hey, no offence but do you really want people to think someone like me is a girl/woman/female like you?'

They might just give you what you need before they kick your s..... a.. outta there!

Guuuuurrrrr... T- power - use it!

Not a very lady-like answer I am afraid - grin. :lol:

Lizzy

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Let me get this straight - you had the guts for the surgery, but the long lines and surley people at the DMV scare you? They aren't armed - your surgeon had a whole tray full of various knives!

Exactly lol. Its just like the bathroom. Go in like "of course" its regular. And if you do get the wanker worker of the world you know what you do? GO TO ANOTHER OFFICE. Snatch your info back with attitude and leave and do it somewhere else ;) You are a man, men care not for piddly desk workers.

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Guest Jackson

Ainsley, I've been there.

Don't worry. I was so sure that I'd get a lot of crap when I went. I almost took a copy of the policy that Wisconsin has regarding gender marker change. I didn't even have to do that. I got so lucky. The woman just made sure I had everything they would need and that was it. She was really nice about it too. It was just another thing that seems really anti-climatic in a way.

I seriously still cannot believe that my driver's license is changed. I keep thinking that some day I'll wake up and I've have dreamed it all.

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I've been where you are and I can tell you don't worry so much, the people at dmv have done this b4 and it'll be okay. I changed my name in november of this year and then got a letter from my doctor and was able to change my ID down at the dmv, and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, I got the F changed to M and I also got a new picture taken 'cause my face had changed from the T since the last time I was there. The next day I went to Social Security and did the same thing with no hassel at all, just a court ordered name change and the letter from my docter. Mind you I did this all in NY b4 I moved to TX because I didn't know what the laws were here. Anyway wants its done and you get all your new ID, can I just say OH YEAH!!!!!!! Now I'm unstoppable

GOOD LUCK and DON"T WORRY.

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Guest Karen-1954

If you go in there doubting yourself, expect some doubt from them, people pick up on that. Just fill yourself with the comfidence of knowing that is the right thing to do and do it.

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Guest StrandedOutThere

I got it!!!!!

Yup. No one gave me any trouble. The lady at the DMV read my letter and didn't question.

Here's the experience in a bit more detail. I walk in to the DMV near my house and take a number. I think they were on 318 when I came in and my number was 332. It was pretty busy, so there were a lot of tellers...workers...whatever you call them. Before long it was almost my turn. I kept thinking to myself...."Please don't let me get called to the window near the waiting area....oh please...anything but that". Sure as anything, that's exactly the window I get called to, right where everyone can hear me. To my chagrin, I note that the lady has her desk decorated with little angels and family pictures, looking very conservative. I tell her that I need to make a change to my license and hand her the letter. She reads the letter and says that they'll have to issue me a new DL. In Florida, part of your DL number is determined by your sex. Good....good... At least I didn't have to worry about them telling me they'd just put a sticker on my old one.

The worst part of the whole experience (which wasn't that bad) was the woman's look of surprised disbelief. I don't think the look ever left her face. She avoided eye contact with me, yet continued to be very polite and professional. I appreciated that.

So...now I have it. I think I'm going to sit and enjoy this one for a bit before I lock horns with the South Carolina vital records office. SC doesn't amend birth certificates. They just give you a card to staple to the old one.

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And do you know WHY she had that look? Because she thought by your appearance you had been born male. No other reason lol. Think about it. EXTRA COOL. You da man Ains B)

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Ainsley!

Cool name, cool photo - what else for a cool dude? :D

Things are never really as bad as we anticipate, are they?

Congratulations, I proud of you young man!

Love ya,

Sally

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congrats man! that's pretty freaking sweet :D...when i finally got mine changed at the DMV in NY i was freaking out!....it's a good feeling isn't it? ...and i feel you on the birth certificate issue...ohio does the same thing as SC..

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