Am I a Male Lesbian?

[Guest ENPAndrogyne]

I was wondering just for my own personal research what is the difference between a Male Lesbian, A Queer Heterosexual Male and a Non-Op Transwoman? I identify as Androgyne for now and always have been attracted to females socially as friends and also sexually, through romantically I'm attracted to Masculine Butch identified Women. I've been currently wearing make up and growing long blonde hair and want to look more pretty like a model. So I'm just curious on my own identity which one I relate to more? I'm not sure if I'm a Non Op Transwoman or not but as I look at my past, being born male does seem like a mistake. Even in childhood, high school, college, present I am most confortable with woman my own age (mid-20s). Though I'm not sure if it's right to say that I can be quite a Tomboy from time to time and like to be around open minded men who have the kind of sense of humor and appreciation for high brow art like me. Though I know for sure that I just love wearing make up and looking androgynous. I want to look as good as Andrej Pejic in my future as well as a bit of 1980s fashion as well., I'm working on dieting and losing weight at my local gym. Anyway, would you say that I closely relate to Male Lesbian Sexuality?

[JJ]

To me it seems that labels really don't work for us. And especially for non-binary. As a species I think we are driven to label and classify things-even seen it postulated that it is the trait that drove us to develop our intelligence and become what we are today-but in some situations those labels confuse more than define. If you want to wear a label then I'd say it's up to you to define what suits you best and no one else can really decide it or has the right to dispute your choice either.

Sounds like you are openly exploring your feelings and identifications with yourself which is great. Sometimes the best label we can adapt for ourselves is "Me'

Johnny

[Guest ENPAndrogyne]

Hi Honey,

I couldn't agree with Johnny's analysis more. My personal hero is Popeye: "I yam what I yam!".

I'm in nearly the same category as you, an androgynous MTF with a preference for females. But that label, Lesbian just doesn't seem to fit. Oh, neither does MTF or androgyne either. Oh well, somewhere on the gender spectrum right about there. See where I'm pointing? Never mind, it's not important at all.

Self acceptance is the primary thing - comfort in who you are, not having to define it. You could put yourself in that "Me" box, or "Human" box. Those two are pretty solid. After that, just get the most of who you are - enjoy!!!

Love, Megan

I agree, I had someone who I knew who leaded a transgender meeting I went to once tell me that "the interesting thing about lables is it's in the matter of choice of the individual There might be someone who could relate to you in your situation and might either identify as something else or no label at all. Even though you want to do research on a certain label and you worry that there isn't much support for it, keep in mind that you already know everything about it since you basically experience it every day." Sometimes I got to remind myself that from time to time.

That's cool you like Popeye, I enjoy the old black and white rubber hose animation style Fleischer Studios Popeye cartoons myself. I'd like to get them on DVD when I get the chance. I'm a Animation DVD collector. I especially love the old Looney Tunes, Woody Woodpecker and Tex Avery cartoons myself