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I suppose I cheated and posted elsewhere without making a thread here first, naughty me. I'm Zabrak's SO, and um, ridiculously in love with him and excessively involved in everything he does, so here I am, at the wonderful forum he told me he's found! There is such a diverse group of people here that it's a little overwhelming to try and get a sense of this place as a whole, but what I've seen suggests it's quite friendly and welcoming, and that's all I need :)

I'm slightly older than Zabrak, slightly taller and uh, slightly heavier. *cough* We've been together for at least a year and a half (hard to remember, time flies!) and things are good. It's a bit late though so I'll cut this short, here.

Oh and here's a face to match to the name

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Hi!

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Guest Donna Jean

Hi, Stuv.

Nice to have you here!

Thanks for putting a face to a name and thanks for introducing yourself! I'm sure you have an idea what's it's like around here, so make your self at home...

It's early so some coco and maybe some banana nut bread with real butter would be nice..

You might know that we are a huge fan of Zabrak around here and you being the "Significant One" makes it that much cooler!

Welcome to the Playground, Hon...Nice to have you :)

***HUGGS***

Donna Jean

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Hello Stuv,

Nice to meet you and see you.

Welcome to the forums, feel free to wander around and read evrything, ask questions and post comments.

I don't have to tell you what a special young man Zabrak is, you already know.

He is a favorite here in the forums and even helps me with computer problems from time to time.

Not bad, reaching from Canada to Texas! :D

Glad to have you here.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Zabrak is one a my fav-or-ite posters. WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME :D:D:D

I am sure you have been introduced over-the-shouder-wise to Laura's through Zabrak. Now feel free to ask around, make some topics happen - S.O. s are needed here to give everyone a full 360 degree view about the gender dysphoric community. You can also teach us, ya know.

Great to meet ya :P

Lizzy

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Doing good, thank you for the snacks, and the warm welcome :) Giving perspective, making topics happen, etc? A little scary for the moment, but we'll see what happens. And he is quite special, isn't he? :3

I'm bi, and rather queer besides - I feel it's helped a great deal in our relationship. I've also got what seems to me, at least, to be an uncommon perspective on attraction - which extends to friendship, love, favorite foods, fashion, music and games. It's backwards, a bit - experience, and wait until something speaks to you. It leaves me alone quite quickly, which reduces external influence, which pushes me farther towards what I really like!

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Guest Elizabeth K

Stuv - hey guy! you are an S.O. - and that's the biggie - we don't really know or care what our sexual orientation is here - we worry about GENDER - all the time , gender,gender,gender. And it consumes us - me? I am transsexual, MTF and I swear I will have my female anatomy someday and use it as much as I feel I need to. I was assigned male at birth, married three times, had three children. When I am female sexually, and still married, am I in a lesbian relationship? If I prefer men, and am female sexually, am I suddenly a heterosexual again? Rules don't apply anymore.

And you need to check out topics on the GLBT and how everyone here thinks gays, lesbians and bi's just don"t get us! I would like to hear from you on that! I outed to my two gay friends - they were totally bewildered - same as society in general,

So ya see dear - we NEED you here - PM me if you want, when you get your 5 plus posts = we can discuss it. We do see lesbian partners here of FTMs and they are having a terrible time accepting that their partner wants to be male... its really an interesting place, this Laura's

Welcome again

Lizzy

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Howdy Zabrack's overly involved, ridiculously in love, bisexual-but rather queer, cheating-by-posting-elsewhere SO :)

......Yup, I'm all about makin people feel not self conscious B)

:lol::P

(It's just not official till I fun ya)

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Guest Elizabeth K

uhhhhhhh

Watch that EVAN. You see that avatar? He has on a coat - but no pants!

Just a heads up -errrr, can I say that? Ooops there go my moderator priviledges - awwwww

Lizzy

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You see that avatar? He has on a coat - but no pants!

LOL!!

@Evan:

Don't forget hes also cute and sweet. ;)

@STUV

STALKER!

Lol jking. I love you. *hides*

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Hey Zabrak, with Stuv on the forums too you won't be able to say all of those horrible things about him any more. :o

Isn't it a mother's sworn duty to embarass her son anywhere at any time and as often as possible? I'm sure I read that in the hand book. :lol:

Just doing my job,

Moma Sally

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Hey Zabrak, with Stuv on the forums too you won't be able to say all of those horrible things about him any more. :o

Isn't it a mother's sworn duty to embarass her son anywhere at any time and as often as possible? I'm sure I read that in the hand book. :lol:

Just doing my job,

Moma Sally

I have no idea what your talking about. *cough *<_< *Cough*

:lol:

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What am I supposed to do? I don't have any baby pictures to pull out and show you in the bathtub or anything - why is it when a mother pulls out a picture of her son wearing nothing but a holster and waving a cap pistol, it isn't child pornography? Just embarassing.

Stuv, Zabrak is really a great guy, I just have to tease him sometimes.

I really am glad that you are here, it shows that you do care and want to understand and that is so inmportant.

Love ya,

Sally

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Goodness gracious me. Obviously I can't speak for anyone but myself (I'm not a licensed interpreter, hardeharhar), but Elizabeth if I had to guess, it might be a lack of solidarity among genderqueers, i.e. "I'm not as weird as co is, won't you please accept me, normative society?"

There's that whole horrible "slippery slope" garbage about homosexuality -> bisexuality -> polysexuality -> polygamy / bigamy -> bestiality -> dogs and cats, living together, mass chaos! -> armageddon, so who knows. People find ways to hate, seem to need to hate, to be able to love. Common enemies uniting disparate groups across boundaries, bla bla bla.

I'd be glad to have a chat but I can't guarantee I'll go searching for arguments all the time - it can get tiring! And like I said, being bi made "the talk" a lot easier than it would be for some couples; Zabrak kept asking me if I was sure it was ok and that I really did still love him :)

@Evan Funny how English works, isn't it? I def want to be self-aware, but self-conscious? Totally overrated. Hooray for funning ;]

@Sally Indeed it is! Not to be a total buzzkill, but that's one of the reasons I avoid my mother like AIDS now (that is, at all times except in controlled environments where I know there's no danger to either of us).

@Zabrak *finds you* *tackles* shhh not in public dear. Anyways I don't doubt I've had worse said about me before, and well I imagine what you said was true. We can have that discussion again, in public, if you want to let Laura's weigh in on it..

Yep. Gotta post more frequently, or they'll all be laundrylists like this one.

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Guest Kelly Ann

Hi Stuv...has Zabrak talked you into getting an Ironman outfit yet? If so keep an out out for missing small appliances like toasters and such and a change in weight on the suit. We've come to understand he's very handy with tools and quite clever with a soldering iron :D Welcome to the Forums, Kelly Ann

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Mothers don't have to embarass their children in public, but some do take a great deal of pleasure from it. Mine didn't, but her sister sure did - I could not count the number of pictures she carried around of my two cousins naked. The only thing that saved those girls was that she was such a bad photographer anywhere from 1/3 to 3/4 of the heads were cut off in each photo - the could say it wasn't them.

We are all so glad that you are here, as you may have noticed Zabrak has made a lot of friends here, I hope you will too.

Love ya,

Sally

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:D !sdrawkcab ouy dellac reven I

My head hurts! :(

Stuv,

Have you been touring the forums? Gathering information and finding out why Zabrak likes it here? If you ever figure out what makes him tick let us know!

Spend a little time in the SO forum and find out a little bit more about what to expect from him and a bit more about yourself as well.

Love ya,

Sally

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