Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

How long can "going stealth" last?


Guest Nostros

Recommended Posts

Guest Nostros

Heya guys/girls! ^_^

So by making this topic I wanted to ask you when do you think is the line when you no longer can go "stealth" (and by stealth I mean transition but still pretend and be in a "boy-mode")?

I myself live in a country where it's pretty hard being transsexual, too few people live here and the LGBT community is scarce and you can't undergo HRT or SRS here cuz the laws don't allow and don't approve of sex change and transsexuals are regarded as mentally sick people... Soo yeah you might get the point of why I'm going "stealth" =o

So I just wanted to hear some of your thoughts and maybe suggestions of how I can still be stealth, but also feel good about myself, cuz sometimes I feel very depressed about how limited I feel in this country...

Here's me today @ my school. Did I cross the "going stealth" line and people can tell, or do you think I'm still somewhat passable as a boy?=d

praktikoj.jpg

-L. ^_^

Link to comment
Guest Robin Winter

I think you look fairly androgynous in a pretty sort of way. I don't know how androgyny is viewed there, but it seems like a safe line to walk, at least it is where I live.

Link to comment

It's really hard to see the Man... But i am sure if you talk in a Deep voice people will follow you by calling you Him/He and seeing you as one.

At best i would save up money and get the !@#$ out of there :thumbsup:

Link to comment
  • Admin

Young male, look 15 but your profile says 22. Careful because too young male for real age = male fail.

Link to comment
  • Admin

I can go along with the androgynous look, hon. Change the hair style around and maybe more towards the male side.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

Link to comment
Guest Nostros

Hey thanks for the suggestions so far!: ) Well I do hate looking male.... >.< but sometimes I gotta pretend.. ehhh... I'd like to just pass as a boyish lesbian cuz that's how I identify myself as.

Link to comment
Guest LizMarie

If being yourself is going to cause you to be arrested and prosecuted, I would seriously look at ways to move to another country. And you look very androgynous in that photo but with the right visual cues, you should be able to continue to present male successfully. Consider things like a very male looking wristwatch to add emphasis.

Link to comment
Guest (Lightsider)

I was just reading about Lithuania. Seriously? Almost sounds like the state of Texas moved to the EU. I hate to see any one be something they are no because they have to go underground to be safe. Nostros, got a few questions for you...so I understand this correctly. In your country...are the IDs of transgendered people marked that they had GRS? That is what I am gathering from what I am reading. What are the exact restriction that have been placed into law that are affecting your happiness?

Thanks. I am totally disgusted that you or any trans in another country are suffering because of the laws created by some small minded waste of skin on planet earth.

Link to comment
Guest Nostros

I was just reading about Lithuania. Seriously? Almost sounds like the state of Texas moved to the EU. I hate to see any one be something they are no because they have to go underground to be safe. Nostros, got a few questions for you...so I understand this correctly. In your country...are the IDs of transgendered people marked that they had GRS? That is what I am gathering from what I am reading. What are the exact restriction that have been placed into law that are affecting your happiness?

Thanks. I am totally disgusted that you or any trans in another country are suffering because of the laws created by some small minded waste of skin on planet earth.

Hey Nicole! Thanks for your support!

Well I think you can get the regular "F" in your passport/ID card but you must have had SRS done (which is not allowed in this country, so you have to go do it somewhere else and also you can't get the psychotherapist approval here since it would mean that they would loose their license if they would approve of that and if they would prescribe you HRT since transsexualism here is either not treated at all or treated in some asylum...) anyways if you even do get SRS in some other country and then return here to have your documents changed then you have to take them to court (the government) and then they make a big fuss about it and the news media then take photos of you and make articles in the newspapers and stuff... soo yeah)

Link to comment
Guest Sentience

I have been seriously shocked regarding Lithuania. I had absolutely no idea. Lithuania ans Scotland have such strong links but scotland is so Liberal. Lithuania is still a young democracy so perhaps in the near future things will start to thaw out.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   2 Members, 0 Anonymous, 55 Guests (See full list)

    • Pip
    • MaybeRob
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      770.4k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,107
    • Most Online
      8,356

    SimplyMadeloeine
    Newest Member
    SimplyMadeloeine
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. austin_4
      austin_4
      (17 years old)
    2. Britany_Relia
      Britany_Relia
      (39 years old)
    3. Emily S
      Emily S
      (67 years old)
    4. Hoof Arted
      Hoof Arted
      (22 years old)
    5. n3eeko
      n3eeko
  • Posts

