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Guest MrAwesome

Well, I was wondering. Underworks makes shorts thingies to hide the hips, and shirts to compress the chest, and mango, and a few others make packers, and STP devices. But is there something for the shoulders? Mens shoulders are usually longer than their hips, while our bodies the hips are bigger, or about the same length as the shoulders. (It all depends)

Okay I look forward to reading everyone's responses. :)

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Guest Eagledancer

I would like to say that sometimes we get wrapped up in what is 'normal'. My SO has helped me with this in a way that I am so very grateful. I have health issues that precludes me from the majority of options available to FTMs. Because of my extreme limits, I had to come to the realization that my physical appearance wasn't what would make or break me. I am not transexual to present myself outwardly. I am who I am because of what is inside. I had to stop my testosterone...I don't bind, pack, or otherwise, and yet, people rarely address me anything other than 'sir'.

I was at a fast food establishment one day and the cashier handed me my change and said. "thank-you, sir." When she noticed my obvious chest, she had a strange look on her face and said, "I'm sorry, ma'am?" As she stepped back, she was so confused. I simply ask her if it mattered and laughed. She laughed and said, "No sir. I guess it doesn't!"

I tell that story to say that we all have to decide what is best for us, BUT it doesn't at all change who we are. The beauty of life is seeing and appreciating the uniqueness of ourself and others. A simple car accident can leave you disfigured, but it wouldn't mean that you suddenly become ugly. I guess I just want you to see your beauty and strengths and be careful not to get caught up in every small detail. Likewise, do whatever you want because it is your life and your call!

BTW, when I saw your picture, I saw nothing but male so kudos, SIR!

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I find my binder makes me keep my back straight so my shoulders are always pulled back(which there suppose to anyway) and helps make my shoulders look wider. You may not notice because you're relaxed but alot of people slump their shoulders foward. It's better on your back their not anyway - so its a good habit to get into(keeping your shoulders back).

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Guest Linus Thomas

Please, gawd, no. I have visions of the 80s in my head.

As for wider shoulders, chest press, shoulder press, etc. are tricks for it. Also, losing the extra 6pack (or 12 pack or kegger, as I have) can also create that effect. Clothing could do it but not without creating nightmare flashbacks to 80s wild hair and such. ;)

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Please, gawd, no. I have visions of the 80s in my head.

As for wider shoulders, chest press, shoulder press, etc. are tricks for it. Also, losing the extra 6pack (or 12 pack or kegger, as I have) can also create that effect. Clothing could do it but not without creating nightmare flashbacks to 80s wild hair and such. ;)

LMAO!!! I don't drink xP now I need to go look it up cause I don't know anything about the 80s o.o

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Well, I was wondering. Underworks makes shorts thingies to hide the hips, and shirts to compress the chest, and mango, and a few others make packers, and STP devices. But is there something for the shoulders? Mens shoulders are usually longer than their hips, while our bodies the hips are bigger, or about the same length as the shoulders. (It all depends)

Okay I look forward to reading everyone's responses. :)

I could tell yu excatly how to do this. It supersucks gettin' there but it works like a charm.

When I was fightin' this thing a bit I did somethin' rilly stupid and started liftin' with a buddy of mine, right?

Well, this cat was all about this fitness and weight lifting thing and I managed to pick up a few things along the way.

Maybe after tellin' you this I can datadump it from my hard drive, huh? Heehee!

Anywho, you got butterfly small barbells. Don't do it fast either. Don't use a Rocky Movie as a geekafier cause you'll be wasting time.

You gotta take slow reps and let that muscle tear. Like I said, it's no fun at all...but it works.

Stand up, and when you have like a five pounder on each side, elavate 'em as high as you can then down again in a slow motion.

This is the arm motion you'd make while makin' an angel in the snow, know what I'm sayin?

Forget reps. Do this until you can't do it anymore, take a short break to get some water and go directly back to it. Trust me.

I hope that helps.

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I could tell yu excatly how to do this. It supersucks gettin' there but it works like a charm.

When I was fightin' this thing a bit I did somethin' rilly stupid and started liftin' with a buddy of mine, right?

Well, this cat was all about this fitness and weight lifting thing and I managed to pick up a few things along the way.

Maybe after tellin' you this I can datadump it from my hard drive, huh? Heehee!

Anywho, you got butterfly small barbells. Don't do it fast either. Don't use a Rocky Movie as a geekafier cause you'll be wasting time.

You gotta take slow reps and let that muscle tear. Like I said, it's no fun at all...but it works.

Stand up, and when you have like a five pounder on each side, elavate 'em as high as you can then down again in a slow motion.

This is the arm motion you'd make while makin' an angel in the snow, know what I'm sayin?

Forget reps. Do this until you can't do it anymore, take a short break to get some water and go directly back to it. Trust me.

I hope that helps.

I think I have weights that little in my basement...I'm gonna try that out, thanks. =D

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Guest Linus Thomas
I could tell yu excatly how to do this. It supersucks gettin' there but it works like a charm.

