can the doctor say no....

[Guest endthesilence]

Hi there Mattie here....

I have a hrt appt on the 26th of this month and I am inside my head thinking the doc is gonna say no to hrt. This is because i am going to the doc looking like a man and I am afraid if the doc knows I am male and female and I dont want surgery she's gonna think I am not really transgender. Also I got a letter from my psych stating that my depression issues are fully under control im just am afraid to tell the doc who I really am because I need hrt i just don't want her to think I am crazy or weird. Med ppl freak me out and I just hope she is sweet and understanding. :/

[Guest SusanB]

Niether my GT or my Endo has ever seen me dressed fem, that is not an issue

[Guest]

"Also I got a letter from my psych stating that my depression issues are fully under control"

Why is your depression fully under control? Could it be you got a little help and the huge hope of getting HRT? Me thinks so!

A doctor would want to know that you are stable, so they can comfortably prescribe hormones. Prescribing homones purely as a cure for depression is not likely. When the mood swings hit, does the patient become suicidal? See where I'm going with this? At every step of the way, to where ever the steps stop, you need to be mentally ready and stable. See your Doctor, be open and honest, letting your female side shine through. HRT is to correct a glitch in the body, not the mind. Hug. JodyAnn

[VickySGV]

Without knowing your medical history and a bunch of other things, the doctor is the only one who will know if he NEEDS TO SAY NO which will be on the basis of your overall health. The second item is that you do not say that your therapist has RECOMMENDED HORMONES as a curative or controlling factor for your health. Those two items are paramount in your doctor prescribing HRT meds for you. The two items you mention, the male dressing, and your No Op status are the least of your worries.

If your health is generally good or at least puts you at very low risk for the dangers of HRT, and the letter from your therapist says that they will be therapeutic to your overall mental health, your doctor's only hold up will be knowledge and expertise in the use of the Meds, in which case he will send you to a colleague who has the necessary expertise.

[Guest Sarah Faith]

Mattie, of course the doctor can say no, its his/her Rx number on the line when he/she writes a prescription its their responsibility to write prescriptions responsibly. Though what Vicky says is accurate!

I honestly didn't bother going to my Doctor dressed female, aside from the fact I keep a more feminine part in my hair all the time now, and I hadn't even started laser hair removal on my facial hair and had pretty bad shadow when I went in. So I don't think your appearance should be a factor in your doctor deciding to prescribe HRT for you. It's the other factors that Vicki mentioned that will be the biggest deciding factor.

I'm sure you'll be fine.

[Guest endthesilence]

thank you to all that replied. i appreciate it much. My doctors letter is a letter of recommendation that I start hormones. He put in the depression piece to the letter because I am bipolar since I was 14. I saw a gender therapist for 10 years but have not been in treatment for the past 2 years cuz I am doing better. I still go if things get bad. I am ready for HRT I dont feel it will fix my mind no I feel it will help warm my soul by having a more congruent appearance. its a big step and "stability" for me is day to day always aiming to find the middle ground.