    • Desert Fox
      I started estrogen (oral) a little before age 50 and not the maximum dose either and also no blockers. It almost immediately accentuated the feminine features I already had, and expanded my already soft areas of skin, widened my hips and distributed more fat to my thighs and increased my breast size. There seem to be some subtle changes to my face too though I doubt I am any more passable than I was a decade ago, it’s just nice to not use breast forms anymore. I haven’t switched to injections as planned and there really hasn’t been much change after the first 6 months and my body fights back; my E levels dropped and T increased even on the same dose so it has not really done much for me. It sounds like injections are the far better way to go, plus progesterone after a while if the doctor will prescribe that.    As is often said, everyone is unique and one’s mileage may vary, and what works for one person may not for another. 
    • Desert Fox
      This is so sad. The violence in general in Washington State seems to have ramped up a lot, and gender-based violence and hate crimes seem to be worse as well. My parents once lived in Renton but I don’t care for that city and never go there. I don’t think it really matters though as crimes like this can happen anywhere and often are perpetrated by a male who was in a prior relationship with the victim.
    • Desert Fox
      I’ve never been in therapy specifically labeled as such, butI think IFS therapy evolved from treatment of dissociative identity disorder in which one’s various alters or parts are treated as an internal family, and each part is like a separate individual who can be spoken to individually or have dialogue with other parts. In a person with full DID, doing that supposedly helps to break down the dissociative barriers that cause that person to not be able to remember what they did for parts of a day or longer. This was the case with me.   Anyone’s mind, though, can be thought of as being compartmentalized to some extent and we all can have an inner child and various aspects of our selves, yet the dissociation is never to a degree that it causes problems like with DID. But the same aspects of working with an internal family or different aspects of self, like the inner child, the rebellious teen, the persecutor parental type, etc, can help heal trauma nonetheless. I think many of us do have sides of us that we don’t like, or others don’t like, and it can be useful to examine how they came about and what purpose they serve as they are often a means of self-protection or coping with anxiety. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      We had soup and steamed rice for dinner tonight.  Simple, basic, feed-a-ton-of-people kind of food.  With strawberries for dessert!  We have a huge strawberry patch, so I spent a couple of hours this afternoon picking.  And there's some left over, which I put in the downstairs kitchenette.  Time for a late night snack!     Outside of meals, I mostly live by nibbling on fruit and a few green things. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, it is officially summer.  85 degrees outside the last two days, and GF is sick and irritable.  I have to curl up under heavy blankets in my nest, because she's got the AC turned down to the point I expect to see icicles growing on the ceiling.  This is what life is like when your partner is an arctic creature. I should be used to it by now, but just when I think its nice and warm, she has to freeze me.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      I just can't resist.  Does all that mean that.............the bird is the word? 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, that might be interesting.  At least since she's 24, its not like you're on the hook for expenses. 
    • Lydia_R
      Been using the wok on the back deck a lot the last few months.  Just got another stock of udon noodles from Amazon and we are using those in the stir fry with onions, peppers and a spicy peanut sauce.  I did this often in the 90's too, but back then I was just using a standard Coleman camp stove instead of this high BTU wok burner.  I've had the burner for a couple years, but haven't been using it regularly until recently.    
    • Lydia_R
      Lovely!
    • Justine76
      I’m a lefty. Learned to be a bit ambidextrous for certain tools that assume right handedness like scissors, but couldn’t write with my right hand to save my life. 
    • Lydia_R
      Tangent, adjacent, opposite...  It's still rock n' roll to me.  I don't know about the "in god we trust" part of the money, but I like the lady with the scale.  And then I look left at the Indian statue on my mantel of Guanyin feeding a drop of liquid to the dragon at her feet.  In god we trust?  The lady with the scale?  Maybe this is too binary.  And then on the other side of Guanyin is that kind of pelican wood bird that sits two feet tall that I hauled back from South America through the Panama canal.  The beak broke in 1998 and I carefully saved the pieces (as I usually do) and attached them back about a decade ago.  I used a drill to make a small hole and then put a finish nail in there.  Then a hole on those two pieces that needed to be attached.  Upper and Lower beak.  There is still a seam showing.  I could cover that up, but the beak is a bright yellow and well, it's better with all the pieces in place and I don't mind seeing the crack.  I guess that is the tangent and the other two are the opposite and adjacent. -money  Why don't coders always code the "-" action in their search fields?  It's not that difficult!
    • Ashley0616
      A maxi dress with blue and white and some Berkenstock style flip flops.
    • MirandaB
      @April Marie Yes, it's something to shop for at least for 6-8 weeks. 
    • VickySGV
      Definitely points to learn and keep in mind.  A bunch of stuff I had put in mental "cold storage" thawed out a bit there and ready again to run through my mill.  As said, a bit long and as usual from her a tad bit challenging.  Overall I see it and can use it as a working hypothesis.  
    • kristinabee
      right handed  
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...