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Bought my first shoulder bag. :o


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Have two bags so far, haven't carried one yet. Still cold enough to put everything in my coat pockets.

Most of the gals i know dont carry one, they just don't carry much.

Always have the saddlebags on the bike LOL

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Well yeah, makeup takes up one compartment of my purse. Pocketbook and miscellaneous in the other compartment. Lipsticks (note, plural) goes into an outside flap compartment for easy touch up access. There's a pocket on one end for the cell phone. The keys get tossed in and end up at the bottom by the time I need them again (how does that happen?!). My only caveat was that my sunglasses case is a little big because it's a hard case and I needed a purse big enough to hold it, and smaller purses weren't working in that regard so I had to upsize to a purse that could.

..and it's economical. Though I can't afford a nice size Coach purse, I get compliments on my cheapo $18 Walmart purse.

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Guest Sarah Faith

Lizzie, aside from Nail polish (of which I have a disturbing amount of bottles!) I can count the number of makeup items that I own on one hand, infact one finger! lol I own some bare minerals foundation that I actually have yet to even wear. But there is definitely room for it in my bag when I do buy some more! :)

I dunno that I would wanna lug around the HUGE purses, at that point I'd just feel like going to a dufflebag! hehe

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Guest meagan

So far I have one purse, a Rebecca Minkoff Nikki hobo. I have my eye on the lookout for a Minkoff M.A.C and a Coach Madison Sophia (with angled strap attachment).

I already had a love for shoes, then tights and now bags. Had to become a member of The Purse Forum just to be able to ogle and admire the immense mountain of purses there are.

A friend told me once, that if a purse just calls out to you. You best get it or spend a fortune on second bests that see little use.

I also spend way to much time on eBay, hoping and waiting to find my Minkoff or Coach in the perfect color and price range. Found my Nikki that way for 70$ instead the 400$ it retails for. Very happy.

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Guest Sarah Faith

meagan, My issue is actually that I like variety so Im always on the look out for more stuff!

Thanks Jamie! :D I love it and so far it goes pretty well with everything Ive worn.

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Guest Sarah Faith

It's the same thing as houses, no matter the size you'll find a way to fill it.

So far that seems to be the case, literally every single day I think of something else that would be useful to keep in my bag. I STILL haven't got around to makeup.

So I realize I may need a bigger bag!

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It's the same thing as houses, no matter the size you'll find a way to fill it.

So far that seems to be the case, literally every single day I think of something else that would be useful to keep in my bag. I STILL haven't got around to makeup.

So I realize I may need a bigger bag!

Hey, nice avatar girl! Hug. JodyAnn

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Um, I'm just kinda getting started on opening up to my feminine side, and was wondering, if and when it comes time for me to pick a hand bag, how do I know if I should go with an over the shoulder, or over the neck, strap ?

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Hi dear and welcome to Laura's. You might want to post a bit about yourself in the introduction topic area. I Have found that for me an over the shoulder bag works great 99% of the time. Everything is right at my fingertips which is so much nicer than pockets ever where. I can take the same bag and put it over my neck like a sling and push the bag on to my back if i need to. It is a vintage coach and is just so nice.

I will also ask that you read the terms and conditions found at the bottom of any page. It keeps this a safe and wonderful site for all of us. Hope to see more of you ,

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Charlie

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Thank you charlie, and I have read the rules, had plenty of time before my account was approved. Seems like mostly basic common (or uncommon as the case may be) sense and courtesy. I will keep your suggestion about the handbag in mind.

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I only mentioned it in your introduction to keep you from being lectured again. it is one of the things we mods do to help avoid future conflicts. I do hope you will find the self knowledge that i did here. We are all different but can share so much.

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Guest Sarah Faith

Um, I'm just kinda getting started on opening up to my feminine side, and was wondering, if and when it comes time for me to pick a hand bag, how do I know if I should go with an over the shoulder, or over the neck, strap ?

