Yet Another School "Controversy"

[Carolyn Marie]

http://abclocal.go.com/kabc/story?section=news/local/los_angeles&id=9268350

A single elementary school student is going to cause "chaos."

*sigh*

Carolyn Marie

[VickySGV]

Sorry Carolyn, it is not a single transgender child causing the chaos, it is a group of ignorant parents that will do that, whether the child is within a 90 mile radius of the school or district or not!!

I have a 9 year old CIS male grandson who told a friend at school that all he cared about if a Trans* boy was on campus was that the boy could play soccer like a boy!! The things that get home to parents!!

The emphasis on gender is his even without knowing the term "cis"!!

[Guest KimberlyF]

I wonder how much time the families had to adjust to the info and how things were worded?

When people feel forced, they're much more likely to push back.

The author, for example, is taking her time getting use to the AP style guide, but if she were called out for it, she may turn resentful?

[Guest Carla_Davis]

I agree with Vicky "it is a group of ignorant parents that will do that, whether the child is within a 90 mile radius of the school or district or not!! "

As a former teacher, I feel the best time to teach children about Acceptance and Tolerance is when they are young.

Children are not born bias or discriminatory, they learn it from their parents.

I feel that few of the children had any concern about this issue, it is all about narrow-minded and ignorant parents.

Hugs,

Carla

[Guest KimberlyF]

Children are not born bias or discriminatory, they learn it from their parents.

I feel that few of the children had any concern about this issue, it is all about narrow-minded and ignorant parents.

Hugs,

Carla

So then if any of our own children don't accept us, they must have of course learned that behavior from us, right?

[Ravin]

From us, and their other parents, and after a certain age (that applies less when talking about elementary kids), their peers.

I for one work hard to make sure my kids DO NOT pick up such attitudes. And that was true before my trans issues came to the fore in my life. It is unfortunately not true of a whole lot of people. Taking your kids out of school because "you don't want to deal with" one kid who maybe goes to their school socially transitioning is idiotic overreaction.

Any inappropriate behavior on the part of the transitioned child would, presumably, be handled just like inappropriate behavior by any OTHER child would be. It isn't a crisis. It's ridiculous to have such a brouhaha over ONE child.

[Guest LizMarie]

You can raise your children one way but when they become adults they can go somewhere else entirely. If you've done the best you can, then the fault isn't yours.

I raised my children to be tolerant but my eldest son married into a right wing religious family. He began dating this girl seriously in high school and it didn't seem to affect him then. He chose to go to the same college as her, a private small Christian college and for the first few years he was still very tolerant of GLBT people. But by his senior year even his friends were noticing changes in him. After he finished school and was married, those changes became more and more visible, more and more reactionary, and less and less tolerant of differences in others.

I know that I didn't raise him that way but that's how he is as an adult so I just have to accept that, including that he refuses to allow me to see my grandchildren by him.

There are places other than the home where intolerance can be learned but it seems most often that the home environment gives the greatest effect, at least when they are young. Their later experiences may change them yet again but once they are adults, there's little we can do but try to gently guide, and that assumes they will even respect or listen to us, which my son clearly does neither.

[Guest Jenn348]

Sorry Carolyn, it is not a single transgender child causing the chaos, it is a group of ignorant parents that will do that, whether the child is within a 90 mile radius of the school or district or not!!

I have a 9 year old CIS male grandson who told a friend at school that all he cared about if a Trans* boy was on campus was that the boy could play soccer like a boy!! The things that get home to parents!!

The emphasis on gender is his even without knowing the term "cis"!!

Definitely. Kids are fine with trans issues until some idiot they trust tells them it's not OK to be transgender.