So uh. What am I?

[Guest Waffle Cat]

Well. I know that:

- I'm not happy with these jiggling things that seem to serve no purpose

- I'm not interested in having children. Ever.

- I pass as male almost half of the time

- My preferred idea of a "formal outfit" is a suit and tie. (why are they so expensive, tho?)

- One will have to kill me first before getting me to wear a skirt ever again.

- I look awful in make-up (did it twice. burned all the evidence).

But then there is one "feminine" thing I've done: I liked-like this guy. I still do, even though he kept turning me down.

I can't go to a therapist because my parents just have to know where I am, all the time (I'm 18 and in college. Kinda sad, but that's another separate issue). I could try going to my guidance counselor, but then I have another separate issue that he thinks is affecting my thoughts. It's hard to get him off that topic, so yeah.

Help? :I

[Guest Zeda]

Waffle Cat, liking guys is not a "feminine" thing. There are lots of very masculine men who are very much attracted to other men. I have a friend outside of the forums who happens to be FTM and he identifies as a gay man.

As to not liking your anatomy, we totally get that, here XD Personally, I think just having everything removed would make me a lot more comfortable. I like to climb trees and pretend I'm a monkey or flying tree squirrel, and certain pieces of anatomy get in the way, as you might imagine.

As to the suit question, I imagine it is because of economics. When a guy buys a suit, it will last for a loooong time and they won't need a new one. It is easier to make a large purchase if what you buy will serve its purpose for a long while.

As to what you are, maybe you are FTM, maybe androgynous, maybe just you, plus a few annoying spare parts, maybe a Waffle Cat?

[Guest Waffle Cat]

Waffle Cat, liking guys is not a "feminine" thing. There are lots of very masculine men who are very much attracted to other men. I have a friend outside of the forums who happens to be FTM and he identifies as a gay man.

Well. That's nice to hear.

...Now I can like him without that nagging feeling that maybe deep down I'm really female.

Thank you!

[Guest Robin Winter]

Yeah, when I was exploring my sexuality (presenting male of course), I dated some men. I went out on one date with this one guy in Ontario, and there was absolutely no way you would ever guess he was even gay. He was kinda like one of those dad's from a 50's movie, reading a newspaper and smoking a pipe in his leather chair. Very old school masculine. Quiet, rugged, big sports fan, that sort of thing. The only thing I managed to find out about him that hinted at a non-traditional spirit was that he liked sushi

So ya, liking guys doesn't mean you have to be feminine at all.

[Guest Zeda]

Glad to be of assistification (I enjoy made up words >.>) I wonder if there has been a poll for FTMs asking about their sexual preferences. I am now kind of curious >.>

[Guest Clair Dufour]

I was at Clark from 1967-1969. The Philippines was a very different place than here. I met a number of "Billie Boys" but never noticed FTM's. I suppose I was not looking for them. At the time it seemed a much more accepting country than the US. I mean, two guys holding hands on a public street. You only see that here at a Gay Pride Parade. I miss the desire for a suit. Barong's now seem to be unisex? http://www.mybarong.com/ Then and now it is about becoming part of the community that thinks like you do and see what fits.

[Guest Waffle Cat]

I was at Clark from 1967-1969. The Philippines was a very different place than here. I met a number of "Billie Boys" but never noticed FTM's. I suppose I was not looking for them. At the time it seemed a much more accepting country than the US. I mean, two guys holding hands on a public street. You only see that here at a Gay Pride Parade. I miss the desire for a suit. Barong's now seem to be unisex? http://www.mybarong....rong.com/ Then and now it is about becoming part of the community that thinks like you do and see what fits.

Well. I do occasionally two guys holding hands and walking at my school, but I think most students will probably guess it's a social experiment for Sociology or Psychology class. There are also two or three gay comedians doing TV shows and comedy movies. One of them seems to be quite popular. I watched one show, and that (erm) person, wasn't really the "gay" that I expected (I can't describe it properly in English tho).

But then again, I don't go out often.

I also have never seen a female wearing a Barong, either.

But, cool, they make women's barong now. Never knew that.

[Guest Clair Dufour]

This is a good place to start http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_in_the_Philippines

[Guest ChrisMayer]

Hi... I'm Kit; I'm new here, so I don't know if I belong here, But can appreciate the ramifications; I look MOSTLY male, but have a considerable 44DD bustline. My hormones are of low T and Startlingly high E, (the reason I cry so much) I often question my gender and even wonder if I have a vestigial ovary or not, my hair growth is sparse. and I often gravitate towards 'softer' and 'gentler' things. Like I said, I don't know what to make of myself, and I'm sorry if I'm in the wrong...just wanted to say hi.