Well, it probably depends on the outfit. I was going for an every day bag and I wanted it to be small. not a fan of things hanging off my neck with the exception of my Necklace I always wear. There is a large variety out there so it's kinda scary the first time you go shopping for one. I actually asked a friend for suggestions and we went with the one I put in the picture. I was really wanting something that would go with just about anything, but if I were going to go formal for like a date or something I would probably find much fancier bag then that one!

Also welcome to Laura's :D

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If and when I finally step out to socialize in public as my fem side, I will definitely NEED a bag! Ever since I was 8 I had the nick name "Walking Toolbox"! As a man, it's not a problem, I wear full fatigues, as a woman, that could prove a problem.

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Guest Sarah Faith

If and when I finally step out to socialize in public as my fem side, I will definitely NEED a bag! Ever since I was 8 I had the nick name "Walking Toolbox"! As a man, it's not a problem, I wear full fatigues, as a woman, that could prove a problem.

I know what you mean, I was so used to having pockets everywhere, even my old Leather jacket had a ton of pockets! But my new jackets pockets are also pretty much for show, a purse is the only way to go!

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Guest Kaylee234

I'm constantly shopping for bags, but only have 3 at the moment. I'm way too picky.

I've been carrying one around for years now, even before I really decided to start transitioning. My first was technically a black messenger bag but that never fooled anyone; I used it like a purse. My most recent one is a pretty Betsy Johnson Tin Can Rose over the shoulder bag. I love it.

eBay is a great place to find good deals if you're patient and watch for obvious fakes.

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Guest Mia J

Hello Kaylee and welcome to Laura's. We are happy to have you with us on the forums.

When you get the chance you might want to go to the Introduction and give us a short intro about yourself.

Mia

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Guest Sarah Faith

I'm constantly shopping for bags, but only have 3 at the moment. I'm way too picky.

I've been carrying one around for years now, even before I really decided to start transitioning. My first was technically a black messenger bag but that never fooled anyone; I used it like a purse. My most recent one is a pretty Betsy Johnson Tin Can Rose over the shoulder bag. I love it.

eBay is a great place to find good deals if you're patient and watch for obvious fakes.

Oddly I never considered going on ebay, to look for stuff. I probably should do that.

I still only have the one bag though but it's been great for me so far! :D

And like Mia said, Welcome to Laura's Playground!

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Guest Deenah

I have a purse i bought at willson leather,it's a smaller one but fits what i need for the day...And i agree,you have one and then suddenly you have 5,then another comes home with you..I love being a women.. hehehe

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I have a purse i bought at willson leather,it's a smaller one but fits what i need for the day...And i agree,you have one and then suddenly you have 5,then another comes home with you..I love being a women.. hehehe

LOL... Yeah I've already bought my second one.. and its a bit bigger because yeah.. I ran out of room. It's amazing how many things you can think of that seem important to have with you when you actually have a bag to carry it around in. Really beats carrying a wallet around!

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Guest Caliana

Getting a shoulder bag is a big step. Congrats! You must be floating! I've been eyeing bags and purses myself but have not been able to woman up enough to make the purchase.

Maybe envy will give me the courage!

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I have a purse i bought at willson leather,it's a smaller one but fits what i need for the day...And i agree,you have one and then suddenly you have 5,then another comes home with you..I love being a women.. hehehe

LOL... Yeah I've already bought my second one.. and its a bit bigger because yeah.. I ran out of room. It's amazing how many things you can think of that seem important to have with you when you actually have a bag to carry it around in. Really beats carrying a wallet around!

Haha this is so funny with a little hindsight. I bought a new Betsey Johnson shoulder bag with roses and skulls all over it. I love it! But, it was a little smaller than the bag I had been using before... and it didn't really fit my iPad in it easily, and I had a lot of papers to carry around... so I started carrying my two Betseys together lol. Shoulder bag for the usual purse stuff, the iPad and paperwork in the cross-body bag. Hardcore! B)

~ Kay

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