When I was fightin' this thing a bit I did somethin' rilly stupid and started liftin' with a buddy of mine, right?

Well, this cat was all about this fitness and weight lifting thing and I managed to pick up a few things along the way.

Maybe after tellin' you this I can datadump it from my hard drive, huh? Heehee!

Anywho, you got butterfly small barbells. Don't do it fast either. Don't use a Rocky Movie as a geekafier cause you'll be wasting time.

You gotta take slow reps and let that muscle tear. Like I said, it's no fun at all...but it works.

Stand up, and when you have like a five pounder on each side, elavate 'em as high as you can then down again in a slow motion.

This is the arm motion you'd make while makin' an angel in the snow, know what I'm sayin?

Forget reps. Do this until you can't do it anymore, take a short break to get some water and go directly back to it. Trust me.

I hope that helps.

Oh gawd. I had a trainer that used to have me do that. Hurts like nuts! But ya. Does do the trick. May want to start at 2lbs. It sounds low but trust me: it HURTS! Really does work those muscles.

Standing arm lifts.

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Time to do some weight lifting, thanks for the pointers amie...well if I can get off my computer for a moment. :o I work on computers, play on computers and school on computers. Worst of all I never gain weight no matter how much I eat. It's a bit hard for me to get motivated to work out sometimes.

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Please, gawd, no. I have visions of the 80s in my head.

ROFL Only someone who lived in the 80's will appreciate that. I'm 40 so I'm there with you Linus and I rolled. Although I do remember a certain "Miami Vice" jacket I owned once....but thats another story.

Excercise.

Increase the size of your deltoids to give your shoulders width.

Testosterone will broadedn then some actually, but for the rest excercise.

And the one Amie is describing is the ultimate one for the delts ;) -dumbbells do go quite a long way.

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yeh that exercise hurts, im gona try and do weights ever night before bed now!

get into a routine

and just like zabrak, i cant get fat and can eat what i want, so i get lazy, but that dont last forever so i need to get working!

feel free to remind us!

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The stuff about the 80s referes to padded shoulder jackets etc I think, which I have worn before and don't look realistic at all. Shoulder and upper arm exersizes sound like the way to go...

Hrm. Wrists face up or down? >_> Or does it not matter? XD

Having tested them both out before, I would say by sensation that wrists down is your best bet.

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Stand up, and when you have like a five pounder on each side, elavate 'em as high as you can then down again in a slow motion.
...May want to start at 2lbs. It sounds low but trust me: it HURTS! ...

So the guys at the gym weren't kidding when they said I had a lot of upper body strength.

Sorry, five pounds seems really light to me. But, yeah. If you're not used to this stuff, you might want to start lighter.

ROFL Only someone who lived in the 80's will appreciate that.

Or someone whos seen their parents high school photos... Dear lord, what were they thinking?

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Guest praisedbeherhooves
Well, I was wondering. Underworks makes shorts thingies to hide the hips, and shirts to compress the chest, and mango, and a few others make packers, and STP devices. But is there something for the shoulders? Mens shoulders are usually longer than their hips, while our bodies the hips are bigger, or about the same length as the shoulders. (It all depends)

Okay I look forward to reading everyone's responses. :)

If you wear a long sleeve button up shirt over a t-shirt you will make your shoulders look broader and you'll look pretty class.

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Guest ramoneskid

I would like to say that sometimes we get wrapped up in what is 'normal'.

I was at a fast food establishment one day and the cashier handed me my change and said. "thank-you, sir." When she noticed my obvious chest, she had a strange look on her face and said, "I'm sorry, ma'am?" As she stepped back, she was so confused. I simply ask her if it mattered and laughed. She laughed and said, "No sir. I guess it doesn't!"

I tell that story to say that we all have to decide what is best for us, BUT it doesn't at all change who we are. The beauty of life is seeing and appreciating the uniqueness of ourself and others. A simple car accident can leave you disfigured, but it wouldn't mean that you suddenly become ugly. I guess I just want you to see your beauty and strengths and be careful not to get caught up in every small detail. Likewise, do whatever you want because it is your life and your call!

Hey man, I really appreciate what you said here. Living in Hershey so long has made my conscience terribly paranoid (fortunately I'm moving to OR soon, yay!) about my state of affairs, and although I know I shouldn't, I often get very caught up on the small details of my habits and appearance (things that aren't really part of who I am). Thanks for reminding me, it's nice to at least hear someone else besides the voices in my head tell me that, even if it's through text on the internet.

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Guest praisedbeherhooves

Just one tip I found works: wear suit jackets over casual shirts. It looks really cool. It looks rather hipster-ish, but awesome. It also makes your shoulders look far broader. If you have a very flat chest, horizontal stripes will help broaden the chest horizontally.

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Just got a suit jacket today. And it does broaden the shoulders.

I take my hikes with wrist weights and I can see some difference fairly quickly. Swinging my arms with them on does build up shoulder muscle. I'll be swimming daily again soon and that really makes a difference.

Johnny

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