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First Post Op Sunday In My Parish Church --Happy Cry


VickySGV

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At 20 days Post Op, I got up today and was able to go back to my own church for the first time. I did not know it on the way to church, that it was actually my day to be the Intercessor and read the Prayers Of The People during the communion service. I am still having discomfort and mild pain, and I suppose I could have opted out, but I did not. So at the proper place, I went forward to read.

Three times during the service i found myself crying, and as I type this, that feeling is coming back. This crying is NOT from pain, but from the relief that I have returned to an important place in my life, a place I might not have been able to come back to to if the surgery had gone wrong and I had not made it through. (That thought did cross my mind).

I felt complete Peace as I took communion as if even Christ was gently giving me an easy hug and warm loving smile.

I had let it be known when I left on Jan 11, what the surgery would be, and while I doubt that all of the people there understood why I was doing it, they are not judging me by its strangeness or horror or even a false idea of "morality". I am so lucky, but now the goal is to help others find the open caring in their churches. It is a Cross to be carried throughout the world until all Christians see its message. I know a few today who know it.

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Guest Gregg Jameson

Hi Vicky,

Well, your amazingly heartfelt post brought tears of joy to my eyes!

I am not one to tear up very easily, although my heart is not hardened.

Yet, I have been thinking of you and hoping, so very much, that all goes well for you during and after surgery!

I have deeply hoped you will continue to find great joy in life!

You have and you do and ... you will continue to find great Peace and Joy!

I truly sense, Vicky, you are an integral part of why your congregation is so accepting!

I have also sensed, for quite sometime now, that this mission within the Church is one for which you feel some degree of a "calling."

You are an amazing person, an amazing woman! I am very grateful our paths have crossed.

Congratulations on the completion and the success of your surgery!

With Tremendous Love, Admiration and Gratitude for a Very Loving Heart and Soul, Our Lovely Vicky!

Gentlest of Hugs,

Brad

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Guest Robin Winter

Vicky, I may not share your faith, but you have my sincere admiration. It can't be easy to be trans and Christian. I know that support within the church is increasing, but they aren't totally there yet, and I think it must be very disheartening for many in your position.

Keep strong :)

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Vicky, it's beautful when we can truly be ourselves at our place of worship. I did the same

this past June and it was life changing for me, my wife and the congregation. Congratulations.

:ThanxSmiley:

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Vicky, I think your stories of having a welcoming church helped me be open to the idea of embracing a community of faith and worship. I believe I have found a similar family of spiritual seekers and am glad I opened my mind to the possibility I could be me in a house of worship. Thank you for playing a part in that.

Good to see you back in the fold, Well, you and your donut... :)

Hugs

Michelle

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Vicky

A gentle hug is coming your way. God bless you and bring you joy for the rest of your life. You are an inspiration of courage to us all. Kathryn

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Vicky, I think your stories of having a welcoming church helped me be open to the idea of embracing a community of faith and worship. I believe I have found a similar family of spiritual seekers and am glad I opened my mind to the possibility I could be me in a house of worship. Thank you for playing a part in that.

Good to see you back in the fold, Well, you and your donut... :)

Hugs

Michelle

Michelle,

There is nothing better for ones soul than to be in a house of worship where one is loved and accepted. For with the love of Jesus, His kindness and Compassion, one can heal from past battles and walk again into the world .

To be Loved and Accepted is the Most Important thing in any human beings life

Mike

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