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Had nothing to do with what I was wearing.....


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Guest endthesilence

I realized at work yesterday, even in a suit and tie, everyone in the building sees me as female and treats me as such. It has nothing to do with what I am wearing. My personality and disposition are genuine and its pretty cool. I never thought this could happen without looking female. I report this to encourage a discussion on the power of our personalities and to talk about how clothes really don't define our true gender(s) they just help accessorize it :)

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Hi Hon,

I've always found myself in the middle - not really male, and not really female. So, people have taken their gender cues from what they see and hear from me. I was treated as male for a long time, and now I'm treated as female - and it seems to have everything to do with presentation, including what I wear.

I'm happy for you that you've found what you're looking for without that transition! We do need to find our happy place, wherever that lies - and you sound like you're there!

Love, Megan

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Guest Delphinus

It has nothing to do with what I am wearing... I never thought this could happen without looking female. I report this to encourage a discussion on the power of our personalities and to talk about how clothes really don't define our true gender(s) they just help accessorize it :)

That's wonderful news!! I've experienced it both ways. I've been sir'ed when I opened the door in my pajamas (and they were way to big so, unintentionally revealing), and I've been 'ma'am'ed' when wearing a suit and tie! I think it's mostly about what you project. :-)

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I must admit as my confidence grows I get less issues with how I look. I like to live how I feel and and a confident personality seems to relax people

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Guest Carla_Davis

Hi Hon,

When I first started Coming-Out " I "felt" everyone was watching me in a "Bad" way.

Today, I know everyone are watching me in a "Good" way.

I also dress the way I feel. I am always polite and respectful and I get it in return.

Confidence solves all.

Hugs,

Carla

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Guest Mia J

This always happened to me before transition. But I think it was due to being short and and what I was projecting. My spouse and I would be somewhere and would probably be addressed as "ladies" close to 50% of the time. At least now it is 100% of the time.

Mia

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